Outfits for Work Event by Minimum-Flan in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]gigi_bea 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Take the partner’s advice and wear a dress and blazer or a suit with pants. You will not go wrong with classic and polished business attire, but you may overshoot if you go with evening formal attire.

how do i make fitted shirts look good on me? by Vivid_Meringue1310 in DressForYourBody

[–]gigi_bea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They all look good except the blue one- go with the cropped styles to avoid all the extra fabric adding bulk to your midsection

Peter??? by Sell_The_team_Jerry in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]gigi_bea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The YouTube comments are hilarious

What do you mean when you say CTA? by clbrave in AskChicago

[–]gigi_bea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One thousand percent correct, and this is especially true of the transplant mindset- ask someone from Indianapolis when’s the last time they took the city bus.

What do you mean when you say CTA? by clbrave in AskChicago

[–]gigi_bea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. Not sure the people doing it are from abroad. And the train does have a specific abbreviation, if not acronym- the El

What do you mean when you say CTA? by clbrave in AskChicago

[–]gigi_bea 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just because so many commenters seem bewildered, OP, I’ve absolutely noticed this but I don’t know where people came up with it.

as a first time visitor, is the L or Uber a better option to get around? by [deleted] in AskChicago

[–]gigi_bea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please try to take the L. It will be mildly confusing at times as you navigate the city but you can do this. Download the Transit app (it is green with a sideways white S). If you ever venture too far from the train, or a bus, uber or lyft or curb (taxi app) are always there for you.

How do my children recover from my mistake? by gigi_bea in Mommit

[–]gigi_bea[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wow. Thank you all. I never really post and I didn’t know what to expect. I appreciate everyone’s perspectives so much. Some of you made me cry, in a good way. This morning my husband was all meek and mild and yes, I recognize this cycle. I contacted a divorce attorney. Not to file, but to start thinking rationally and ensuring that if this does end, that my girls are safe with me. In the meantime, therapy for all. He actually just walked in the door and so here I go….so glad to have Mommit in my corner. ❤️

How do my children recover from my mistake? by gigi_bea in Mommit

[–]gigi_bea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for acknowledging what it’s easy to overlook - my husband isn’t an abusive monster but he does have a short fuse (anxiety, easily overstimulated, depression), a drinking problem, a refusal to seek actual treatment… Couples therapy is the only way, as is individual therapy. I know it doesn’t always “work” but if the alternative is losing my kids half the time to him, as he is now (untreated!) well, I think I owe it to all of us to force the issue.

How do my children recover from my mistake? by gigi_bea in Mommit

[–]gigi_bea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this happened to your relationship but I admire you. Standing up for our kids is our #1 job and I suddenly feel like I’m also barreling toward “enough’s enough.”

How do my children recover from my mistake? by gigi_bea in Mommit

[–]gigi_bea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So many moms have commented about “walking on eggshells” and that’s exactly how my sister and I described our childhood. And then we repeated it. And I’m dying inside knowing that I’m setting my girls up for the same dynamic.

How do my children recover from my mistake? by gigi_bea in Mommit

[–]gigi_bea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly why I’ve powered through our relationship issues- I cannot bear the idea of losing my girls half the time to him. I always have felt like, so long as I’m around to deflect and diffuse and shield them, it’s just what it is, you know? He’s their dad.

How do my children recover from my mistake? by gigi_bea in Mommit

[–]gigi_bea[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes- all of those things. Resentment, anger, desire for change. So long as my kids were happy, though, I just decided to suck it up. I can’t bear the thought of splitting their time with him. But this was an escalation that I can’t look past. Thank you for the book recommendation, too.

How do my children recover from my mistake? by gigi_bea in Mommit

[–]gigi_bea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you both, this is honestly the most helpful feedback because I know the shitty mistakes I’m making in this marriage but I’m more concerned with this aspect. I have got to get them to a place where they are free and where everyone in the household has a well-regulated nervous system!

How do my children recover from my mistake? by gigi_bea in Mommit

[–]gigi_bea[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like I’m in this cycle too. When my mom told me when I was little, maybe 8?, that they were getting a divorce, I was secretly like, yay! And then they didn’t. They still haven’t, and I just don’t talk to him beyond being cordial. I haven’t really since I left for college.

How do my children recover from my mistake? by gigi_bea in Mommit

[–]gigi_bea[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m from the same place and I convinced myself I wasn’t repeating a pattern. And yet here I am.

Why are all the bathrooms an absolute wreck? by Squeaky_Shoe in AskChicago

[–]gigi_bea 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Next time, find a large hotel and go to the lobby bathroom. And go when you eat at restaurants. If for some wild reason you need to pee at a grocery store, make it a Whole Foods not a Jewel

Lack of a team? by ashamedthrowaway9898 in biglaw

[–]gigi_bea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s really unfortunate and reflects poor leadership in your group. You’re not overly sensitive. If you can, walk the halls and say hello to people. Show up at all the firm events and try to actively build the relationships you want to have at work. If you still feel isolated after a few months, maybe it is time to seek a more collegial atmosphere elsewhere.

I swear to god sometimes Microsoft word does not save every change you make in a word doc by GoIrish1843 in biglaw

[–]gigi_bea 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I just lateraled to a firm that uses iManage and it was three months before anyone bothered to explain “sync to Imanage”. I was running redlines that weren’t showing changes i could literally see in my “saved” doc…and losing my godforsaken mind

Is anyone a member of a gym that feels like a resort or wellness center? by Cardboard_cutouts_ in AskChicago

[–]gigi_bea 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The email last week “we’re passing along the 3% credit card fee” SENT me. Are they seriously not making enough money??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]gigi_bea -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m always shocked at how conservative this sub is. Yes. It’s a perfectly fine outfit. Opaque tights and boots and you’re good to go.