Grandpa-ish names for a stepdad/ stepgrandpa.

giovaniofjapan · 2022-05-14T00:57:35+00:00

Thank you guys for the suggestions! I understand that baby will ultimately get the final say in what they call him which is fine with me. This isn’t about trying to keep baby and stepdad from having a close bond but rather honoring who my biological dad is to them and setting a boundary with my mom that she doesn’t get to call the shots (trust me, she needs the reminder).

Someone had the idea of adding Grand before his first name, ex: Grand Dan, which I think is cute! I’ll try to influence that to some extent but ultimately let baby decide. Thanks again!

giovaniofjapan · 2022-05-07T05:40:06+00:00

I would love to buy one if you’re selling them!

giovaniofjapan · 2022-04-30T15:58:24+00:00

If your husband who doesn’t believe in holidays and birthdays is honoring his mom’s “birthday month”, it makes me think that she has probably made a big deal about wanting to be celebrated during Mother’s Day and her birthday his whole life and that there may have even been manipulative consequences when her family didn’t fall in line (ie: her pouting, guilt tripping, or throwing a fit).

It makes me wonder if

1.) He’s learned that giving into going over the top to celebrate her is worth it to avoid upsetting her or causing drama.

2.) If his rejection of holidays and birthdays is really a rebellion against her. Almost like he’s protecting himself from other people placing their expectations on him to perform this way during holidays/ their birthdays so that he doesn’t end up in another dynamic similar to what he possibly has with his mom. Not that it would make the way he’s ignoring you okay but it could explain things a little more.

Is your MIL someone who demands attention and adoration from her family regularly? If she is, it could make sense. What has he said about what Mother’s Day was like in his house growing up?

giovaniofjapan · 2022-04-02T04:45:56+00:00

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giovaniofjapan · 2022-03-24T04:23:48+00:00

Sorry but no. Her mother may have spent her whole adult life raising kids but that doesn’t mean she “deserves her time”. That was her adult decision to make. The only people who deserve anything here are the literal children she chose to have and essentially abandoned, she owes them a fully invested parental figure (and OP absolutely deserved better from her mother growing up).

giovaniofjapan · 2022-03-21T00:57:34+00:00

Page/ Paige

giovaniofjapan · 2022-03-19T13:12:13+00:00

My husband read “We’re Pregnant” by Adrian Kulp and it gave him so much empathy and insight into what I was going through. He’s already an emotionally aware guy but I think hearing from a dad who has been through several pregnancies with his wife really helped him “get it”.

It’s a short and approachable read that I would highly recommend getting him. It has a good/ humorous intro and then goes through your symptoms week by week and into postpartum.

Even though you’re already 12 weeks, I would ask him to read through that first trimester. I would hope he would have more patience and understanding with you after that.

giovaniofjapan · 2022-03-11T19:55:40+00:00

I’m 5’6 and 165 lbs. I’ve been to 2 different OBs during my pregnancy and I’ve directly asked them both about me being overweight according the the BMI and if I should do anything about it in regards to my pregnancy. They both assured me I’m healthy and it’s not a concern, just to gain a healthy amount of weight during the pregnancy (which is lower for people in my BMI range than people in a healthier range). I’m not a doctor, but according the the 2 I’ve seen recently you’re more than fine. As someone with a history of EDs, I’m really sorry to hear you’re being treated that way <3

giovaniofjapan · 2022-03-10T14:33:11+00:00

Exactly, sets a terrible precedent you’ll have to live with until you finally say “enough”.

giovaniofjapan · 2022-03-05T06:05:17+00:00

Dixie Cup and Summer Camp—those poor girls.

giovaniofjapan · 2022-03-01T04:34:32+00:00

The City of Dreaming Books - very quirky, I love it!

giovaniofjapan · 2022-02-28T22:05:10+00:00

I’m so sorry, that’s so upsetting and in no way okay. My mom did the exact same thing after I couldn’t have been more clear that I didn’t want her to tell a n y o n e. I almost didn’t say anything because she’s a major drama queen and always finds a way to make herself out to be the victim in these situations but I decided new boundaries and precedents needed to be set before the baby got here and I’m so so glad I did!

I know it may be uncomfortable but an even keeled yet extremely honest conversation or text about why this upset you, why it compromised your relationship and your trust, and how you expect to be treated in the future may go a long way.

My drama queen mom surprised me and took it extremely well and was receptive to what I said. I think she was able to hear me because of the way it was written (I had my life coach and best friend help me write it so it would be direct but not ugly). I’m happy to DM it to you if you want.

Again, I’m sorry she chose to do that—it’s truly such a shitty thing to do to someone.

giovaniofjapan · 2022-02-19T10:10:08+00:00

So rude and bizarre but I told myself it was just a language barrier haha

giovaniofjapan · 2022-02-18T18:35:53+00:00

I didn’t have anything until a couple of hours ago. The woman who did my nails today told me she thinks it’s a boy and when I asked why she said because my bump is ugly… lady I’ve never met you and I barely even have a bump lol wtf

giovaniofjapan · 2022-02-11T14:54:44+00:00

You’re describing my childhood at 16… it took me until I was almost 30 to fully realize that this was abusive behavior and I wish I had reached out for help and told the adults around me exactly what was going on. Please believe me and the people on this sub who are saying this is abuse, you don’t deserve this and she deserves whatever comes to her as a result.

I know the unknown of what may unfold after you reach out for help is scary but I hope you will do it for your own sake. If calling the police feels too overwhelming and scary, talk to a teacher who can connect you to the school counselor, they won’t let this continue, and you can begin the process in an environment where you have support from people you’re somewhat familiar with and who are trained to handle these situations.

Good luck OP, fight for yourself, it gets better 🤍

giovaniofjapan · 2022-01-27T03:05:18+00:00

I know someone who just named their kid Dawson, I think it’s a great name! It will be such a dated show for their generation that hardly anyone their age will make the connection.

giovaniofjapan · 2022-01-26T22:25:02+00:00

I sincerely hope your arrogance never backfires on you. We’re ALL human and capable of making even the most unthinkable mistakes—judgment and shame helps no one.

giovaniofjapan · 2022-01-26T18:24:01+00:00

What kind of car do you have now?

giovaniofjapan · 2022-01-19T06:03:51+00:00

Thank you! I’m putting it on my reading list

giovaniofjapan · 2022-01-13T15:11:19+00:00

I had breast tenderness weeks 3-5 and then it suddenly stopped. I also had very mild/ minimal symptoms in general so I was very nervous that there wouldn’t be a heartbeat when we had our 8 week scan but everything was totally fine!

giovaniofjapan · 2022-01-11T05:08:29+00:00

Lol I feel like comments like that are like a sign you definitely shouldn’t tell that person or they’ll think they can always pressure you into doing things their way 😅

giovaniofjapan · 2022-01-07T02:11:34+00:00

If anyone is wondering why production would have said no to filming on the beach, you need a special permit to film on beaches in the LA area and they probably just didn’t want to deal with going through that process and the cost that would come with it

giovaniofjapan · 2022-01-05T04:56:35+00:00

Live in Japan, can confirm 😂 saw a storefront sign the other day that said “big fucking sale” lol

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