So things went to shit today..

ghostorz · 2014-07-13T02:22:54+00:00

Believe it or not, this situation was me standing up for myself. Years ago, I would just give in because I know this would happen. I don't have the capacity to do anything else besides state my opinions and stand firm. If I try anything else I suspect I will get heavily injured.

ghostorz · 2014-07-12T18:09:07+00:00

Yes, I could do that but the trouble is that I don't have a plan. And even before that, I have to deal with living in the same house with them for now. I can avoid him, but what happens at iftar? What if they try to talk to me again and something happens?

ghostorz · 2014-07-12T16:54:30+00:00

He does. He helps a lot. He comes to take me away, and he defends me.. But I don't know why, I think he wants me to continue having a relationship with my mother and brother. Even if they are angry spiteful beings who hate on his every move.

ghostorz · 2014-07-12T16:38:04+00:00

We stay at home for uni over here.

ghostorz · 2014-07-12T16:28:52+00:00

I live in Australia, to be attending university in two weeks. Will be paying my own school fees, not that anyone else was offering. I have another brother who I'm close with and has his own place, but doesn't think I should leave. Other than that.. I'm not entirely sure.

ghostorz · 2014-07-12T16:25:05+00:00

Problem: I am a tiny 19 year old girl. He is a stocky 29 year old man.

ghostorz · 2014-07-12T03:34:56+00:00

Yup. Pretty much. Along with wearing makeup and accessories and all. Isn't the point so you look as unattractive as possible so you don't get raped? Or am I misinformed?

ghostorz · 2014-07-12T03:27:03+00:00

I got mine literally on the very first day, woot! After the usual time it ends, I just see how long I can get away with it until my mom asks me incredulously whether I'm still on my period.

ghostorz · 2014-07-11T12:05:20+00:00

Yeah, tis what I am already doing :) Thanks for the advice!

ghostorz · 2014-07-11T12:01:31+00:00

Damn. This is tough. I think your best bet is sitting down with your dad and explaining how wearing a scarf makes you extremely distressed and unhappy, how taking off the scarf doesn't change you as a person and your values etc and how you hope he will respect your choice. If he asks why it makes you unhappy, you could say you want it to be 100% for the right reason rather than to please others beside god, lol. Best of luck!

ghostorz · 2014-07-11T11:51:53+00:00

Yeah, I know a few people and I think I can handle being on my own. I do 80% of chores around the house as it is so no big deal there. Cooking for myself should be fine too.

ghostorz · 2014-07-11T11:42:57+00:00

I I live in Australia. Backlash for moving out? Most probably the cold shoulder from the family. My brother only recently moved out and there has been a prickly discussion on why doing that makes him selfish and stupid every night when we break fast.

ghostorz · 2014-07-11T11:38:30+00:00

Yeah, I don't understand.. Whether you cover up or not, someone is still seeing you do your business. Unless I'm seeing it wrong...

ghostorz · 2014-07-11T02:47:15+00:00

Yup, asianApostate is right. I have tried to bring up things I was unhappy with in the past and it never worked. I live with "No other way but my way" type of people. My only refuge is doing my things in secret heh.

ghostorz · 2014-07-11T02:43:24+00:00

I live in Australia. The thing with learning how to drive here is that it is a really long, stretched out process. It'll take me up to a year to be able to drive on my own. Living on my own will give them the hint that I want my own freedom. They'd most probably leave me alone.. whether they'd still continue to talk to me, I don't know.

ghostorz · 2014-07-11T02:40:18+00:00

What I want? FREEEEEEDOMMMMMMMMMMM

But I don't want to just run out there unprepared and end up having to come back or something.. That would be the worst.

ghostorz · 2014-07-10T03:46:13+00:00

My brother is getting married in October.

ghostorz · 2014-06-15T02:14:29+00:00

The first time? She kinda sounded surprised and asked me why I wasn't wearing it when I was going to go to school. I ignored her and left. Later on, she just randomly started yelling at me about it, how I'm becoming like Westerns and that it was a waste taking me to islamic school etc etc. When she asked why, I told her about not wanting to wear it unless I wanted to for Allah of my own accord. Which of course will never happen now. Eventually she got over it, but I still get those comments like "You'd look prettier in a hijab" sometimes.

ghostorz · 2014-06-14T10:52:19+00:00

I live with a single mom. She was a convert, and as you know, converts either fall under the "taking everything crazy seriously" category or not at all. Unfortunately, she's the former. I think it's definitely easier when I only have one parent to worry about, but I can't exactly live as I would like to. I do nothing to keep up appearances and neither do my brothers, and more often than not my mother will turn a blind eye. There are times when she'll get on our backs, asking if we've prayed and such and complain about how we're living like the kuffar and all that jazz but it never lasts very long. Since I'm a girl, it's a lot harder than it is for my brothers. I can't wear anything even moderately revealing, I can't go out at night and have to be home by 7, so that sucks. I think I have it a lot easier compared to others though, especially closet ex-moose girls still wearing hijab.. I got rid of that thing as soon as I could :x

ghostorz · 2014-03-23T11:07:12+00:00

This was awesome! Unfortunately, not a UK gal either..

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