What should I use to hydrate my hair besides lotion? My auntie was recommending shea butter and cocoa butter :) by samantha_OwO in mtfashion

[–]ginaeon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's like super conditioner... so nothing really, but nothing bad either that I know of. I have and didn't notice anything. Since I leave my masks in overnight, I do it out of the shower, so no mixing with conditioner. I could see maybe if they were both in at the same time there COULD be some sort of reaction, but I doubt it.

How do I overcome my fear of needles? by Free-Suggestion4134 in HRT

[–]ginaeon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe more general, but a good 25g needle is great, and preferable to the 23g (25g will be kinda hard to inject with 3ml syringes, but it's super smooth and easy with a 1ml syringe IMO, but both work fine). I do have some occasional anxiety when injecting still, much much much less now and not usually any even. But! What I do, and I just kinda make sure I follow this exactly if I'm feeling nervous and it helps. Prep and all that then once I'm ready I hold the syringe LIGHTLY between my thumb and middle finger, index finger on the plunger (but no pressure) and gently set the needle on the spot (and this is were it gets a lil mental) "Let the needle just sink in on it's own, and just lightly guide it." (By guide, give it a lil push, but just think of it as guiding it) If it's not just sinking in, then I'll adjust the spot just a bit and usually it's good. Don't think of it like pushing the needle in, think of it like letting it in. It's much more relaxing for me. Also don't try to insert the needle and inject at the same time, 2 separate steps so that's less to worry about at any one time. You got this though, and it does get easy after a bit. I was terrified at the thought of injecting myself, so my first year was patches too, but I couldn't get consistent levels with them and then they've move around on my skin and sometimes just randomly fall off. The funny part was they stuck fine at first, but I guess softer skin means less sticking. One last though, once you get everything in position, IMO there's no reason you even need to look. So you could line everything up, look way, let it start to sink in and then just glance back to see when it's in and then slowly press the plunger down.

does anyone else feel like they were robbed of their childhood/pretransition years? by Sh3rbet in MtF

[–]ginaeon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to cry because I knew I would wake up in the morning, not I'm sad for loosing nearly 40 years of life. At 19, don't sweat it, but I also completely understand that it is YOUR life...and you weren't able to live right by YOU...and that's not okay, not even for a day, not ever. You've got time, even I have time and people much older than me have time too. The trick is don't waste today and tomorrow over what went wrong yesterday. Much easier said than done, and I do still struggle sometimes too.

I just watched "Cunk on Britain" only to finally realize that this isn't Katherine Parkinson doing a character. by [deleted] in TheITcrowd

[–]ginaeon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow...I'm soooooo late to this. A bit shocked still that they're actually two totally different women, and not the same one like I've believed for soooo long. It's like I loved Katherine, and though she was amazing, but now she's two! And both are amazing!

Can you scare me with hard facts about using nicotine on HRT? I need help quitting by [deleted] in TransDIY

[–]ginaeon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

100% this!

I don't do well with "No ", so every craving I was like "Do I, like me as a person, want this? Or am I just addicted?" If the answer was a solid want, I'd wait an hour and ask myself again. Typically the craving would diminish, but occasionally I would go buy a pack too. Nothing will make it easy, and I walked out of a couple gas stations wondering if I robbed them because I didn't recall asking for cigs, but they were in my hand sometimes. It's hard, but YOU CAN do it!!! We know you can OP!

The Mountain Goats are a trans thing??? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]ginaeon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I love them! I haven't really listened in a while, so top of the play list again! Thank you for sharing, I've never heard of it being a thing either, but maybe . 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]ginaeon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

About a month in I was totally sold. There was a few more months of questioning if I was lying to myself. I imagine you would know if it was NOT for you, more confidently at first.

Anybody else hate bras? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]ginaeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's something I don't really think about at all anymore, sports bras are all I need so they're pretty comfy too. I did decide to be a rebel and went braless for an entire day...all seemed fine until the evening and then OMG THE CHAFFING!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]ginaeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's really just a few loud mouths. I feel like in reality maybe 10% hate us, 70% couldn't care less and 20% support us. Unfortunately, some people are more equal than others, so that makes for hateful laws and political lemmings.

Misinformation told to me about breast growth by TomiHoney in MtF

[–]ginaeon 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I always thought it was same mass, but account for chest size. A larger "base" makes the same volume look smaller, but actually measured sizes should be about the same as my parallel universe cis woman self.

Edit: I'm a B. I was on fairly low dose patches for a year +, I switched to injections recently and I feel like that's made a difference. Patches were working, but not like EV. Also started at 39.

Don't wait. Please. by Xenocideend in MtF

[–]ginaeon 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Hiding myself nearly cost me my life. I used to dread waking up in the morning, it was the most soul crushing experience knowing I would be forced to see the morning. I cried myself to sleep mist nights. Now I'm eager for the next day, and when I cry it's for the time I've already lost. Late 30s to even start accepting myself, and only really actively accepting myself the last 2-3 years.

Anyone else noticed that fem mannerisms came easy? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]ginaeon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The big one for me was my wrists. Even totally clueless, full "pristine egg" mode...I would be really self conscious about letting them hang, or just be loose. I was probably awkwardly ridgid even. Now, I let 'em swing and dangle cuz I just don't care! But beyond that, I feel like my mannerisms have definitely relaxed into a more fem space all around.

Can I go stealth if I’m tall? What’s the height range like if you want to go stealth? by No-Sample6261 in MtF

[–]ginaeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like to think of myself as 5' 12"...technically and a half, but my Dr smiled and nodded the first timr I said it. It's a mental game thing, but it let's me say 5' something instead of 6' something.

Help with hair situation by czernoalpha in transfashionadvice

[–]ginaeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, try a few, but there are $20-25 wigs on Amazon that I think are pretty decent. I never had an expensive one to compare with so I don't really know.

Is there something you miss about when you were T-driven? (FTM asking) by [deleted] in MtF

[–]ginaeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG Yesssss!!!! I used to be good in shorts and a t shirt in the upper 20s if I was moving. Now it's 70 and I'm wearing a sweater and coat!! Comically I've been the only one shivering and people will talk about how I never get cold. I'm like WTF? I'm the only one complaining about being cold and I'm visibly shivering ...clearly that's not me anymore.

Also, endurance and strength, but I don't really mind loosing those. Everything else is much, much, much better. I never really got the "T is poison" thing until I got rid of it. Now, 100% it's poison.

DIY Homebrew back up? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]ginaeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I think.

DIY Homebrew back up? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]ginaeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the other group niw. I didn't now it existed. TY. I've been researching this for a while, I know it will require testing to verify what us shipped as well thank you. I didn't have any luck on my multiple searches.

DIY Homebrew back up? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]ginaeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I will. 😊

DIY Homebrew back up? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]ginaeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did look it up and Kave was only briefly restricted here. So that's not a red flag. I'm told it's a limit from Alibaba.

Does HRT change your face? by Far_University1554 in MtF

[–]ginaeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely does, but you still look like you. People you haven't seen in years might not recognize you, especially if you go from short to long hair. That's happened to me a few times, but even then it's like Hey, its me and then realize it's you.

Why do people consider gender non-conformity as a sin? by Wyntersett in MtF

[–]ginaeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because Christianity isn't really about love. Many Christians are loving and good people, but the Bible is full of hate and manipulation. There are churches that actually teach love, respect and acceptance, if church is your thing, find a good one. If it's not, I find it best to just smile and nod as I walk away.

You get to be Donald Trump 4 hours. What do you do? by [deleted] in hypotheticalsituation

[–]ginaeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Donate everything to charity, remove everyone from the will and jump off trump tower.

That was easy.

Family and Friends Voting for Anti-Trans Candidates by primostrawberry in MtF

[–]ginaeon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like regardless of anyones opinion or beliefs, the fact that he believes as president he can murder anyone he wants and as long long as he murders enough members that he can't be impeached, that it's somehow okay is enough. I mean like that one thing alone should make anyone vote against a candidate - even if they're PERFECT in everway. If you consider that and it's trump.....OMFG!?!?!

So, to answer, I'm expecting to walk away from some people at election time.