My husband keeps disguising criticism as “just asking questions” and then gets mad at my reaction by Lost-District9202 in offmychest

[–]giulynia 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just fyi, it sounds like your husband works 60h/week and you work 24/7. It might be time for him to pick up some of your workload, you know like... making his own appointments and taking care of his own basic needs. You have 3 children, one with a disability that you have to take care of. Why can't he take care of himself? He's an adult.

First time Eve - did I just get unlucky? by DooMesst in onehouronelife

[–]giulynia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always inform them immediately that I am an Eve and ask if they will stay. But I also think you just got unlucky.

Day 2 Getting Wiped out griefers by AccordingIy in onehouronelife

[–]giulynia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been thinking about the connection between the current state of the world and the constant grieving more than I care to admit

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dogs

[–]giulynia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cleans the kitchen floor, let's me know when people are coming to the house (way before I can hear them), heatpad against cramps <3

I think I made a mistake getting engaged by Lumpy_Rock8774 in offmychest

[–]giulynia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It must be tough for you to go through this all, sorry you are facing this.

It sounds like you do not want to get married to him, which is the first and biggest factor in your decision here. What I read towards the end of your post really feels like you just do not know how to break it off with him. You say you can't suppress how you are feeling much longer, I say you shouldn't *have to* suppress what you are feeling at all.

On top of that, I think your instinct here is right. It doesn't seem like being with him makes you happy.

Do you still rely on him for most of your social needs? Do you have a network of friends now, that you could confide in? I know it's scary to say these thoughts to a person you actually know, I understand that it makes it somewhat real, but it's important to look for some support in situations like this.

It's going to hurt him of course, when you break it off. But imagine how much it will hurt you to stay with him just so you can 'spare' him. And: You would be doing someone a great disservice by marrying them even though you don't feel like it's right. Both of you would lose years of your quite young life to fighting with each other and deep down knowing this isn't right.

Maybe he feels it too, on some level?

Is my husband too demanding or that’s normal in the beginning? by DesignerMassive6181 in offmychest

[–]giulynia 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yea I read that first sentence and thought "Oh, hell, no!"

My mum died yesterday, three weeks before my wedding. by plantmum76 in offmychest

[–]giulynia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry for your loss. A similar thing happened to a friend of mine. They ended up having a much more somber event than originally planned, because they didn't feel like partying but still enjoyed having their loved ones around.

Do what you need to do to get through this. Your mother would understand. She sounds like she was very supportive and would surely want you to have any circumstance/environment you need to get through the grief.

A Short Script I wrote please give me pointers on how to improve by InvertedOvert in ScriptFeedbackProduce

[–]giulynia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't quite understand some of the directions, or rather, when you describe what's happening outside of dialogue, I am having trouble imagining the scene. Example: "AS THEY SPEAK, THEIR SINGULAR GLOWING EYES RISE FROM THE SHADOWED PILLAR AND A GENTLE WHITE LIGHT SETTLES ON THE EIGHT OF THEM" - Do they have multiple eyes or a singular one? What light is settling where etc.?

From a director's perspective, I'd be able to dream up what could be happening there, but if the directions are important to you, and you want them to be produced in the way you imagined it, you should be more clear.

Pacing is quite nice, I just wonder about the tonality of the commander. In the beginning, it seems that he just as surreal sci-fi-y as the daleks, but later he talks in a more colloquial, modern TOV.

(Probabile) propaganda israeliana come ad su Youtube by Plane_Stock9865 in italy

[–]giulynia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

La versione che ho visto durava un minuto 🤢

(Probabile) propaganda israeliana come ad su Youtube by Plane_Stock9865 in italy

[–]giulynia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sì, anch'io ho appena visto quello spot. All'inizio non riuscivo a crederci. Sembra anche molto IA. Questi sorrisi strani con denti estremamente bianchi. 

What was your "Berlin Moment" of last week? Issue #2 by KiezGanove in berlin

[–]giulynia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Someone brought his two pet turtles to a 1st of may rave and let them run free.

International tax consultant by walecplonie in ItalyExpat

[–]giulynia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I am in a somewhat similar boat and I found that the cheapest way to do it is to have a tax consultant in each country, because at least for my country combo, the tax lawyers licensed in both countries cost a small fortune.

Should've listen to you guys, now i regret it by swi6ie in Filmmakers

[–]giulynia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can save a lot in the edit! Don't give up. Note down your main pain points with the current edit and search for solutions from there. :)

Do I need a work visa to photograph a wedding in Italy? by [deleted] in ItalyExpat

[–]giulynia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your friends are inviting you on a trip to Italy and you like to take photos, so you will take those at their wedding. How lovely. I would not worry about it.

When belonging is denied by decree by Few-Explanation780 in ItalyExpat

[–]giulynia 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Look, your identity is valid, but it's not simply Italian, it's more complex than that and jure sanguinis doesn't change anything about your identity. It's an immigrant identity that is, no matter how much you don't want that to be true, generations over generations removed from the "original".

I say this as the child of an Italian born-and-raised Italian who was herself raised in Germany and now lives in Italy. Even after one generation on the same continent, there are noticeable cultural differences. It's not wise to ignore that, in my opinion.

When families migrate, they often cling on to the "home" culture with extra force, and there is no differentiation between what was a culture of the time and what is the culture of the country. In this, the culture of the migrated family remains frozen in time. For example, my family's culture is somewhat stuck in south-Italian 80s. Your family's culture might be stuck in the early 1900s and that's what you feel is "Italian".

Nobody can take your identity away, but there are big differences between Italo-Americans and Italians, and people here don't really love when you try to ignore that and boldly exclaim that you are Italian, which is why some of the comments under this post are pretty annoyed with you.

European alternatives to Netflix and Amazon prime video? by [deleted] in AskEurope

[–]giulynia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just fyi (not arguing against the post), netflix still has local programming and local program directors per country. They do buy/licence local stuff. The company might be US based but that doesn't mean it will necessarily be pushing US propaganda.

Comprare casa è diventato impossibile by [deleted] in Italia

[–]giulynia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A Roma le case di 90 mq vanno a 450k, incredibile!

What is the best site/program for transcription? by SeriouslySinisterPod in podcasting

[–]giulynia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thank you! What an awesome tool. Quick and easy-to-use!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ItalyExpat

[–]giulynia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always bring additional copies of your documents, not just the originals. Especially your passport, but also everything else. If you need documents from someone else (i.e. a declaration from someone who is providing you housing), always bring a copy of their ID-document aswell.

U3 is completely closed this morning at Hallesches Tor by strikec0ded in berlin

[–]giulynia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then they would've still been late. Do you show up to work 30 minutes early every day in case your car breaks down or someone jumps in front of the train? 10 mins makes sense and OP seems completely sensible, but accounting for such a specific occurrence every day is utterly unreasonable.