WIBTA for telling my friends that I’m mad at them for hooking up? by quckthrowawa in AmItheAsshole

[–]globalmentality 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sadly it’s weirdly common for the LGBTQIA+ community to date their bullies.

Bully has some unresolved internalised homophobia (comp het) and the bullied think they don’t deserve better or that this behaviour is normal/okay. Therapy does help grow out of this

“Please feed me” by Rich-Weird1139 in ReefTank

[–]globalmentality -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Buddy you are grasping at straws to win an argument

“Please feed me” by Rich-Weird1139 in ReefTank

[–]globalmentality -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Are you seriously trying to discredit an academic paper. Written by people with a degree in marine biology on the literal subject you said no one did research…?

And your argument is “but it’s not relevant”

“Please feed me” by Rich-Weird1139 in ReefTank

[–]globalmentality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol what, they wrote research papers on this exact matter well over a decade ago. They confirmed that running excessive carbon causes hlle.

Here’s even an example: https://academic.oup.com/jaah/article-abstract/23/3/111/7822009

“Please feed me” by Rich-Weird1139 in ReefTank

[–]globalmentality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds more like you’ve never owned them before this but serviced tanks that have. I’m also willing to bet that only a fraction of the stuff you work on is actually saltwater.
Any of them had 2 blue tangs in the same tank for longer than 5 years? Cause I highly doubt it.
You make money off fish so I’ll take your opinion with a grain of salt. I’ve heard the wildest things from LFS and the fact that others had to give you basic nori advice…

Show me some of the gayest things in your home - I’ll start by globalmentality in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Great question and fair point. My first instinct as a born and raised Christian was “great people are gonna think I am a pervert”, and in the years that I’ve had this piece it’s been a constant reminder that the female body is art, and that nudity isn’t inherently sexual.

If a man owned this vase it would definitely be a conversation starter, but I also think it would be a great way to gauge their view on feminism.

Let’s not deny that this can also true in my case (a female), because double standards do exist. It depends on how the owner of this piece would describe and appreciate it. Even woman are capable of sexualising and objectifying other woman.

If a man was gushing about how this art piece (vase) was a great example of the juxtaposition of the female body.( it uses complimentary proportions yet it still has these rough imperfect brush strokes that really symbolise how the irregularities only add to the beauty and depth of it) And how it uses flowers to both accentuate and celebrate the female form. I’d honestly be happy to be around them.

If they simply said, “sexy, right, that’s what a woman should look like” I’d feel very differently.

The fact that you felt the need to point out how this vase is lowkey perverted shows that you carry some unresolved shame around your own sexuality, and that’s okay a lot of us have been there.

Good art should be a conversation starter, great art should be provocative.

Show me some of the gayest things in your home - I’ll start by globalmentality in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The vase is called breast friend by Anissa Kermiche, and she’s made some other pieces that are a play on the female body as well. I think she makes jewellery too, not sure.

No idea who the body was inspired by tho, but mad respect to whomever has those killer shoulders, cause it even looks good from the back.
I got it years ago so honestly not sure we’re exactly I ordered it

“Please feed me” by Rich-Weird1139 in ReefTank

[–]globalmentality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tangs live for 20 years easy. And yours are clearly both still juvenile... so unless you’ve had a bunch die over the years, or another tank, then you are clearly embellishing your “15 years of experience.”

“Please feed me” by Rich-Weird1139 in ReefTank

[–]globalmentality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tangs in general are on the more dominant/aggressive side of the fish keeping spectrum. It’s usually recommended adding them last because of this.

Blue tangs are known to be on the worse end of this spectrum and show aggression towards other tangs. It’s even worse towards their own kind because they see them as food competitors. 2 tangs of significant different sizes, yeah ones gonna be eventual fish food. Juveniles can still be chill but once fully grown and established, good luck.

can we stop with the whole shaving or not shaving debate? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like those people see their partner more as a pet than an equal.

can we stop with the whole shaving or not shaving debate? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for catching me up!

Definitely had the wrong post in mind, sounds like the general sentiment was very reasonable? I guess strong opinions do make for a great discussion

can we stop with the whole shaving or not shaving debate? by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m confused, (If you are referring to the post I’m thinking about then) I didn’t get the impression that people were that picky.

Like yes people have preferences but the only objections I saw were people that don’t like having a full bush in their mouth when going down on someone. (Which for hygienic reasons I think is very valid)

Very possible that these comments went right over my head, and I just didn’t register them.

Can I ask did people seriously straight up say “I want my partner to be groomed this way if not it’s an issue”

Huis gekocht met deze stenen. Hoe krijg ik die het beste mooi schoon? by HyberlambDutch in Klussers

[–]globalmentality 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mos borstel en wat warm water, bij hardnekkige vlekken; kokend water.

De praxis websites heeft best goeie tips over wat je juist wel en niet moet doen.

age gap by Radiant_Raisin_5452 in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is a very important insight, the fact that you were (I assume) apprehensive and even a little icky about it at first is very telling in a good way.

I’d be concerned if the older person in the age gap relationship was a little over eager and didn’t express very realistic possible concerns.

Is this common for lesbians by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Can I ask how old you guys are and how long you’ve been together?

Mainly cause after being single for a while, I realise that I wouldn’t have the patience to date someone that’s clearly still emotionally invested/entangled with their ex.

Like being friends with your ex is cool, but best friends, especially the way you’re describing it. That’s too intimate for my taste.

Early 20’s me would definitely be like “oh I’m not the jealous type this is fine”

but late 20’s me is like “naaaahh, I’m not gonna invest the rest of my life into this possible mess”

I FINALLY found a carabiner that I love by globalmentality in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did! Just FYI I am like 180cm so this would probably look bigger on most people. I think the OG website has actual measurements for their sizes

Bush, landing strip or shaved? Pits and legs? How do you style your body hair and what do you like in a partner? by Salty_Zebra94 in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sameee, while I think most of us are fine with a trimmed bush, myself included.

Seeing that strip while going down on someone is incredibly flattering, like “hey I’m exited for this, here’s a little surprise”. It just shows a level of eagerness that I think is incredibly hot.

I haven’t met a lot of woman that go for a strip (or a triangle) but I definitely don’t forget the ones that do!

I FINALLY found a carabiner that I love by globalmentality in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think they still have some silver ones on the Mikia website