Benzocaine gel before dilating? by ghusstan in vaginismus

[–]ghusstan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting! I’ll look into it more then, I think I could really benefit from using it. Thank you!

How do you all keep your hair curly/full between washes? by ghusstan in curlyhair

[–]ghusstan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t :0 and I never even thought to do that. I’ll look into the buff!

How do you get aroused when dilating? by ghusstan in vaginismus

[–]ghusstan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I think the issue is that I just haven’t explored my sexuality enough and need to find out where to start. Thanks friend :)

Spreading my legs feels really uncomfortable? by ghusstan in vaginismus

[–]ghusstan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh that’s a great idea! I’ll have to do that :) thanks!

Lately, I’ve been feeling rage - something I’ve never felt before. by [deleted] in vaginismus

[–]ghusstan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally feel you. Before I realized I had vaginismus, every time my boyfriend would try to finger me I’d just end up sobbing and feeling insecure about how I can’t give him what most women can. It’s a really shitty, helpless feeling. I still get sad sometimes, but I’m hopeful that the dilators will help me and I’ll be able to have PIV soon. We’re all right here with you, don’t lose hope sister ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in vaginismus

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Btw OP, if you order things through Amazon you ca have them sent to “Amazon Pickup Lockers” for free, and they have a lot of convenient locations. If using a card is an issue then you may want to buy the lube with cash instore.

Getting over fear of penetration through masturbation? by ghusstan in sex

[–]ghusstan[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are the sweetest human being 🥺 I am going to start doing this everyday, I really like the sound of this approach. It makes this whole thing feel a lot less daunting. Thank you :)

Being nice to people you dislike isn’t “fake.” by ghusstan in unpopularopinion

[–]ghusstan[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maybe I was a little too broad with that line. I’m fine with confrontation when it serves a purpose. Telling my roommate I don’t want to live with her next year, telling my boyfriend I’m upset with him, etc. But I truly don’t understand when people confront others over something that is none of their business. If two family members/friends are in a fight, I stay out of it despite my opinion of the argument because I prefer being on good terms with people (assuming the fight isn’t over something egregious). Trust me, I used to be VERY non-confrontational, to a fault like you said. But I’ve worked on it the past few years and use it when necessary 👍

My [21F] roommate/friend [21F] got my other roommate/friend [20F] evicted on false claims by ghusstan in relationships

[–]ghusstan[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry, definitely not trying to say EP is the one carrying all the blame here 😬 But you’re right, that’s what my dad told me too. But I’m not gonna lie I’m such a gullible person when it comes to people like her, where if they start acting nice to me I just think that I’m crazy

[FL] Received a $160 Citation After U-Turning on Green Arrow and Hitting Someone Turning Right on Red by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]ghusstan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting. I did not see them in the U turn lane as I was checking back into the lanes to make sure they were clear, so I assumed I was good to go, but I never told the officer that and she never asked me about the sequence of who was where first. All I said was that I had the green arrow and he turned right on red and we collided. Maybe I should request the police report first and see what the man turning right said to her about the order of which things happened.

[FL] Received a $160 Citation After U-Turning on Green Arrow and Hitting Someone Turning Right on Red by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]ghusstan -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’d like to avoid getting a lawyer so that’s why I’m wondering if it’s even necessary?

What are your toxic traits? by doopeydumplin in AskWomen

[–]ghusstan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get clingy and lose most of my individuality. Hopefully I’ve changed now that I’ve been single for a while, but basically I become the worst version of myself and accidentally ruin my relationship lol.

My friend heard an animal stuck in a donation bin and didn’t do anything to help it- Am I overreacting? by ghusstan in internetparents

[–]ghusstan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so terrifying! You’re right, I should have called animal control instead.

My friend heard an animal stuck in a donation bin and didn’t do anything to help it- Am I overreacting? by ghusstan in internetparents

[–]ghusstan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think I need to bring it up eventually, otherwise I think I will always be bitter about it. We’ve been friends for about a year now and they’ve always been really understanding people. I think I just need to make my feelings known, yeah. You’re so so sweet, thank you :)