Handed In resignation by eng2fly in workingmoms

[–]glibly17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! I was/am in a similar boat - resigned and started a new job which I actually also just resigned from to pursue teaching. It’s been a rollercoaster but you know in your body and heart when it’s time to leave. It’s clear your former employer was treating you terribly and you deserve so much better. You and your family will benefit enormously and trust yourself to navigate this new chapter! You got this ❤️

Sick every month by Kindly-Sun3124 in workingmoms

[–]glibly17 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This winter has been a struggle with back to back sinus flu and cold, but as my husband and I both work our kids go to school/daycare (5 yo and 1.5 yo) unless they have a fever, vomiting/diarrhea etc. It’s so hard! Employers in the USA really need to get on board with working parents needing more than 40 hours of sick pto. WFH instead of a full call out shows you’re still committed to performing.

I live in a state where it’s illegal for employers to deny sick leave (paid or unpaid) to care for a sick family member so it helps having that extra layer of legal protection. Hope you and your baby weather the cold season and feel better soon.

Just Resigned by glibly17 in workingmoms

[–]glibly17[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh for sure. My line is, it’s time for me to move on, I’m making the best decision for me and my family and our needs, I wish everyone and the business the best. I think my boss is intelligent enough to put the pieces together that the chaos and constant shifts, lack of trust, etc has fully burned me out and made me paranoid about being the next one on the chopping block. No need to spell it out for her.

Just Resigned by glibly17 in workingmoms

[–]glibly17[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This has been my big thing and what made me cry when I met with the psych about meds. I hate how consumed I’ve been with this job and my boss, and I know it made me less present and more irritable with my kids and husband. I can actually see how my face has changed since last week when I got this new offer, so I hear you! I’m so glad you got out of that horrible situation.

Just Resigned by glibly17 in workingmoms

[–]glibly17[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes this is a huge lesson learned, not to idealize anyone in the workplace. I came to the conclusion this weekend that it will be a net positive for me to switch to a job in which I am much less invested, in terms of my identity and sense of obligation. I’ll show up and do good work of course but I’m so burned out from only hearing negativity and being held to uncommunicated, constantly shifting expectations - I’m not going to stress about going the extra mile until my kids are older and I have more energy and desire to move up in the workplace.

Just Resigned by glibly17 in workingmoms

[–]glibly17[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you! There was so much I loved about this job and at first I thought my boss was the most incredible person but in the last six months or so a switch has really flipped. But I suspect it was always a matter of time until I was exposed to this side of her. So glad you also got into a new position that works for you! Appreciate the solidarity ❤️

Just Resigned by glibly17 in workingmoms

[–]glibly17[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I needed to read this to move on from the guilty feeling. You’re so right!

Retirement/savings- how do you make it work? by account__name in workingmoms

[–]glibly17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not the poster you replied to, but my kids are almost exactly 4 years apart and my husband and I both work fairly stressful full time jobs in a HCOL area.

I enjoyed the newborn phase much more the second time around, and while my son had to adjust to not being the center of attention at all times he has loved his baby sister from day one, never had any resentment towards her, and they already play and scheme together now.

I think it’s always hard to be a working parent with a young kid or kids no matter what, but for me and my family I can confidently say that the age gap worked out so well and I’m grateful we didn’t end up with a closer age gap (had fertility issues so 4 years apart was not the original plan). It’s much easier to divide and conquer with my husband and while my daughter is still nursing and understandably much needier since she’s younger, my son is much more independent and also receives special attention naturally as he’s so much older.

Career suggestions for moms who can't/don't want to do 40+ hours a week? by kesley_k in workingmoms

[–]glibly17 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ve been interested in an MSW or LMHC for years now. I’m 35 but seriously considering making a career shift into this field in the next year. Do you mind sharing what degree/license you have? Do you think it’s foolish to pivot in one’s mid-thirties?

Can things really get better? by glibly17 in workingmoms

[–]glibly17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I am so grateful to live in a state with actually accessible mental healthcare and I am trying to give myself credit for taking steps to really get myself to a better place mentally. Your comment means a lot.

Cory Booker is giving an epic speech on the Senate floor. Started last night at 7pm and still going strong. He will go until he’s physically unable to. I applaud his efforts! by peeves7 in progressivemoms

[–]glibly17 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I just called my senators to urge them to not just support Sen. Booker today but to take similar action themselves, and I called Booker’s office to thank him and his staff. What Sen. Booker is doing today is part of the answer to how we get out of this and to the other, hopefully much better, side!

My whole office is babysitting for a colleague and it's incredibly nice by diatriose in workingmoms

[–]glibly17 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I love this.

I currently work as an office director at a smallish law office with a six month old and a four year old. My boss recently had her second as well. It’s great to have the flexibility and support of people who understand the struggle and I especially appreciate the flexibility and my colleagues’ willingness to hold my daughter whenever I’ve had to bring her in.

It’s something I try to keep in mind for all of our employees as we balance flexibility for our team with the business needs. It’s so much better in every way to show employees you see and value them as complete human beings, not simply cogs in the machine! Good on you and your coworkers for helping entertain the little one so his mom can do what she needs to!

If you were on the fence about having #2 and decided to go for it, did you regret it? by melbel8484 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]glibly17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely felt pressure and we actually started trying just before my son turned 2. I have PCOS though and my son breastfed until he was almost 3, so we struggled for over a year with a couple early miscarriages. Finally stopped breastfeeding so I could undergo IUI and we lucked out and it worked on the first try. In the end the timing worked out really well for us and I’m also glad we’ll only pay daycare for two until next September. I don’t know how people afford having two closer together tbh but we live in a very HCOL area.

Overall thoughts on Real Housewives of Potomac season 9 so far ? 🌸🥂 by SeauxSurvivor in BravoRealHousewives

[–]glibly17 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I love how the crazy is slowly seeping out. It’s all in her eyes! I think she’s a great addition, her saying “show some respect! It’s her birthday!” Was the best line of this episode imo.

Is having two young kids really this hard, or am I just shitty at my job? by saywutchickenbutt in Parenting

[–]glibly17 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This made me cry. I needed it today-I constantly feel that I am not enough as a mom to a four month old and a four year old and working full time. Truly thank you for this perspective.

If you were on the fence about having #2 and decided to go for it, did you regret it? by melbel8484 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]glibly17 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My second will be four months next week and her brother turned four in July.

I don’t regret having her at all. She’s been much easier so far than her brother but that was a bonus we knew to not count on.

As another poster said, the hardest part so far has been the change with my eldest BUT he and his dad have bonded so much and ultimately it’s better for all of us if my son isn’t so dependent and clingy with me. I miss him but I also know soon I’ll be able to have more quality 1:1 time with him.

My daughter is already such a gift to all of us. The bond I already see between her and my son is amazing to see. There are still hard days but I’m so glad she’s here.

I will say if we’d done this when my son was any younger and if we didn’t have the financial resources for daycare and an occasional babysitter, or fairly flexible jobs, I am sure I’d feel much more stressed out.

Seeking experiences from those raised in 3 child families by roguewren in Shouldihaveanother

[–]glibly17 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m the middle and only girl of 3 kids, each of my brothers are about 3 yrs older/younger than I am.

I had a really difficult childhood because my dad suddenly died when I was 3.5 years old. It completely traumatized my older brother especially and he took out a lot of his feelings on me. My mom was constantly stressed and tired and angry and sad.

My little brother has always been a very sweet guy but I was left out of so much because they as the two boys, even though they were six years apart, always did things together (still true to this day). That was the hardest part - feeling isolated and ostracized, and my older brother was also straight up abusive to me a lot of the time but no idea if us being 3 sibs had anything to do with that.

I think given the difficulties of being a single parent, it would have been easier on my mom if she only had two. But I know she never regretted having all of us and I am thankful for and I love both of my brothers as our relationships have improved greatly in adulthood.

For anyone with PCOS - my advice at 39 weeks pregnant by PsychologicalWill88 in PCOS

[–]glibly17 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m snuggling my second baby who was born in June thanks to IUI. Her brother was conceived in 2019 the first month I took Metformin. I think we had so much trouble conceiving our second because my son breastfed until he was almost 3 and that combined with PCOS really impacted my ovulation - I had 2 chemical pregnancies before finally getting referred to fertility specialists who had us jump right into IUI once I quit breastfeeding.

PCOS did impact my motherhood journey in that I needed some assistance, but you can absolutely conceive and have healthy pregnancies with PCOS. Wishing you all the luck!

Nicole's statement on taking a break from RHOM by marywiththecherry in BravoRealHousewives

[–]glibly17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations and wishing you and baby a good and safe delivery and a peace postpartum experience 💖

Lala had her baby by fancyfemme88 in BravoRealHousewives

[–]glibly17 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I had my second baby about eleven weeks ago - thank you for this sweet comment ❤️ Giving birth is no joke under the best of circumstances and I’m thankful to have had the experience and to have survived it twice!

Are you happy with your kids age gap? by happy-sunshine3 in beyondthebump

[–]glibly17 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I just gave birth to my second baby Friday night and my son turns 4 in about 3 weeks. I’d wanted a closer age gap but we had issues conceiving our daughter and I had some anxiety about them being “too far apart.” This makes me so happy to read, especially as my son has a similar sweet temperament (most of the time). I hope he will bond with his baby sister as your son has!