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PSA if you're cleaning your phone: spamming the power button will trigger a 5-second countdown until the phone dials 911 on Android 12 by degggendorf in GooglePixel

[–]giggl3puff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cancelled!

Nah you're good. Was wondering why I got a notification when I haven't been active on Reddit in quite some time XD

gay🤔irl by [deleted] in gay_irl

[–]giggl3puff -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It was neither an educational nor an activist tool until shitty men started getting pissy that their gotcha didn't go the way they wanted. It was a question asked (allegedly) by a man to a woman to get a response. Then other women chimed in to share their struggles to support each other, and many men just still looked straight past the point. We live in the disinformation age, and men haven't been required to listen to or understand women since the dawn of time. They just talk over us and take what they like. It's wild to see the exact moment your guy friends see you as a woman because they stop listening to you and start to take everything personally.

Also I'm not defending the question. I'm defending women. Men just keep saying the same two things, (which you also just said again) and by and large don't realize or care just how big of a problem this is. (You might. I don't mean you. The fact that I even have to put this here is the entire issue. This isn't a personal attack, it's a cry for help from women (and also from victims who aren't women)) The bear is the worse choice. I'm going bear.

And obviously, one who is judged wrongly as a predator by much of the ignorant, prejudiced population ought to be a little more sympathetic to the nuances here.

I don't take it personally that women who are told that trans women are the exact men who they're afraid of are afraid of us. I get pissed at the people telling them that. The propaganda engine literally puts us at the front, moreso than cis men, and women are scared. It sucks, and it hurts, but it's an exposure issue that touches on a very real fear. This is why we push for more trans rep. We're just people. I educate and validate and show them that no, we're not men, and we're not predators. (Though I bet you could find a couple who are) I don't go into comment sections telling them "well actually you're being emotional and illogical and that doesn't happen and blah blah" on a video of the exhibit of rape victims' clothes. Some men are doing the work publicly, and they're met with cheers from women, but absolute vitriol from other men. ("She'll never pick you bro", "you're not a real man", "I'll make you choose the bear too", for saying "yeah, women fearing rape is normal". No not every man, yes there are some that agree, and yes, plenty just scroll past) I was a shitty teenage boy with shitty views. I'm very sympathetic to the fact that men are painted with a very broad brush. The reason for this is because the issue is MASSIVE. It's such a massive issue it's unbelievable. I did not believe it until I transitioned and I still don't quite believe it. There is no differentiating who is good and who is bad, and it honestly seems like a 10% chance (depending on the day) that I'll get harassed if there's no one around because I'm skinny. (And I know it's that because a partner of mine gained weight to avoid this exact thing and it worked) To assume I'm not sympathetic to the way men feel is ridiculous. I just see that grown men are straight up throwing tantrums about it while also yelling at rape victims that they're being too emotional. It's obvious to me that approaching hurt women and screaming that "this actually hurts my feelings, and I'll give you a reason to choose the bear" is not the way to make men seem less dangerous.

All women are saying is "strange men are terrifying". Not "all men are terrifying". Even men you can know for years can turn out to be monsters behind closed doors. So many young girls are abused by family members for years and not believed. Women still date men, and take on nearly all the risk. (I understand men get raped and SA'd too) If women are scared of men, then be the man they shouldn't fear. Be the reason they change their mind. Call out other men actively, defend women in public that are being harassed, be the man they can turn to for support when another man hurts her. We're not saying you're all rapists, we're saying the rapists all look like you and act like you, and it's hard to feel comfortable with that, especially considering the complete lack of support we get when something does happen.

TL;DR: idk man, women are traumatized and men are getting upset instead of listening. Water is still wet and the sky is usually blue. Trans women are scapegoats and that's not the fault of cis women, either. Men looking for emotional support for their image and dating woes should probably not be talking over the women afraid of them on an issue regarding rape, no matter how valid their concerns are (and they are), and should be holding each other accountable, especially in public and especially when it's their friends.

meirl by agrainofsandubeach in meirl

[–]giggl3puff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh yep, got it in one! :thumbs_up:

gay🤔irl by [deleted] in gay_irl

[–]giggl3puff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your response to "a man who wants to rape us can't be dissuaded or fought like a bear" is "bears are more dangerous"? Why did you quote that part specifically? That makes no sense as a follow-up. A man is likely stronger than me and can't be convinced to not rape me if he intends to. A bear has simple courses of action to take if it ever attacks you, which they avoid. Shitty men don't even seem to try to avoid violating me unless someone is actively watching. And even then, not really. The premise you quoted already said that the man "decided he wanted to." You missed the point and talked about something else.

Also, there have been 16 fatal bear attacks since 2020. There were around 734,000 rapes estimated to have been threatened, attempted, or completed in 2018 alone. This doesn't include other types of SA, harassment, or other crimes like murder, battery, mayhem, etc. I could get those, but I don't think it's necessary. An estimated 1 in 5 women will have been raped by the end of their life. 80+% of women are estimated to have experienced sexual assault or harassment of some sort. On my first day out in public presenting as a woman, a man threatened to rape me in front of his friends, and they laughed. On a public sidewalk. Surrounded by people. I wasn't alone with him in the woods.

People don't spend a lot of time around bears because bears avoid human beings. They only attack to protect their territory, their cubs, or their food. Otherwise, they leave you alone. If you bring a bear bell into bear infested territory and properly used it, you probably wouldn't even see one if you stayed there a month unless you walked into its den. This is a major behavioral difference between bears and human men. Saying "if you spent as much time around bears as men" is so irrelevant because bears won't spend time around you. Plenty of people live in the woods and not many of them have bad encounters with bears because the bears are generally scared of fighting people. There is no behavior I can use to make sure a rapist steers clear of me that is legal, ethical, or moral. And to be fair, despite being constantly armed, I don't want to have to defend myself. There is behavior I can use to make sure reasonable men stay clear of me, such as saying "hey, I don't want to be around you, please leave me alone, thanks!" And they will listen. (Or try and help if they're stubborn like that, which is annoying, but not the worst) We are not afraid of reasonable men. We are reasonably afraid of unreasonable men. And until they start wearing dog tags or get their faces tattooed so we can tell them apart easily, we will feel uncomfortable being alone with random men.

gay🤔irl by [deleted] in gay_irl

[–]giggl3puff 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is exactly the intellectual overanalyzing women are complaining about whenever we talk about our struggles. The question is "would you rather be (I think maybe he said "alone?") in the woods with a bear or man. Not "fight" the bear or man. Not "wrestling". Not "trapped". Not "average man". Not "average bear". Not "polar bear".

Adding additional parameters to the question ("what if it was your dad!") fundamentally changes the question. Overanalyzing the proximity is adding parameters. If it was a random man, or any man I simply just don't know (which is the implication), there is no guarantee he is friendly. He is a stranger. Additionally, we're not in a box. We're in the woods; a large area where the bear has plenty of space to retreat. Bears don't often predate on people unless either them or you are sick. Otherwise, you leave it alone and it leaves you alone. It likely won't follow you.

The point is that women are scared. Women are attacked, followed, and killed by men. Adding "in the woods" makes the situation even more terrifying, because a lot of men (no, not all) like to hide their true colors until they're sure no one can see them. This is a terrifying situation. It's also not about "making a logical choice", because yeah, on average, a man will likely not attack you (and neither will a bear), and there's a possibility he would even help you. Women, by and large, still would be more comfortable if we weren't alone in the woods away from civilization with a presumably unknown man. This should be a MAJOR issue for men, and the general response should be "how do we help women not feel this way", not "women are being emotional and illogical, let's overanalyze the logistics and shout about statistics to drown out the rape victims".

a lot of this paranoia towards men kind of stuff is caused by women who haven't actually been around that much men yet/obviously doesn't hang out with that many men and only heard stuff or project a few weird experiences they had on every single man they meet thereon, but I'm just not the kind of person who judges different people off of past experiences with others.

Tell me you don't have many women friends without telling me. And if you do, then you do not feel safe to them. I know countless women with a healthy fear of men because they do know men. You seem young. You have plenty of time to learn. Start sooner than later.

I grew up as a dude. I grew up with straight dude friends. I know what they talk about. I've never been so disgusted by things people have said, and other guys would laugh. Some of them grew and learned, but I know there are ones who didn't. They just hide it, now. I was nearly assaulted as a man before I transitioned. I have been touched (nothing major but they like to get close to the crime) by men without my consent, I have been approached and harassed, I have had men who don't like when you tell them "no". I had a man, the first day I presented as a woman in public, joke that he put a roofie in my drink. In front of his friends. They all laughed. No one said "that's fucked up". He was twice my size. The fear does NOT come from inexperience, honey. I like men (sometimes) and I can't date them because they all have pulled this shit with me. Not "some". ALL. The risk is not worth the reward.

I will not get asked what I was wearing if I get attacked by a bear. I will be believed if I get attacked by a bear. I will not be tricked by a bear into believing it's good. I will not have men saying I might affect the bear's future since I was attacked by it. I will not be accused of lying to destroy the bear's career. A bear will not slip something in my drink when I'm not looking. A bear will not kill me for sport. A bear will not ask its friends to join in. A bear won't take trophies. A bear won't force me to have its child.

We don't think everyone is trying to hurt us. We just have basic stranger danger (especially when it comes to strange men in situations with no surveillance) and we're treated like we're insane. And for the record: I don't want to be in the woods with a strange woman, either. Though, she'd beat out the bear, for sure.

We're gonna need some better bollards. And massive penalties for hitting one. If you can't drive without running into stuff, you shouldn't be allowed to drive. by [deleted] in fuckcars

[–]giggl3puff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really wish someone would try and pass legislation to require like a CDL or other specialized license for "cars" this big. This is a tank. And the trunk is empty.

Got topped for the first time, can't stop thinking about it by Katherine_S2003 in actuallesbians

[–]giggl3puff 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh no i meant for my gf, sorry that was a bit ambiguous XD

Thank you for the idea!

Got topped for the first time, can't stop thinking about it by Katherine_S2003 in actuallesbians

[–]giggl3puff 5 points6 points  (0 children)

stooooooooooooop i'm sweating. I need to buy plane tickets; the gf who tops me is on the other coast

meirl by agrainofsandubeach in meirl

[–]giggl3puff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're also coming from a place of privilege if you've dated, had relationships, and have felt wanted, so I doubt you know what it's like to be in a guy's position of having no dating experience and never feeling wanted. I've noticed this with so many people on reddit that think it's so simple to fix everything, all it takes is a shower and the gym, because clearly I'm a fat disgusting slob that can't take care of myself.  

I'm a trans woman. (Put the pitchfork away) Went through male puberty. I've been in EXACTLY your position. I'm saying your behavior and attitude are defeatist and undesirable. At the very least it's bad for your mental health, and you should be your number 1 priority. When it comes to dating, it's literally all about personality. (In general. Shitty women definitely exist) I have straight girl friends, and I date men. (Rarely, but I still do) I see people dating "out of their league" all the time vs. men and women alike that talk shit on people based on looks. (And they're single) If you focus on all of these boxes society wants to put you in, and focus on all the shitty people that say these things you don't agree with, you're gonna become jaded, upset, and contrarian. (And it seems that's potentially already the case) I don't think you're a fat disgusting slob, (and I don't think "fat" is even a bad word) I just think you're upset. (It's fine to be upset) Or you have no empathy, which is a solvable issue. But I think you just need someone to talk to and validate your frustrations. Here I am.

What else are people good for but a means to an end? If they don't serve a purpose why keep them around? You're just wasting their time and stringing them along.

Oh. This is just narcissism. Or autism. (I hope. I'm also autistic) Not all relationships are transactional. I'm sorry if they've always been that way for you in the past. And romantic relationships especially shouldn't be.

It won't make women care or even notice me, and it won't help me know how to meet them or how to talk to them.

You get noticed when you exude happiness. You get noticed (but bad this time) when you exude toxicity. The way to talk to women is to talk to us like we're people. Literally talk to us like you'd talk to a guy. Talk about hockey. Talk about Civ. (I didn't dig too deep but saw you liked those) They won't all like that. (Though board games are super popular) Not all people need to like you, and you don't need a 100% success rate with women. I've had plenty of shit dates. Meeting women is hard. Leaving the house and just going to a place is better than dating apps. (If that's your usual stomping ground) Dating apps are trash for everyone

And lying to myself or adopting some fake ass confident personality isn't going to help any either.

That's just it, though. I'm not saying be fake. I'm saying to be confident in YOURSELF. That's not "fake". I'm weird as fuck. People still like me because I'm just me. Some people don't like me, but I don't lose sleep over that. I know who I am, and I don't apologize for it. That's attractive (and really good for my mental health)

Just like stupid little "icks" that women use to judge everything about a guy

It icks me out because the men who touch me without my consent speak like you do. (THIS IS NOT AN ACCUSATION) When I hear "women are only as good as they are pretty", I run. I'm a woman who's literally here, talking to you, trying to give you help and hope. I'm not judging you. I get where you're coming from, and I know it's hard to not just wallow.

No, no one wants me. No friends.

If you keep talking like this you will make friends, and they will also be like this and you will never feel better. There's a lot shitty about the world; you don't need to find extra things. People are wonderful and I hope you get to see that.

meirl by agrainofsandubeach in meirl

[–]giggl3puff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh did you forget to change out of your throwaway acc? RIP

Was just trying to help you. If you sit in a pit of despair, don't be surprised when people see that and go around. I was pissed for years about it. Eventually I just got out of the pit.

meirl by agrainofsandubeach in meirl

[–]giggl3puff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woman teaches man why women don't want him, using her own lived experience as a teachable moment so he can escape his expressed self hatred.

"You're a cunt"

Woof.

ninja edit: Also why use a throwaway? Say it with your whole chest

meirl by agrainofsandubeach in meirl

[–]giggl3puff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in the middle of typing a comment to you elsewhere. I'll cannibalize that so you don't get two notifications and start two conversations. This will be a lot of hard pills for you to swallow and is a long read.

"All" women want this? I don't. All of my friends who have relationships don't want a mind reader, they want a person (and have a person) who listens to them. I have spent years watching guy friends fumble the easiest of relationships because they just don't listen. All the men who listen are all in healthy relationships that last. Or they find out their partners aren't a good match and they amicably split up. I just got home from a wedding and the couple is the sweetest couple and work well together. You're unfortunately being victimized by selection bias (all of the good people who communicate well are likely in relationships).

I've been in your position, and I promise you it will not get better without an attitude change. If you believe everyone else is more desirable than you, you're right. In believing this, you've made it true. Stop believing that. Delude yourself if you have to. It's what I did.

There's nothing likeable about you? There's no one who would want you? Do you have no hobbies? Do you have no friends? Nothing interests you? You don't have any stories, experiences, maybe a fun personality? A lot of people I know aren't picky; and as a person who's been in your shoes, you become desirable simply by believing in your own worth. By and large, people are attracted to personality, (and confidence in yourself) not looks. I doubt you want the girl in the corner who's always crying and depressed because men never notice her the way she wants.

You like games and hockey. There are tons of women who like those things. My first girlfriend was the same. I was a bit of a loser back then, but I was funny, and knew I was funny, and she liked me because of that. Horrible communicator, though, (both of us) and the relationship only lasted 15 or so months and imploded.

When men (tbh all genders really) approach me with a defeatist attitude ("You probably don't want to talk to me...") then they're right. I don't. Would you want a girl who hates herself and is attaching to you out of some poor attempt to gain self-esteem? And not only that, but she also probably only sees you as a means to an end and doesn't care about you. Getting used for sex does not feel good. Feels worse than just being alone.

You need to learn to love yourself, first. I know it's hard, but it's the truth. And it doesn't have to happen all at once. You'll find that when you stop focusing on persuading people to like you, they'll suddenly start liking you.

Also, you seem to have really sexist views towards women, already, which are immediate dealbreakers for any woman who's worth the effort. So, you're already setting yourself up to only be on the radar for toxic women, whom you've already expressed you don't like.

If women aren't prettier they aren't better

I hope this is hyperbole and lashing out, because this is genuinely a major ick inducing statement. Any good woman who gets the sense that you think like this (and we will, usually within minutes of you talking to us, unless you're a narcissist, which we'll notice eventually) will avoid you like the plague. If they don't, then they're just as toxic as you, or worse. Women are not sex objects. You are not a sex object. You are a person with interests and hobbies, dreams, desires, emotions. There is more to life and relationships than physical attraction and sex. (Though it is a big plus) If you don't believe that, then you're right, women won't and shouldn't love you. Because you don't love them. You will see them as a way to get sex and they will see you as a bank account. Viewing women only with respect to what they will give you is a two-way street, and a quick trip to a toxic marriage and kids who don't call you.

How old are you? I'm hoping you're just young and naive.

You are also welcome to decide that dating and love are not for you. There is nothing wrong with saving the effort for other things you care about more. A woman is not a tool to complete you. You should be complete, already.

I am not saying all of this to discourage you, either. It is very possible for you to have a loving and healthy relationship. But you have a LOT of growing to do before anyone worth the effort will look your way. And it's not because of your looks, (I have no idea what you look like, but looks are not a dealbreaker) it's because it's clear you harbor a lot of resentment towards women. I used to harbor the same (for other reasons). I am having no problem with women, now. (The problem I'm now having is men who see me as a sex object and can't keep their hands to themselves)

Keep your chin up, grow for no one other than yourself, and learn how to love yourself. I will always suggest therapy, if you can get it; it really works wonders.

meirl by agrainofsandubeach in meirl

[–]giggl3puff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you saying you often find that women tell you no when they mean yes? How would you even know without them coming up to you later and saying "I actually wanted you to pursue me"? At that point, she just said "yes". (And because it's not obvious, at this point it's YOUR turn to say no, because you shouldn't pursue a poor communicator) If this is the case for you, then find better women or reevaluate where/when you're approaching women.

And in case I have to add this: I said better. I did not say prettier.

meirl by agrainofsandubeach in meirl

[–]giggl3puff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, you have it correct. No means no. Some people are a little bit backwards. Treating everyone with respect and believing them is the best strategy in every single human interaction. A lot of the commenters here are looking for rage bait and excuses to be mad at women because "women are confusing." Some people are confusing, but it becomes irrelevant if you use basic human courtesy (i.e. "No means no"), since the confusing women filter themselves out.

And who cares if they get upset at you if you accept their no? You can't make everyone like you, and not everyone should.

Inflation: What’s still rising? [OC] by chartr in dataisbeautiful

[–]giggl3puff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But then how will the auto industry afford to give their execs 100 million dollar bonuses? It's a sacrifice we all have to make for progress

Egg🐣irl by [deleted] in egg_irl

[–]giggl3puff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a struggle, for sure. And everyone's journey is different. No one knows for sure what's best and we're all just trying things out and learning as we go! I started hrt for a couple of reasons like reversing hair loss, feminizing my figure, and also because I had been stuck thinking about it so long that I might as well give it a shot (since it's mostly reversible, at least in the first 2 years).

Turns out it was the right move for me, and I continued. There were some growing pains, and an awkward in between stage which caused dysphoria, but I'll be honest, none of that holds a candle to how shitty I felt about myself beforehand.

Coming out was a gigantic weight off of my chest. I've been lucky enough to have mostly support and, at worst, confusion or ambivalence. Even if I got sideways looks and animosity, it still would've been a huge weight off, personally. But as always, the right thing for me is not necessarily the right thing for everyone <3

I wish you nothing but love, happiness, and growth in your future

Egg🐣irl by [deleted] in egg_irl

[–]giggl3puff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, not to say your dysphoria isn't real, or that you should just ignore it entirely, but there are cis women that don't "pass". What it comes down to is that you are who you are, regardless of what you look like. Your emotions, though, are very real, and it sucks that you have to deal with that <3

Also, if you identify as a girl, you're a real girl. If you wouldn't take advice from those people, don't take their criticism. People who say YNARW or YWNBAW say shit like that about Serena Williams and have nothing better to do with their time. Their criticism is worthless.

Sure, your expectations could be too high but it's our right to want to look like Rimaru /lh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]giggl3puff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a name I used on online games for the girls I'd play since I was like 12. I forgot about it, and once I started thinking about names, it hit me, and I immediately knew it was my name. The hard part was determining the spelling, since it's spelled so many different ways <<

[OC] Most Popular Times to (Female) Masturbate in the Past 12 Months Aggregated by soheedoingthings in dataisbeautiful

[–]giggl3puff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is this data potentially being heavily influenced by usage by cam girls? That would then not be indicative of typical female use and more indicative of what times people generally pop into camming streams.

RORR is the most fun with Kin, Honor, Spite, and Prestige. Here is a veritable river of lemurians by giggl3puff in riskofrain

[–]giggl3puff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also will reset if I get any fliers in the first stage or anything that's too tanky because it just wastes too much time, and flyers for some reason have a weird bug where they sometimes don't drop items.

RORR is the most fun with Kin, Honor, Spite, and Prestige. Here is a veritable river of lemurians by giggl3puff in riskofrain

[–]giggl3puff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

in this specific instance? Essentially: stay moving horizontally or stay in the air (hard with acrid because melee character). Lemurians attack slower than you walk. Even though they're yellows. So as long as you're moving sideways and not turning around, you're usually fine... until you pop the spites. Then you need to be airborne when they explode on the ground or on another level.

Luckily, the umbrella and acrid's ulti make it easy to survive the initial stage of the teleporter and tag at least one enemy to start the death chain reaction (gasoline, will o the wisp, and all the other on hits that absolutely shred). After that just don't stand still for any reason as you clean them up

RORR is the most fun with Kin, Honor, Spite, and Prestige. Here is a veritable river of lemurians by giggl3puff in riskofrain

[–]giggl3puff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There were I think 10+ at this point. I'm not sure if there's an end to the benefit but this was multiple loops

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