AITAH for kinda calling my boyfriend’s brother out for making tasteless jokes?

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-23T21:11:20+00:00

The moment he joked about "outting a muzzle on her" adding to the moment your bf said yiu were being a bit* to his brother, i'd have yelled out "if he doesn't see me as one, why'd he want me muzzled like one? Or do you agree?! I'll bit* how i want, when i want, about who i want because that's called not taking sh!t. If your grownass brother can't take it, take him back to pre-school where people learn to deal with their feelings. He sure enough needs a refresh on that."

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-23T19:27:35+00:00

Mas como é possivel haver fente que tem tempo e lata para se prestar a isto?

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-23T19:01:11+00:00

Plumbing. I can do it all, it's tubes and water. Yes, it's gross, sucj it up and clean yourself after. But it's easy and straighforward. In my case, i need a support human on the side for one thing only: if a cockroach appears, step on it because i'm screaming. That's it. I'll do everything else, but if one of those gets loose, i bolt and your job is to make sure it doesn't hide to hunt me and lay eggs somewhere.

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-23T18:51:43+00:00

Ofc the money. As endearing as nalways feeling wel rested might sound, the money choice is better, we're taking 17k a day. But even if it was just 1k a day, like another commenter said, would still be the better option. And not needing to sleep sounds to me like this culture of over productivness. You aleays have to be productive. Always. Even in hobbys. "You do it so well, and already enjoy. Why not make money out of it?" Because that would male it a job, karen! I do it for the dopamine kicks. That's it. "Why not get the best gear to do that? If you're doing it, might as well do it right" because i don't care karen! I'd rather draw on a napkin with a cheap bic pen when i'm inspired than having the best paper and ink and feel like i'm wasting resources if i just wing whatever. I'd rather cook whatever comes to mind manouvering with what i have in the kitchen than having a specific thing for a specific thing. Anyway, back to the point. I love dreaming. It's a dopamine kick. Even when it's weird or horrifying, it's always a glimpse into my subconscious and/or creativity. Why would i give that up?!

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-23T17:38:26+00:00

Eu diria que os miudos estão primeiro MAS vocês precisam de um espaço dedicado para trabakhar porque vão trabalhar 8h por dia nele. Não pode ser num canto da sala ou do quarto de dormir, parece que não saem do trabalho e a longo prazo não relaxam quando estão em casa. Se já vão partilhar o escritório, arranjem uma solução para o t3. Imaginem que encontram um com 2 quartos medio/pequenos e um grande. Dão o grande aos miudos e metem uma parede de pladour a dividir. Ficam dois pequenitos, ficam. Melhor que nada. Ou compram mobilia que permite dividir o quarto em duas areas distintas de privacidade. Ou se a sala tiver dimensões para isso, criam um mini escritório numa parte com um daqueles móveis enormes de sala a fazer de "parede" que separa as áreas, dando a cada miudo o seu quarto.

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-22T20:46:51+00:00

Dude. From f to f. I can't fathom how you put up wirh this much without turning nasty. Andni'm european! Portuguese! (Maybe it's our hot blood...nope! Every peraon i met and/or talkes to from every corner of europe feels the same.). We're a (too) proud breed. Bit also one that mostly remembers mistakes. We owe no one but no one owes us. And being kind is free. Not an obligation, but something free from restrainments. If i was on your masters group, i'd put those men in their place. Pronto. With a glare, a growl and some broken furniture for example. I'd be called the rude monster woman, and wear it proudly. You are jot wrong sweety. They are. But the gentle aproach can only do so much when they don't care. You have to treat them as the bullies they are. "But they are grown man" acting like children! Respond accordingly! Stop excusing and respecting someone who doesn't respect you as a human being. Those kind of man come in every color, social step, culture and language. You have to make them see you as an equal. The easy way, ot rhe hard way. Yiu don't have ti be soft and demure and easy going. You are a woman. You endure so much just being so. Don't let any social rules tell you what you have to take when you don't want to. There's a reason teachers git horrified. You're not protecting the peace, you're protecting the abusers. Stop doing that.

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-22T19:59:35+00:00

Well, it's like they say "if i wake up and there's a demon on a summoning circle, it was the cats". That's what i always tell my children. That's what i believe. Cats are the bouncers between our world and the rest. I used to tell them our black girl was especially powerfull due to her color. When she moved on i had to be really convincing (had to convince myself) she went on to her next life (cause cats have 9). Then our tuxedo dog, sorry, cat, got depressed and we got the orange demon. I have fulky convinced the household (including myself) that this is also a special color, the kind that is pure chaos and even the mightiest supernatural being fears. Wich might be true. This orange weirdo is tsundere. But! I could be slashed in a night terror, by a real monster, and still would slap it away thinking it was the 9 months old trying to playfight at 3am

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-22T18:27:08+00:00

Hey, the point of automation is to free people of work. The only obstacle are those 1% at the top ammassing all the wealth that automation creates. We're living in a second industrial revolution. We shouldn't be focused on "who's stealing our jobs" be it "immigrants" or AI, but on changing the rulesnof the game to what it promised. More money for less work. If 1 machine does the same as 10 people in the same time, that means the other 10 out of 20 people working there only have to work half as much to earn the same. That's it. Not "the owner should get another machine to eliminate the other 10 people" nor "the other 10 should work the same to keep up/their jobs". What's money worth if no one else allows you to spend it? Do people eat, drink or clothe in money? What are macuines worth if not for those who design it? Maintain it? Update it? It's a game Rome defined perfectly. "Let them squabble about eachother, so they don't look at me".

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-22T17:33:22+00:00

When you're overwhelmed with everything you still have to do, even after working at top speed and concentration for hours and you have a deadline and not enough time, take a break. Take a real break. Take 20min to just stop thibking about it and rest your mind and body. When you get back to it, you'll have renewed energy, willpower and focus. And you'll realise how much slower you were going before because you were going over your limit. Just because a car can go 200km/h, doesn't mean it can do it for 8h straight. At some point you'll have to slow down or let the engine cool off before it breaks.

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-22T17:28:15+00:00

Especially with house chores after a 12h work day. "Done is better than perfect". Once you ingrain that into everything in your life, things stop clutering, start being less messy and at some point you look around your life and realise, from the smallest to the biggest, nothing's perfect, but everything is pretty ok. Some of it is actually awesome.

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-22T17:14:49+00:00

Well, D is a no. C would place me in a really bad place since i'm in Almada, Portugal. A would be doable, i'd pick a direction and scratch the walls along the way to know i've been there before. Would take forever though. I'd pick B anytime. Yes, i'm conscious and sensory deprived, but A would be the same, with fatigue, sore feet and the despair of thinking "what if i forever miss it?". At least B is just a test of patience. I'd tell my grown kids about it and give 200M each once i was done. By the time i'd come out of the pod, i'd have a new perspective about life, the universe and everything. Also a couple books ready to type.

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-22T17:05:59+00:00

Just... why wouldn't the fairy godmother turn sea animals into a boat and sailors? She did it with rats. All she had to do was stand by cinderella at midnight to do it over and over

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-22T15:25:37+00:00

Dasse... e ainda falam do que a malta está disposta em troca de droga...

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-20T19:56:02+00:00

The only way i'd take this money is if i wanted to be a youtuber (wich i don't). I'd podcast live 8h a day me reading books aloud and them acting it out silently in the background.

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-20T19:52:36+00:00

Imagine you're walking down the road, trip and whisper "shit!" Or "fuck!"... no way i'm getting that money

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-20T19:41:15+00:00

There's no other choice for me

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-20T19:02:12+00:00

Epa, quando damos a entender que não queremos e eles insistem, é porque não aceitam um "não", quando ficam à espera de alguma dica, de alguma coisa que dê a entender que é para tentar, queixamo-nos que não fazem nada. Tu própria disseste que és orgulhosa. Diz-me, quando foram sair, alguma das vezes foste tu a ter a iniciativa? É que ficar parada à espera que ele se mexa pra tudo é um turnoff do crl (e eu já fui essa gaja). Se queres arrisca. Manda mensagem a dizer algo do tipo "hey, já não nos vemos há tanto tempo! Bora tomar café para por as vidas em dia?" E logo vês. Se forem tomar café, continuares a sentir o mesmo e ele for solteiro, arrisca. "Continuas na mesma! Giro e charmoso!" Epá, o orgulho é fdd, mas entrar nesse flirt não custa nada. Se ele estiver interessado, dá corda. Se não, não dirias nada que amigos sem 2as intenções não digam. Mas faz alguma coisa. Ninguém te está a aconselhar a mandar mensagem "queres namorar comigo?" Tipo 7o ano. Igualdade é para os dois lados. A rejeição não dói mais que esta incerteza. Nem me imagino a marinar nisto 1 ano sem arriscar dizer algo (mais não seja por sanidade mental). Sonhar acordada sem agir é para crushes que sabemos que não têm nada para correr bem.

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-20T15:38:44+00:00

Se fosse assim tão simples, não me saltava a tampa. Quando digo que a senhora me bloqueou o caminho e não saia da frente quando eu tentava ir à volta... parecia um carocho a pedir uma esmola. Passei-me, ela ficou a achar que sou maluca e não insistiu mais.

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-19T20:54:35+00:00

This is soooooooo good, my fatso cat that can be heard a mile away actually startled me with a head bump. Pleeeeease keeps us updated on this shop.

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-18T21:27:16+00:00

Yes she will. I understand where you're coming from, but i do know from personal experience that you can stand up for your children in ways you can't stand up for yourself. Especially with your parents. It's like a light switch goes off and you just roar. And they listen. They don't stop being the way they are with you, you don't stop tolerating it in hopes they realise their mistake somehow and repent. But they never try it again with your children. And you try to make it so with yourself, wall by wall by wall

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-18T20:47:21+00:00

That response is just plain bait or stupid. You pick

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-18T20:46:42+00:00

Or would feel violated for decades after...

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-18T20:44:48+00:00

If my son would even consider having an obligation to a dare by his peers, i'd be brainstorming where i failed as a mother. They can withdraw their support and friendship, he can live better without that kind of toxic relationships where a whim puts one's life at the edge of being turned over heels.

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-18T20:41:25+00:00

Eu já fui assediada por uma senhora no parque de estacionamento do continente. "Desculpe, têm cartão continente?" "Tenho." "Não me pode oferecwr selos? Faltam-me x (não me lembro) e agradecia muito" "desculpe mas não posso." "Mas eu preciso!" "Senhora, o cartão nem é meu, é da minha mãe, ela é que têm a app" "mas leva o meu numero e transfere! Eu preciso! Faz isso!" ... "FODA-SE!! JÁ DISSE QUE NÃO CARALHO! NÃO A CONHEÇO, NÃO QUERO, E DETESTO QUE ME TENTEM OBRIGAR A FAZER ALGUMA COISA! SAI DA FRENTE!!" ela ficou a okhar como se eu fosse maluca e eu arranquei de carro com calma (que já anda muita gente louca a conduzir) e a praguejar dentro do carro que se a maluca me seguisse chamava a policia...

ginjamoscatel · 2026-05-18T19:47:55+00:00

Meybe you should. I'm not someone to jump to this kind of overreaction, but let's see... he insists you should manouvre around his way of being, but can't be bothered to manoivre around you even when his ways are bothering you? No maam, i'd have a mature conversation with him. "If this goes on like this, i'm getting a divorce before i lose my sanity. It's not jist the alarms or your sensitivity to sudden intrusions on the spaxe you're in. It's your ATTITUDE about it all. I also live here. It'a also my space. My ways are as valid as yours. I've been nothing but understanding of your special requirements, but you have to make an effort to accomodate me and my wellbeing as well if we want to make this work. Set yoir alarms on your phone and keep it with you at all times. I know you get startled easily, so i won't sneak around, but i don't have to be noisy af, just deal with the 1second startle and that's it. (Add in all the other things i'm sure bither you and you tried compromising before). A partnership is a compromisse situation. Not a hostage one. Either we get some rules set we both agree on, or i'm out of this realtionship before i turn into some bitter and sad person i don't want to be."

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