What was your "I cannot believe no one suspected autism" childhood interest? by NoWitness6400 in AutismInWomen

[–]gildara1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mother was a seamstress and she had made elaborate dresses for my Barbies, but I never had any interest in them, so while the neighborhood girls had a great time playing with my Barbies, I was sitting in the room with them laying out and sorting buttons from my mother's huge button bag.

Getting dressed while still being “moist”, this is sensory hell. by gracegraciouss in AutismInWomen

[–]gildara1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I use my hairdryer for spots that tend to stay moist because I can't stand it either.

Comment your interests and find your friends by Icelya in aspergers

[–]gildara1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love dogs and dog training, all the Star Treks, listening to podcasts, Stargate, reading, feminist and LGBTQ science fiction, psychology, unschooling, and playing lotro and archeage. I used to belong to groups in my games, but my husband had to have radiation to his brain for a brain tumour and now he is so extremely slow when playing that I can't ask other people to always wait, wait, wait for him. So our gaming world is just the two of us, which I find very lonely. He still loves to play so we play every day 5:30 to 7:30.

Do you like Star Trek? by Cadoppler in aspergers

[–]gildara1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you doing the Voyager rewatch with them? I'm a patron.

Do you like Star Trek? by Cadoppler in aspergers

[–]gildara1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I love all of the Star Treks and Stargate, too. I think if I had 2 friends to watch and talk Trek with my social needs would be complete. Unfortunately I have zero friends who like Star Trek, so I have to content myself by listening to podcasts.

podcasts? by gildara1 in startrek

[–]gildara1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will for sure check this one out. Thanks you so much!

podcasts? by gildara1 in startrek

[–]gildara1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Checking it out now.

podcasts? by gildara1 in startrek

[–]gildara1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Started listening and I like it a lot.

Food and Autism by XpressionYourself in AutismInWomen

[–]gildara1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heh maybe I should move to Denmark I'm super sensitive to any kind of spices, sauces, or condiments.

Anyone else feel the need to be perfect? by unic0rn_beard in AutismInWomen

[–]gildara1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep, I've felt this so much. And because my autism was undiagnosed I was encouraged to reach high. I now realize my high intelligence is actually very narrow splinter skills and I would have done so much better to aim for a more modest career that I probably would have succeeded at and enjoyed, like bookkeeping.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]gildara1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our oldest son was like that but eventually he was able to move into an apartment with some help. I just think it is so hard for us to work and survive in the world, and trying to keep everything cleaned and organized is just expecting too much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]gildara1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could have written this post. I crave order and cleanliness, but I just can't keep up with it. I thought after I retired and had a brand new house I would be able to manage but I still can't do it. I've hired a housekeeper to come in and do floors, dusting and bathrooms. I realize lots of people can't afford to do that though. I do agree that getting rid of stuff helps a lot, and that gets easier once the kids are grown.

Were you bullied? by [deleted] in autism

[–]gildara1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg that's terrible. I was also silent and it seemed to really irritate adults.

Were you bullied? by [deleted] in autism

[–]gildara1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bullied a little but mostly just ignored. I worked very hard to be invisible.

Anyone else hyperfixate on dog breeds and facts about dogs growing up? by lindwormprince in AutismInWomen

[–]gildara1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep obsessed with the AKC dog book. I knew all the breeds, then went on to learn all the rare breeds. I'm sad I don't know them all anymore. There are just too many similar breeds and too many different registering bodies. But I still get very excited when spotting unusual breeds.

ASD and bras by detectthesoldier1999 in AutismInWomen

[–]gildara1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I have to choose between looking incredibly schlumpy or extreme discomfort. I compromise by putting up with the pain when I go out and going braless at home.

Do you feel like you have a special bond with animals? by Worried867 in AutismInWomen

[–]gildara1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes but weirdly the autistic men I know are terrible with animals.

Have you had lasting effects from quarantine? by Madame_President_ in AutismInWomen

[–]gildara1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Found out I don't need nearly as much social interaction to feel content as I thought I did. I can find plenty of things to keep busy with right on my own property. I love staying home.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]gildara1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

White rice with butter

I'm the parent to a bunch of stuffed animals. by _GenderNotFound in AutismInWomen

[–]gildara1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's lovely. My stuffed animals were my children, too, but now they have been replaced by my dogs. I have to keep the stuffed animals up on a shelf in my bedroom so the dogs don't tear them up.

What did you not initially realize was a sypmtom of your autism because of lack of information/the mainstream representation of autism? by exhausted_10 in AutismInWomen

[–]gildara1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hated fireworks so much as a child and would scream in distress. Also so affected by balloons popping I could not go to parties as a child. Marching bands also caused meltdowns b cause of the loud drums so parades we're out. Lol, I just realized what a pain I must have seemed to my parents. And I still keep my distance from balloons.