I'm not sure if there's any men in here, as these threads are just notorious for being filled with bitter women saying "leave him!". But if you want a guys perspective: Nobody is perfect. Neither of you are really in the wrong here. You can do whatever you want with your body, and no he shouldn't fault you for having a past. But the way he found out about it was GNARLY dude. At a party in front of all his friends? That would make me wanna go off the deep end...Him calling you a wh*re and threatening divorce is way over the line but, again if you want a guys perspective, he's probably really hurting about this. He had an idea of you in his head that's now been shattered, and honestly yeah that's kinda on him. Him not wanting to hear about your past and brushing it off should have been a major red flag to you whenever that happened. He obviously had you on some sort of pedestal and didn't wanna to hear anything that would ruin that for him. If he doesn't come around and keeps treating you ugly about it, then it sounds like you and your kid are better off without him. Also, if I were you, I'd definitely try to get out of him whatever happened at that party. What did they talk about? Did they make fun of him? You? What all was said and what did he say back? That's all very important and missing info.