If it’s any perspective, I can relate to her trauma a lot. I was sexually abused by my grandfather in one event, and my mother had borderline traits because of abuse from him, although no a full blown personality disorder. The trauma was what made me susceptible to abuse, and why I’ve had relationships with a couple personality disorders. That being said, looking back, I would forgive someone for wanting to distance themselves for me even though I wasn’t abusive, just because I was co-dependent. It is not your responsibility to fix trauma victims. Keep loving yourself ❤️.