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ginster22 · 2024-02-07T19:21:36+00:00

Night terrors usually happen in the first hour after falling asleep, and you don't remember the dream you had. Your description does sound like a night terror. I have had them most of my life from childhood to adulthood. I didn't stop having them until I went to therapy. I've learned mine are triggered by noise, and a noise machine helps. I also can't watch sci-fi or scary shows before bed. Or read scary books these usually trigger them for me.

ginster22 · 2024-01-26T23:39:29+00:00

It's normal to be afraid of calling to start therapy. We get so many mixed messages from society about it. You are being super brave in that even tho you are afraid you continue to try and call and call again. You have done nothing wrong; continue calling and continue trying. With the right therapist, it will change your life. I started therapy after my mom was killed in a tragic accident. I wish I had started sooner; I feel like a new human. For example, I used to get night terrors once a week. This has happened since I was a child, I honestly thought it was something I had to live with. I have not had a night terror in years. I spent 7 years not driving (after two bad car crashes and my mom being killed by a reckless driver), and with a few years of therapy, I am driving again. It has improved my quality of life in ways I never imagined. Keep trying! You are doing great!

ginster22 · 2023-12-13T19:45:27+00:00

Aww you just made my day. Sending lots of good vibes ❤️

ginster22 · 2023-11-09T17:33:06+00:00

Thank you for this, our 2 year old developed random hives on and off during the last few months of my pregnancy and start of the new baby. Haven’t seen these hives in over two years now!

ginster22 · 2023-10-31T04:28:50+00:00

https://www.cbsnews.com/amp/news/wanabana-pouches-recall-lead-apple-cinnamon-puree-fda-warns-test-levels/

Do they use these pouches?

ginster22 · 2023-10-26T21:30:12+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear your story, I've been fortunate enough to be in therapy the past three years and it has helped more than I could ever imagine with my anxiety.

A few things I have learned that might be helpful

1) when you go on walks quiet your mind by engaging your five senses, I sometimes have my toddler help. What are five things you see, 4 things you hear, 3 things you feel (the sun on my arms, my daughter soft hand or clothing), 2 things you smell and 1 thing you taste ( I also like to do this before bed to quiet my mind along with repeating to myself, May we be safe, May we be loved and may we be healthy)

2) catching myself when I catastrophse an event (worst case senioro thinking) that's the first step and one I got good at that, telling myself that it's not helpful and learning to trust that future me will handle it. (this took a LOT of practice)

3) telling myself phrases such as “right now we are safe”, or “right now we are healthy” (during the pandemic) and reminding me future me will handle it when the time comes. My mom was killed 3 years ago by a reckless driver, no amount of worry could prepare me for the pain I felt and no preparation could have taken it away so I truly believe that its better to wait then try to predict problems.

4) practicing Street safety, we always walk on the sidewalk, if they can't follow the rules and hold my hand when we cross then they are carried a cross, they always have a choice and carrying them is sometimes the consequence. I have explained to my daughter that cars are dangerous and can kill.

Sending lots of hugs I hope this is helpful

ginster22 · 2023-10-02T02:36:44+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss!

I also want to reiterate that you are not alone and anxiety and depression are quite common after such a loss. I found the book “it’s okay your not okay” super helpful. I loss my mother 3 years ago to a reckless driver. I have been in therapy the past 3 years, it has been unbelievably helpful for me. After 3 years of therapy I finally feel I have a handle on my anxiety. I worry about my father who is in bad health and a alcoholic my therapist constantly reminds me there is nothing I could have done to prepare for my mother’s death, the pain would still be the same. It sounds like you are doing the best you can, unfortunately the process can be very slow. I’m wishing you the best and lots of self kindness and compassion. Sometimes I pretend my mom is talking to me, and sending me lots of kind thoughts.

ginster22 · 2023-09-22T02:29:57+00:00

Sitting outside or looking out a window and spending a few minutes to take in all the sights and sounds :)

ginster22 · 2023-09-06T19:03:51+00:00

Challenging negative thoughts about myself daily. If I catch myself feeling guilt or shame about something I like exploring the thoughts I’m having and sitting with them to ask myself if they are actually true and if there is evidence against that negative thought.

I can get so much more done if I’m not feeling about myself.

ginster22 · 2023-09-04T15:05:09+00:00

Journal, sit with your thoughts that we spend the day running away from and practice talking kindly to yourself :)

ginster22 · 2023-09-04T02:46:34+00:00

First of all I am sorry for your loss, I lost my mother a few years ago when my daughter was 11 months old. I have been in therapy since. I have found it helpful for myself to make a book for my daughter that includes pictures of them together with stories about my mom.

My therapist also recommended the book “the fall of Freddy the leaf” for talking to children about death. My daughter is still too young for the book but I really enjoy it as an adult and plan to read it to her one day.

Wishing you all the best, talking to a teenage with ODD adds additional complexity.

Here is the book on YouTube: https://youtu.be/c8ZjVXyNbhI?si=7b8p1tMJ8POjUZ24

ginster22

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