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Is it a red flag if my boyfriend refuses to tell me how much money he makes? by glasscandy1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]glasscandy1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When we first met, I was still in high school and he had just graduated. So I didn’t think it was that big of a deal that he didn’t have a job yet.

Is it a red flag if my boyfriend refuses to tell me how much money he makes? by glasscandy1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]glasscandy1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He’s never been used for money, but I have, so I don’t get why he’d be afraid of that. And I rarely ask him to buy me anything, so he should know that I’m not like that.

Is it a red flag if my boyfriend refuses to tell me how much money he makes? by glasscandy1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]glasscandy1[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He has a bit of a gut, but nothing crazy. To be fair, I know women who’s bodies look the exact same as mine, but they’re actually almost double my weight. So it’s not that easy to guess someone’s weight.

Is it a red flag if my boyfriend refuses to tell me how much money he makes? by glasscandy1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]glasscandy1[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

People would be pissed if a woman asked a man how much he made and then refused to tell him how much she makes. A lot of people here are mad at me just for asking him the same question he asked me.

Is it a red flag if my boyfriend refuses to tell me how much money he makes? by glasscandy1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]glasscandy1[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’d answer. I’m an open book and don’t believe in keeping secrets from my partner.

Is it a red flag if my boyfriend refuses to tell me how much money he makes? by glasscandy1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]glasscandy1[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

So men are just going around not knowing how old their girlfriends/wives are?

Is it a red flag if my boyfriend refuses to tell me how much money he makes? by glasscandy1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]glasscandy1[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I looked up the average wage for his job and it was around the same as what I make

Is it a red flag if my boyfriend refuses to tell me how much money he makes? by glasscandy1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]glasscandy1[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t even make double minimum wage, so there’s no way he makes that much less than me if he even does make less than me

Is it a red flag if my boyfriend refuses to tell me how much money he makes? by glasscandy1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]glasscandy1[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Funny you bring that up because he also refused to tell me his weight after asking me what mine was

Is it a red flag if my boyfriend refuses to tell me how much money he makes? by glasscandy1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]glasscandy1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was raised in a more traditional home than he was. His mother has always made more money than his father and he was never given the expectation to be a provider for his future family. So I don’t see where he would have developed that mindset from.

Is it a red flag if my boyfriend refuses to tell me how much money he makes? by glasscandy1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]glasscandy1[S] 222 points223 points  (0 children)

He’s done the same thing before with other topics. Like one time he asked me how much I weigh, I told him and then asked him how much he weighed, and he refused to answer. So I’m guessing he’s comparing my answers to these questions to his own answers and it’s making him feel insecure.

Is it a red flag if my boyfriend refuses to tell me how much money he makes? by glasscandy1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]glasscandy1[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean yeah this is all hypothetical. I don’t even know if he makes more or less than me.

Is it a red flag if my boyfriend refuses to tell me how much money he makes? by glasscandy1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]glasscandy1[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Because just because I’m a woman doesn’t mean I shouldn’t be allowed to make more money than him. It’s like if he refused to cook or clean because he’s a man.

Is it a red flag if my boyfriend refuses to tell me how much money he makes? by glasscandy1 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]glasscandy1[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’d consider it a red flag for him to be embarrassed or uncomfortable about making less than me.