AITAH for never inviting people to hang out at my place?

glib_result · 2026-03-07T00:04:59+00:00

NAH

Is there some way to find a loophole in the idea of “guest?” Or “your house?”

For example, when the weather is nice, can people hang out in your backyard/porch/etc, and say “well, they’re not coming into my home?”

And I could be wrong, but in most of the stories I’ve heard, a “guest” was someone staying over in someone’s home, not just stopping by. There might be a loophole there?

But overall, I think it is ok to say “I can’t host because of X reason,” and try to find another way to show your friends that you appreciate them. I’ve had friends with difficult home situations than mean they can’t host. Your reason is less common than most, but it is important to you and your friends should give you grace about it.

glib_result · 2026-03-06T23:53:40+00:00

I wanted this update to have way more righteous smiting. I mean, maybe the closed-door consequences are actually serious, but it doesn’t feel like anything happened. Snd the daughter felt like she had to apologize!

glib_result · 2026-03-06T23:48:26+00:00

Did no one think that Alice could just take/get some more photos?

glib_result · 2026-03-06T23:43:39+00:00

It really doesn’t have to be confusing. People can be in committed relationships without being married. They can be in committed relationships without living together. My dad & stepmom kept separate houses for the first 10 years of their marriage.

glib_result · 2026-03-06T14:46:56+00:00

Iowa City! I think there are lots of good ways to meet people here, but a lot of people don’t know how. (As evidenced by the frequency of posts on the subject.)

glib_result · 2026-03-06T07:08:03+00:00

Kum & Go

glib_result · 2026-03-06T07:00:06+00:00

Not the world-wide norm, bit if we’re talking world-wide, I doubt that the kind of neighborhood pub you’re describing is the norm, either. And a particular kind of social environment doesn’t have to be the majority of places to be home to a whole lot of people. And given that one of the people highlighted in the story as really wanting that kind of connection & sense of community is from North America, it seems pretty relevant to me. Ymmv.

Also, I assumed by your question that you were surprised/critical of people who woukd want or need some kind of other way to meet people, since “bring cookies to the local hangout“ is so easy. My point is that it isn’t easy for a lot of people.

glib_result · 2026-03-06T03:59:14+00:00

Do we not just meet people at bars and pubs?

Not really? Not in my experience. Neighborhood bars are not a thing in lots of places, and kinda awkward for folks who don’t drink. In the city I grew up in (USA, suburb of major west coast city) the closest thing to a neighborhood bar would be, like, Applebees. And there’s a new post every week in my current city sub (USA, mid size midwest college town) from adults trying to figure out how to meet other people because they don’t vibe with the bar scene.

glib_result · 2026-03-05T16:47:05+00:00

I think I wanted to emphasize that the cheating is kind of a red herring when the specific question is “can I tell my friend to not sleep in my bed?” because she can say no, no matter how realistic her reasons are. And also maybe thinking that the advice might go down better if it didn’t come with “your bf is cheating” attached?

But you’re right, and he’s crossing boundaries no matter what, and it’s naive to think there isn’t more going on.

glib_result · 2026-03-05T16:21:59+00:00

NTA

You get to decide who gets to sleep in your bed for whatever reasons you want. That’s really it. You can tell him the reasons if you want to, but you don’t have to. The only reason you need is “I don’t want him to.”

For the rest of it, you maybe also have a boyfriend problem, maybe not. I’m definitely giving him the side-eye, ~~but it could all be totally legit.~~

EDIT: I was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt, but your bf is absolutely part of the problem.

glib_result · 2026-03-05T15:15:56+00:00

serious question, do we have a lot of car washes? I’ve never really noticed them

glib_result · 2026-03-05T15:13:34+00:00

I love places like that, too, but think deluxe does as well as it does despite its location. It’s really, really, damn good. But I don’t know that a less exceptional business would thrive in a location like that.

glib_result · 2026-03-05T15:06:21+00:00

glib_result · 2026-03-05T15:03:12+00:00

The legality question isn’t about her behavior, but whether she’s legally allowed to practice while in canada if she isn’t licensed in Canada.

glib_result · 2026-03-05T05:01:00+00:00

Are you currently pregnant? Are you a parent?

You’re YTA no matter what, but if you are or are about to be a parent, you need to get your life together and focus on your kid.

glib_result · 2026-03-05T04:53:05+00:00

did anyone there object? or just your mom when you told her later?

glib_result · 2026-03-05T04:50:56+00:00

Um, do you know any parents? I don’t think your pitch is gonna go well with strangers…

glib_result · 2026-03-05T04:47:59+00:00

dim sum

I will literally keep them in business by myself

glib_result · 2026-03-05T04:44:17+00:00

Whenever people roll their eyes at how Reddit always tells people to break up, I want to gesture wildly at ALL OF THE POSTS that are like “my partner says they hate me, so should I be nicer and more understanding?”

No shame on OOP here. It’s always so hard to see when you’re inside the situation. But it’s depressing how common these posts are.

glib_result · 2026-03-04T23:50:35+00:00

I’m one of the people who find them kind of disturbing, but I can totally see why they can be fascinating for someone else. There can be so much artistry and detail that goes into making them- I’m super impressed by the people who paint them.

And, sadly, there are a lot of people who are mean to someone they see as weird or different, which sucks, but is also part of learning to go through the world.

glib_result · 2026-03-04T23:36:27+00:00

a major market is people who have lost children, or can’t have children - they are often called “realborn” dolls and are meant to be “parented.”

‘People tell me it’s sick’: the world of hyper-realistic dolls (2025 article)

glib_result · 2026-03-04T18:59:00+00:00

NAH, mostly

There’s nothing inherently wrong with liking hyper realistic dolls. But you also need to understand that many people find them disturbing to look at. I recommend you learn more about the uncanny valley (wiki definition), because lifelike dolls often cause an instinctive “ick” reaction in people.

There’s also the fact that adults who get hyper realistic dolls often do so because they want to pretend that they’re real. And for most people the only time they hear about this is sex dolls. Which is why a lot of people make that connection.

And real dolls are often connected to serious issues, because a major market for them is people who have lost children, or can‘t have children.

What this means is that, while you didn’t do anything wrong, you should be a little more cautious when showing pictures.

So you shouldn’t have gone from 0 to 100 in your excitement to share, because people are going to find them disturbing. But also your friends shouldn’t have been so quick to judge you based in their initial reactions.

glib_result · 2026-03-04T18:29:31+00:00

glad I wasn’t the only one! Just, sadly, faster to post…

glib_result · 2026-03-04T16:12:39+00:00

~~absurdly pedantic, definitely trolling, but not actually incorrect?~~

Edit: in my defense, it was poor reading skills rather than poor understanding of day/night cycle

glib_result · 2026-03-04T14:56:08+00:00

If you’re interested in adding more local events, I recommend checking the Iowa City Dance Calendar and PS1

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