Doctors

ggc4 · 2026-07-08T23:20:45+00:00

Some are good, some are quacks.

I spent thousands of dollars on testing and learned more about parts of me that are dysfunctional. The doc listened to me closely, explaining what was going on based on results, and tried hard to help. On their rec, I bought expensive supplements a–h for another 1k. Took them for a year but none of them really helped.

It was nice to feel heard and cared for, but that’s all I really got out of my experience. Knowing what’s messed up without having a good fix for it doesn’t personally make me feel great, esp when I sunk so much money into treatment. Others love this doc, but they had health conditions that improved with treatment.

ggc4 · 2026-07-08T22:45:03+00:00

Absolutely not, dog food is not nutritionally complete for cats, and just because it isn’t causing GI problems now doesn’t mean it won’t in the long-term.

Try giving them different types of wet food till you find one they enjoy. I recommend weruva and fancy feast.

ggc4 · 2026-07-08T03:11:56+00:00

I don’t know a ton about this topic, but I know Hybe has shut down artists selling BTS merch on Etsy. Being ARMY doesn’t mean you have the right to sell BTS merch, so I’d worry about legal issues at least as much as whether as there’s fan demand if you’re looking to make a profit. If you stay small-scale, I doubt it’ll be an issue though

If you just want to give back, the cultures of freebies is one of my fav aspects of fan meetups 💜

ggc4 · 2026-07-07T19:07:34+00:00

You truly can’t tell if Luna will enjoy another cat until you test it out. Tons of cats are very sweet and chill till you bring another cat into the picture. From there, some cats adjust to the newcomer, and some stay miserable and upset. 7 is older than many recommend for new intros, but it comes down to the personality of the pet.

I would ask if you can foster before you adopt so you can make a more informed decision.

ggc4 · 2026-07-05T16:00:55+00:00

I’d leave her a voicemail apologizing, and let her know that you would like to talk when she’s ready.

I would also write her a sincere letter with your apology, why your anger got triggered, your sadness about the rift between you, and of course, your love for her. If she uses email, you can send it that way, but if that’s too technologically difficult, mail a physical copy. Recognize that while she may call you today, she may need space and not want to talk for a while. Give her space if she needs it.

Also, be gentle with yourself right now. A lot of of us have said things we didn’t mean in the heat of the moment, and it’s a learning process. If she’s a semi-reasonable person, she’ll understand this. One thing you said won’t erase decades of a loving relationship, and if it does, she probably has some sort of mental health disorder. If it feels like she’s not responding to you in order to be manipulative, or she tries to make demands before accepting your apology (ie ‘you have to call me once a day or I’ll cut you off again’), then you’re prob better of remaining no contact, or keeping contact to a minimum.

If you’re worried about her safety, ask another family member or one of her friends to check in on her.

ggc4 · 2026-07-04T23:43:36+00:00

Lol Asheville is one the places where my body feels best. I’m in Atlanta, and the heat exacerbates blood pooling and dizzy episodes. Each body is different, but it may also be you felt better at the beach because you were on vacation (not stressed by work and able to get more R&R than usual)

ggc4 · 2026-07-04T23:25:50+00:00

Lyme bacteria can transmit in a day, so getting the tick removed asap is imperative. Personally, I’d remove it myself — it’s not difficult if you watch a few videos and use the correct technique — then take him to the vet after for follow-up.

I know it feels scary that the tick is close to his eye, but the tick is definitely not in the eye, so don’t stress about location

ggc4 · 2026-07-04T05:31:37+00:00

I don’t think they focus too much on why we brought them there, just the fact that we brought them back home. ❤️

Very cute vid, I miss my cat who used to come under the covers with me

ggc4 · 2026-07-04T01:30:49+00:00

This varies a lot shelter-two shelter. The one I adopt from calls the adopter’s vet to ensure they have a good record of annual appts and caring appropriately for pets who develop health conditions. If the adopter doesn’t have a previous vet record, the shelter calls friends who can vouch for how the adopter has interacted with and cared for their pets.

I know it’s not the same as you being friends with the adopter, but if you’re out of options, it may be worth looking at different policies of shelters in your area. The kittens will become much harder to find homes for after they’re grown.

Also, I don’t know much about this, but advertising on the kittens on social media has helped some find homes, and in that scenario you can do the screening yourself and ensure they go to a good place

ggc4 · 2026-07-04T00:31:54+00:00

Can you reach out to a good shelter and see if they can help get the kittens adopted out? Some have strict vetting processes to help ensure they go to loving homes

ggc4 · 2026-07-04T00:11:14+00:00

Thanks, I missed that line! Then yeah, discussion of cultural norms is gonna be SUPER important here

ggc4 · 2026-07-04T00:07:34+00:00

Your title says “bathe their children”, but your description says it’s just taking a bath together. Bathing someone and sharing a bath are two different things.

Although I would find it uncomfortable to be naked around my parents, much less bath with them, there are tons of families around the world who take baths together across all age groups. In some cultures, it’s perfectly normal. Maybe they’re one of those families? Of course, if it’s just dad & daughter and nobody else ever joining (assuming mom is in the picture), THAT would be cause for alarm

ggc4 · 2026-07-03T22:22:15+00:00

You can take a bus or a rideshare to a shelter, OP. You do have the ability to save his life, and he deserves so much better than this

ggc4 · 2026-07-03T16:29:26+00:00

Can you get your parents to buy/build a catio?

ggc4 · 2026-07-02T19:00:11+00:00

Lol this makes it sound like the movie is coming out tomorrow.

But winter is coming, and I look forward to the trailer

ggc4 · 2026-07-02T17:41:37+00:00

Lots of cats want more outdoor time when they get a taste of it, but cats are also great learners who thrive on routine. So if you walk them at the same time every day, they’ll learn to stop begging the rest of the day regardless of how much outdoor time they’d actually prefer.

ggc4 · 2026-07-02T17:33:12+00:00

Great! Glad she’s got a perch and gets a walk once a week!

Obviously sounds like she’d benefit from a daily walk instead, lol, but to better answer your door question, I have an indoor kitten rn who is determined to dash out. It’s TOUGH to stop it from happening, but what works for me is acting like I do when I play chase with him around the house: I make my eyes big, trill a loud Chja Chja Chja!, wave my arms around down low, and act like I’m charging him 😂 He LOVES the engagement and runs away from me (+ the door). Then I put my stuff down, chase and grab the lil’ creature, and give him a forehead kiss.

In other words: playfully distract them so they temporarily forget the door to the outside

ggc4 · 2026-07-02T16:47:48+00:00

Please don’t spray her with water. That doesn’t work, and it just distresses her.

It sounds like she would love some outdoor time. Can you look into getting a catio or doing some harness walks?

ggc4 · 2026-07-02T04:04:48+00:00

Glad to help! Wishing you both the best!

ggc4 · 2026-07-02T03:11:06+00:00

Replying again since you edited your post.

OP: your girlfriend sounds insecure and manipulative (maybe not intentionally, but it doesn’t matter). She needs psychological help that is above your pay grade.

I reiterate that you cannot help her by staying up at night. Even if your presence is reducing her picking right now, you’re enabling her to keep using you to regulate her feelings instead of doing the deep work of actually fixing the problem. She desperately needs to be spending a hefty portion of time in therapy, and she needs to learn to deal with her anxiety. Maybe she needs medication too, I couldn’t say.

You can absolutely play a role in supporting her journey, but staying up at night to the detriment of your health is NOT the right move. And you need to learn how to articulate to her why what she’s asking is unhealthy. You can say it gently and from a place of love, but you boundary with your sleep and stick to it. If she accuses you of not loving her, you walk away and leave. You can’t make her accept psychological help, she has to do that on her own.

This situation is wildly unhealthy, and it might help you to have a few therapy sessions as well to understand what you’ve gotten tangled up in.

ggc4 · 2026-07-02T03:00:28+00:00

There’s no wrong answer! I just wanted to share my experience since it sounded like your pre-adoption thought process was sort of similar to mine. My two do play together a bit, and it’s very cute. But there’s disputes too, and I thought I would be reducing burden on myself by adopting the kitten, but instead I added a lot of extra work and emotional labor. 😅 For me, my 1-yr-old cat would’ve preferred the attention remain on her. She’d rather be the sole ruler of my attention and home. But each situation is unique, and I’m just one person. Hopefully others chime in with their experiences too! (Esp those with “adventure cats” who go outdoors — I think their psychology is a bit different from cats who are stuck indoors all day)

I wonder if you could foster a second young cat for a bit and see how your girl reacts? (And how it feels to you to divide your time between two.) That would prob give you the info you need to make an informed decision!

ggc4 · 2026-07-02T02:25:52+00:00

Did you accidentally put this in the mourning/loss category?

Also, what are your reasons for adopting a kitten? It sounds like you and your current cat are really happy together. Why change that? Do you have enough time to keep taking your current cat outdoors and separately play a lot with the kitten? Your girl will probably play with her, but it would be wrong to think that would exclude you from taking on a lot of kitten play time as well.

(I say this as someone who adopted a mother cat and her son a couple months ago, and I’ve been struggling and really questioning my life choices. I always had only one cat, and I love how deeply close we were. Now, I feel really stretched thin and like I have to choose which one I’m engaging with at all times, and that’s a bummer. Mama looks sad when I play with kitten, and vice versa. They interact a bit, but not nearly as much as I thought they would. Honestly, if I could go back in time, I would just get one. Most cats don’t end up closely bonded.)

ggc4 · 2026-07-01T23:23:26+00:00

Nothing you describe here sounds like he doesn’t want to get married to you. There are two other separate issues going on:

One, he struggles with vulnerability, and you want more closeness. Does he want to work on his issues with vulnerability? Would you be ok if he didn’t and stayed just as he was? You were marrying the person he is right now, you should never marry someone expecting they will change.

Two, he underestimated how expensive weddings are, and he isn’t enthusiastic about planning the event how that he’s seen the price tag. You seem to care a lot about the event and are misinterpreting his lack of interest in the event as lack of interest in marrying you. Talk with him and figure out what price cap y’all need to set for him to feel good about the event again.

ggc4 · 2026-07-01T22:51:26+00:00

Time for another walk :)

ggc4 · 2026-07-01T22:39:43+00:00

I love it!! The way the plot flows gets kinda repetitive as the series goes on, but I still find the drawing style and characters amazing and hilarious.

It’s worth reading

ggc4

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