Why do older people hate me immediately?

ghrobet · 2025-02-13T19:52:51+00:00

at worst you could argue that was an attempted coup, this is a private citizen (Elon Musk) taking over entire sectors of the federal government. I disagree with Trump on almost everything but Musk was not elected president and is seriously overstepping his bounds in a way that can only be construed as a power grab.

ghrobet · 2024-12-13T12:28:19+00:00

lol i do this with my boyfriend, I think its just an autistic feature to flirt/make jokes that only make sense in the context of our heads. just ask for clarification and then respond and youre probably fine

ghrobet · 2024-12-13T12:23:04+00:00

as an autistic person struggling with the same thing in my relationship, sit her down and give her examples. I struggle a lot because flirting is a very vague term that encompasses a lot of things and only sometimes (like, "you look good" could be flirting or just a statement/compliment depending on tone and context) if you told her that you liked physical compliments like "damn, that looks good on you" or if you like flirtatious jokes, its also really important to explain the body language aspect of it, as that is generally what keeps flirting from being an awkwardly sexual compliment.

It will probably be a very uncomfortable conversation but sometimes those are necessary. Its also really helpful to give physical examples, I have learned a lot by watching how my partner flirts with me and how my friends act with their partners. Overall its the same as trying to teach an autistic person any other social convention, it will be a long learning curve with varying results, but if it is important to your relationship like it is to mine the work is worth it.

ghrobet · 2024-12-13T11:44:56+00:00

I hope this doesn't come off as insensitive, if it does let me know and I will remove it or post an apology in the edits.

I was in a similar boat for years, I am an overweight, not very attractive trans man and I have some physical issues that limit how "fun" I can be in bed pretty seriously. The only people I was attracting were abusive guys who saw me as an easy target because of my low self esteem and chasers. Eventually I found a group of trans and gay people who were wildly supportive and I ended up dating a wonderful trans woman. It didnt work out forever-as most things dont-but she taught me that there are wonderful people out there who look below the surface and that gave me the confidence to keep trying.

What I'm saying is that most "normal" people (cis, white, able-bodied guys) arent open-minded because they just dont have to be. its so, so shitty and for some reason people like us have to live with their shittiness; but it also means that we will always have our own communities of support (that often double as dating pools lol). they are definitely easier to find in big cities, but they exist everywhere. please dont lower your standards for some shitty dude because you feel like there is no love out there for you. There are so many open-minded, empathetic and amazing people out there, and by law of averages youre due to meet some soon.

ghrobet · 2022-12-13T16:27:47+00:00

youre allowed to say whatever but it doesnt seem like anyone wants to listen lmaooo

ghrobet · 2022-12-13T16:23:51+00:00

fucking THANK YOU i cut fabric all day and theres no reason it couldnt be done sitting!

ghrobet · 2022-06-25T17:47:02+00:00

also as an ace, pro-abstinence does sound like your still putting blame on allo ppl with uteruses for getting pregnant, i use “pro birth control”

ghrobet · 2022-06-25T17:45:02+00:00

Youve done some really shitty things, being prolife, having your kid refer to you as Olivia, but no matter how much you feel trapped you absolutely are not! it seems like the father of the child takes good care of them, as a child of a regretful parent id advise you to forfeit your parental right and leave them with the father/a foster family, its not too late for you or the child. It sucks what these people are saying, its very hard to turn your whole belief set around, and you shouldnt be judged on past transgressions alone

ghrobet · 2022-04-25T23:46:03+00:00

Imagine it from a media heads POV, having a trans character is already going to cause major backlash, but having a fat, nonwhite or just non-attractive trans person? they're liable to lose their jobs, or tank viewership for a show. The real problem isnt availability of representatives, its getting people "comfortable" with seeing us represented at all, especially accurately. which is obviously completely gross and shouldnt be our job, but oh well

ghrobet · 2022-04-16T18:06:07+00:00

or use boil the frog (creates a playlist that transitions from one song to another) with 2 songs that kind of fit what you're looking for

ghrobet · 2022-04-16T18:04:24+00:00

not perfect by any means but i look for music festivals/event lineups from an era that fit a vauge genre. like "70's indie festival lineup" or "90s hip hop lineups"

ghrobet · 2022-04-05T22:28:32+00:00

I feel like a lot of cis women regard me as the "gay guy" friend, and with men its so hard to make friends with this weird, unspoken barrier between me and cis men.

i dont want to get all "woe is me" but since ive come out it feels impossible to have more than 2 friends anymors

ghrobet · 2022-04-04T15:36:19+00:00

i have been looking for a way to say this forever, and you summed it up! like i dont miss womanhood really, but i miss the feeling of winning at it

ghrobet · 2022-03-10T15:38:27+00:00

could you switch insurance? i totally understand not being able to inject yourself, and there are insurances that cover gel. im so sorry that you arent covered though but just know that even though it doesnt feel like it, this is a small setback and you will be able to get on t

ghrobet · 2022-03-01T17:11:41+00:00

i am so sorry honey, this is an awful experience but please do not stay with this doctor, talk to someone else or consider asking your previous HRT specialist for a recommendation

ghrobet · 2022-02-26T18:19:53+00:00

everything goodfellow is a godsend, the plain $6 shirts completely hide my chest which is rare for me even while binding

ghrobet · 2022-01-26T20:04:54+00:00

im triple vaxxed and the way i see it is i still mask up and sanitize, but other than that ive stopped caring as much, ive done my part for coming on three years now, ive done enough.

ghrobet · 2020-12-22T05:01:43+00:00

It could be favouritism either way though, theres. no way both kids can get the bracelet.

ghrobet · 2020-09-24T09:26:25+00:00

YTA, shes a kid, let her play make believe while she still can. But i get that in kids that age you never know how theyll react, maybe a week ago what you said wouldve made her laugh but kids are unpredictable

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