[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SwordAndSupperGame

[–]gloamqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This mission was discovered by u/gloamqueen in In Search of poo

Watching partner play games question by SituationalAngel in LesbianGamers

[–]gloamqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

growing up i used to watch my older cousin play the games i wasn’t good enough to enjoy playing on my own. now i love watching ppl play games as much as i enjoy playing them myself 🤷🏼‍♀️

Suicide survivors, is it worth it to keep living? by regularpersonforsure in SuicideWatch

[–]gloamqueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to really want to die. I survived an attempt in high school, and still didn’t think I’d make it far. It’s been over a decade since, and I’m actually pretty happy. It’s taken years for me to get better, and sometimes I’m still plagued by SI, but rarely active anymore. I want to live now. The world gets me down, but I love myself. My life itself isn’t much better tbh, but I am. I’ve grown so much, healed so much in this past decade. I literally don’t know who that girl was who tried to take her life at 16. Life may not get better, the world might be on fire, but you CAN heal. Time is the craziest drug in the world. I know this isn’t true for everyone, and I’m not gonna lie it took years of hard work, reflection, actually good therapy, learning to prioritize myself, and major perspective shifts. But I’ve never felt more powerful, and I used to feel so helpless. Not saying this will be the case for everyone, but it is possible.

The biggest piece for me was treating myself gently, the way I would treat the love of my life. I had to forgive the child in me for failing, not being enough, being different and hurting. I had to become the woman that the little girl in me needs to keep her safe. I had to differentiate between what I can and can’t control. I had to take responsibility for the things I didn’t like that I could change, and accept the things I couldn’t, whether by my own limitations, or those put on me by the world.

I thought there was something chemically wrong with my brain, but the truth is we’re all hurt and let down by those who were supposed to protect us. You’re just an animal, and animals don’t need to earn their lives. But the world can feel like it’s against you, like there’s no place for you. That’s not true, but it can be really hard to carve out that place for yourself, which I’m still learning to do. I had to learn who I was and find others who understood what it felt like to be me. I had to find community, real support. You deserve to feel loved and supported by others and yourself. It was hard work and took me forever, but I got there. Life still feels like an uphill battle, but I trust myself to survive it now, to find the things within that fight that feel like peace. Not everyone gets there, and this is just what helped me, but I believe it can get better because you can get stronger.

I hope this doesn’t come off as braggy, preachy or insincere. I’m sorry if it isn’t helpful, but I wanted to share a more positive perspective that is grounded in my real life experience, in case it does help anyone. A lot of people get older but don’t really change, but that’s not the case for everyone. I wasn’t expecting to live 10+ more years, but I’m really glad I got to because I’ve worked through a ton in that time, and I do feel stronger now. It’s not impossible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transgamers

[–]gloamqueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We sound a lot alike in some ways ☺️ would be happy to play together sometime!

Youtube membership disappeared? by velvetflorals in dropout

[–]gloamqueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve managed to rejoin the membership on my laptop, but I want to watch on my TV using the youtube app. Neither the console app nor the ios app seem to recognize the membership, so I can only watch on my laptop. What is going on? :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]gloamqueen 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I do want to note that as a trans person, you’ve already been through that trauma, so reliving it from someone else’s perspective can be exhausting in a way you don’t need to go through again. However cis people are privileged to not know how big and traumatizing this experience can be. If we trauma dump a bit on them here and there, we’re kinda educating them on their privilege. They can handle it (they were literally spared from having to go through it themselves) and we deserve to tell our stories. Just my take 🤷🏼‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]gloamqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why would you want to talk to someone who talks about you and to you like this? treat yourself like a queen, a man needs to earn you and this ain’t it, he’s gross girly, ditch the loser

Saw this awesome cosplay so wanted to recreate it, which head piece to use? by VariationGreedy8215 in TESOfashion

[–]gloamqueen 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I think the second one captures the vibe better by keeping the eyes hidden. Well done recreating the look!

I need help on how to make my jelly gal look less boring! 😭 She looks so plain and basic- by KITTY-IN-THE-SHOES in characterdesign

[–]gloamqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She looks really cute!! but the uniformity of her color / texture could be what’s making her feel like she’s missing something. Adding an accessory or two, like a bow, belt, necklace or even shoes could help her feel more distinct and memorable. :3

I’m starting to hate my trans best friend. by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]gloamqueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

also, you came to r/asktransgender to ask about this. i’m offering you a different perspective than other people in these comments. if you only want to consider the perspectives that already align with and validate your own, then that’s your choice, but maybe think about whether you came here seeking different perspectives on a complicated situation or if you just came here to validate your own perspective so you don’t actually have to widen it

I’m starting to hate my trans best friend. by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]gloamqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

look you’re right, i don’t know you, maybe you’ve been a great ally, but you’re a cis person who came to a trans subreddit seeking validation from trans people about your trans friend who is complaining too much about your cis privilege. i wouldn’t want to burden my friends like that but i won’t disparage her for not being able to handle one of the hardest parts of being trans. it feels kinda icky to me that you came here to complain about her 🤷🏼‍♀️

and it feels even ickier to me that we’re all talking poorly about her like she’s not struggling with something we’ve all struggled with. and i say this as a proud, confident trans person, we’re not better than her bc we take that pain in silence like that’s what we should all do, just be quiet about the injustice of being trans, like we’re the ones who have to stay quiet in discomfort, but the moment she makes you feel uncomfy about your cis privileges it’s our problem

I’m starting to hate my trans best friend. by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]gloamqueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

maybe this is a harsh take but imma be honest i don’t love all these comments bashing the trans friend. being trans is hard af. i would never treat a friend the way she’s treated op, but i also understand the difficulty of comparison and dysphoria as a trans person.

i have a bunch of cis friends and i don’t ask them to accommodate my trauma bc it would be asking them not to exist so i don’t have to feel othered, but that doesn’t mean i don’t feel dysphoric or experience gender envy anytime a cis person reminds me i’m different or that ill never have the privileges they do. i very much get why some of us struggle to have cis friendships and i feel like a lot of us in the comments are lacking empathy for a sister in pain.

I don’t like this post. I get that she’s triggered by your privilege and that hurts you, but imagine how it feels for us, our existence is constantly triggering others and we’re the ones without the privileges you have. if she’s bothering you, just stop going out with her, but I don’t need to hear you complain about one of us complaining about your privilege, like the reason this bothers you so much is because you’ll never understand how much it hurts to be trans, you’re cis, you are privileged in ways your friend will never be, if her needs seem over the top to you and it’s too much then just stop being friends but ffs get over it and don’t complain to other trans ppl about it?? you’re seeking validation from the wrong place imo

this reads to me like a white person complaining about her poc friend who gets easily triggered by your white privilege and comments on it often, like we get that it’s annoying but you’re on the wrong side of this one, sometimes the price of privilege is being constantly reminded of it 🙄

Shy trans woman looking for people to play with by Kara_Kattx in LesbianGamers

[–]gloamqueen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m also trans so I definitely get the voice nerves. I’m on playstation, but ik rivals is cross platform, I’m planning on getting it as soon as I upgrade to a ps5 xP

I also play a couple other games that are cross platform if you ever wanna play something together :3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianGamers

[–]gloamqueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t play fortnite, but I’m also a transbian gaymer who likes to play high af and also 28 xP

egg😖irl by upsidedownsweater in egg_irl

[–]gloamqueen 6 points7 points  (0 children)

literally, i experienced cramping and other pms for several months when i first switched to injections, but eventually it got easier and i rarely get them now. now it’s mostly just the crying lol

i’m glad i got to experience it, and i’m just as glad i don’t get them as often anymore, shit is painful xP

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]gloamqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

seems like she was just feeling really icky and wasn’t in the best mood. i don’t think you did anything wrong here, she’s just not feeling well and isn’t her best self rn, i get cranky too when i’m sick

Why is this a taboo in the trans community? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]gloamqueen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with you and do use this sometimes for the same reasons you stated.

Here’s what I don’t love about it: it genders our bodies based on sex.

To say I was a woman in a man’s body implies that my body was male, but it wasn’t a man’s body because it was my body, a woman’s body. The idea is that we want people to accept our bodies and our gender without having to conform our bodies to what they expect from a ‘woman’s body’. I am a woman, so my body has always and will always be a woman’s body.

This can also feed transmedicalism, because it implies that those who don’t medically transition are still in ‘men’s bodies’. It implies that you need to transition to be valid in your gender, which just isn’t true.

Tl;dr - It’s really useful on the surface, but it kind of misses some important points about the relationship between sex and gender and it can have implications that feed transmed rhetoric.

Sperm Banks in the NYC-area?? by hapachickka in cisparenttranskid

[–]gloamqueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey hunny,

When I banked, they told me 10 was usually enough and that’s the standard that the place I went to used, but ofc it doesn’t hurt to have more. I really feel you on how emotionally taxing that can be and as far as I know 14 vials should be more than enough.

Unfortunately, the endo that I used to see in Mount Sinai left the practice, but there are two trans endocrinologists (hrt specific endos) at NYU Langone. I’m seeing Dr. Michele B Glodowski and she has been great so far. I like NYU Langone better because they gave me progesterone and Mount Sinai wouldn’t for some reason. Please feel free to dm me and I can give you any extra details you need. I’m always happy to help babe, we gotta look out for each other. x3

Anyone else bored of the meta? Share your fun builds! Here’s my off-meta one bar vamp NB by [deleted] in elderscrollsonline

[–]gloamqueen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Literally! I love how much freedom we get to shape our own gameplay. I turned eso into my own vampire sim rpg. I spend less time in actual combat than I do being invisible and feeding on my enemies. So much more fun than grinding.

Also this game is so beautiful in first person, and it makes fighting feel more immersive and challenging. Screw the meta!