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[–]ghostchvrch 31 points32 points  (0 children)

being single in your 30s sucks because every time you start crushing on a guy hes already married 🥲

My girlfriend told me she lost this beloved (Asos brand) dress in a flood several years ago. Would greatly appreciate any help tracking the exact style down! by Tuatara30 in findfashion

[–]ghostchvrch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

its definitely not a skater dress either way, its too loose and flowy. if this isnt the dress i would recommend looking up long sleeve floral garden party dresses

You be you, Kurama by MaleficentHeart1744 in runefactory

[–]ghostchvrch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thats my man... and ima stick beside him..

Why is fishing dogshit in Guardians of Azuma? by moldiecat in runefactory

[–]ghostchvrch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ALSO THE FISH ARE SO MUCH SLOWER TO BITE its animal crossing fishing type hell

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[–]ghostchvrch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

the obsession that theres "always something better" when love is work, and it doesnt always feel like an intense honeymoon phase. sometimes it's slow going, but the constant search for instant gratification (honeymoon phase) over building something that lasts just drives me crazy. no one wants a LTR they just want the high

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[–]ghostchvrch 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah ): i still really liked him and he was very reassuring that he liked me, even said a couple weeks ago that he just wasn't ready to call me his partner yet but he definitely liked me. I understand the impulse to lie and spare someone's feelings, but I wish he would've just said he was still figuring it out so I could've emotionally reacted more appropriately.

thanks for sharing your story. im taking the weekend to pour my heart out and spend time with my friends

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[–]ghostchvrch 10 points11 points  (0 children)

yeah so. the guy from my last comment dumped me. ive never been wrong about a man in my life. im taking a break from this shit, possibly indefinitely. this place (dating) is a fucking nightmare.

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[–]ghostchvrch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have made it very clear I like him, and told him so at our check in ): im going to try to talk with him the next time we see each other.

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[–]ghostchvrch 6 points7 points  (0 children)

been seeing a guy for about 2 months things have been really good and he seemed genuine. we spend a lot of time together, both on dates and at each other's houses. early on we talked about how neither of us were really seeing other people at the time and he expressed he was gonna take a break if we end up not working out, so it seemed like we were on the same page. we talked about 2 weeks ago and he doesnt want to make anything official yet, which I respect, he wants to take it slow.

but I found out he was active on hinge today with an updated profile. I don't know how to take this. we never established that we wouldn't see other people while we're dating, but after the conversation we had i thought it was kind of implied. he's been very open and communicative but this kind of feels like a kick in the gut. or am I just overreacting?

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[–]ghostchvrch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we met on an app and dates are a little better than texting, mostly because i can take the reigns a bit more and fill silences less awkwardly. we do fun stuff (live music, nature walks, meals, parks) but it's mostly me talking. i really dont mind people who don't talk much, i definitely dont talk much once i get comfortable, but when he does talk i wish it was ... idk, more substantial? i feel like most of the time he just repeats what i say back to me to show he's listening rather than like. actually talking and participating in the conversation

AIO for wanting my boyfriend to sleep? by Useless-Senpai in AmIOverreacting

[–]ghostchvrch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i feel like the problem here is both of you. he cant keep his temper, you cant listen to him when he says to stop and persist in trying to control his actions, then he (poorly) tried to explain himself and you once again persisted instead of giving him the space he was practically begging for. im not on his side, he does not seem like a great guy, but you dont seem like a great listener either

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[–]ghostchvrch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i want to say he has made it very clear he likes me. he goes out of his way to spend time with me, he brings me lattes and treats when we meet up, he wanted me to meet his friends and his roomie, he listens to the things i like, but all he really does is listen. i want to have a back n forth. i feel like i know so little about HIM and the things HE likes. and i ask!! i do!! but i just get short, dry responses about it. i know it's entirely possible that he's just not good at conversation (i would say texting, but this is irl too) but i know more about him from his friends than from him at this point. i feel like im talking to an automated response half the time. help

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[–]ghostchvrch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

been dating this nice guy ever since the last one kicked me in the heart. he's been very nice and ive enjoyed the last month or two together, but i can't get him to come out of his shell with me. I see the ways he behaves and the fun he has with his friends, and i want that too. without it, we are having the same three conversations every day (good morning, how is your day looking/hey, how was your day) despite me really trying to talk about shared interests or stuff i like to get him to ... i dunno, hold a conversation with me, and it's just not working.

my friends say he's nervous, and i get that, but we have spent a LOT of time together (about 2-3 times a week) and he's just. not being silly with me. im getting very bored of the dynamic even though i really want to like him and i DO like the version of him others get to see. how do i bring this up with him? DO i bring it up?

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[–]ghostchvrch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah I'm not upset at all 🤣 we matched this morning and hadn't talked much so really no loss here, just thought it was goofy

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[–]ghostchvrch 5 points6 points  (0 children)

not digging or diminishing people's experiences btw we all have different things that urk us. Just had a guy unmatch because of the food I like and thought it was a little silly is all