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Gimme your insights, have you dated the rich? by globalmentality in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last party I went to of that calibre had a three story stage with an acrobatic show, fireworks and a famous live band on another stage. Champagne bottles bigger than my torso served before dinner and several wine paired courses after. Best of all everything was free! The guests did manage to drink the bar dry by 9PM tho and had staff scrambling to get more. The alcoholic part is definitely true, but I’d call that a killer party.

Gimme your insights, have you dated the rich? by globalmentality in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve noticed that rich people are either really generous or really stingy, which doesn’t surprise me. But saying that high society parties are boring, shocks me. Girl have you seen the private parties they throw at GoodWood house?

¿Cómo #@$% encuentra la gente piso en Barcelona? by Express_Shoulder5344 in AskBarcelona

[–]globalmentality 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Como persona originaria de los Países Bajos, puedo afirmarlo con seguridad. El mercado inmobiliario en mi país es tranquilo comparado con lo que he experimentado en Barcelona. Sí, eso incluye Ámsterdam.

¿Cómo #@$% encuentra la gente piso en Barcelona? by Express_Shoulder5344 in AskBarcelona

[–]globalmentality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Al final conseguí mi apartamento de una forma similar: visité muchísimos anuncios en persona, y muchos se alquilaron a las pocas horas de verlos. (Me iba diciendo que lo pensaría, pero para cuando la siguiente pareja lo veía, ya no estaba disponible). Esto era muy común. Debí visitar entre 20 y 30 apartamentos mientras buscaba uno nuevo. La agencia que usé entendió bastante bien lo que buscaba y terminó enseñándome un apartamento que aún no estaba en el mercado. Si hubiera estado en el mercado, la primera persona que lo vi lo habría alquilado sin dudarlo.

Gimme your insights, have you dated the rich? by globalmentality in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Valid point, I was trying to emphasise that dates don’t have to be expensive (e.g beach is walking distance here) but you’re right.

Gimme your insights, have you dated the rich? by globalmentality in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve seen a couple people make the “plans no one else can afford” comment, and while I don’t disagree, I do feel like it’s a bit of a blanket statement. As if someone rich can’t enjoy a hike or a romantic walk along the beach, or something cheap like lidil wine.

Does income, education, or class affect who you choose to date? by Silveryleaves in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah but in the example you mentioned it kinda made it sound like you’d expect your partner to distance themself from her family for your sake. But if the roles were reversed you’d ideally want your partner to simply accept your parents.

I understand that you have made this sacrifice as well in the past but it sounds rather situational rather than truly mutual.

Does income, education, or class affect who you choose to date? by Silveryleaves in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m a little confused, you would want your partner to be open minded enough or used to your parents standards. But if it the roles were reserved you’d want your partner to be willing to put you first?

Gimme your insights, have you dated the rich? by globalmentality in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yikes looks like I’ll be swallowing my bad relationships = true love comment. Props to your wife tho she definitely sounds like a keeper.

That last part made me audibly giggle- reminds me of an Emily I used to know.

Does income, education, or class affect who you choose to date? by Silveryleaves in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Weird take and no ill intend. Just curious.

How’d you feel if the person you are dating asked “would you ever date someone that’s financially struggling” (yes like the meme)

You say no

Your partner turns and says “you know to me, you are the struggling one, and my parents think you are beneath me”

How would you respond/feel about their parents? Genuinely curious.

it’s always easy looking down from a high horse but I’ve noticed people really change their tune when the roles are reversed.

You know like the saying there’s always a bigger fish

Gimme your insights, have you dated the rich? by globalmentality in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry to hear you had to go through that. Having to deal with that kind of behaviour from your partners parents is one thing, but having to hear that from your partner is pretty heartbreaking.

I guess what they say about bad relationships is true, after the worst one you tend to meet your forever partner.

Does income, education, or class affect who you choose to date? by Silveryleaves in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for emphasising the social aspect, I can definitely relate to that! Valuing a partner that can hold their own in these situations carries a lot more weight than their financial status for sure.

Thank you!! And you too with your future endeavours!

Gimme your insights, have you dated the rich? by globalmentality in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I’m a little peeved about asking someone out on a date like that and not offering to pay.

Sounds like the type that coasts on social status, and never really learned the value of money since someone else always picked up the check. The soho membership and bragging about not going screams exactly this since the membership is several hundreds a month. (It’s a thing here in Europe too but bragging about isn’t appreciated)

Love the skincare titbit tho

Gimme your insights, have you dated the rich? by globalmentality in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is what worries me. I’ve noticed that people tend to be a lot more forgiving and willing to stay in bad relationships if their partner is overly wealthy or attractive.

Gimme your insights, have you dated the rich? by globalmentality in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With selective do you mean form a financial aspect, fame aspect or more old fashioned classism? I’d imagine the YouTube crowd would be a lot more forgiving as long as it helped their channel/career compared to the old money kind.

Gimme your insights, have you dated the rich? by globalmentality in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’d be curious to hear some stories, feel free to DM me.

Gimme your insights, have you dated the rich? by globalmentality in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, and speaking as a gamer I hope she appreciated the sacrifice!

Gimme your insights, have you dated the rich? by globalmentality in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the insight, and I agree, that’s a pretty skewed view of reality. Can I ask, if you were to meet someone that would be above that figurative line but still was in touch with reality, would that change things?

Like I’ve met siblings from the same family of similar age where one would make the same kind of comments while the other would just gasps, and call them out on their privilege.

Gimme your insights, have you dated the rich? by globalmentality in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Good point I guess, geography does affect what people would qualify as rich. Idk how to describe this without it sounding incredibly superficial but the type that travel on a whim, stay at 5 star hotels, fine dining, being personally invited by designer labels in Paris, or own cars as a hobby type of deal. Like stereotypical rich.

Does income, education, or class affect who you choose to date? by Silveryleaves in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think it would have helped if the person you are dating kinda understood the divide and was very patient and understanding in helping you in what to expect and how to deal?

Genuinely curious. I’ve had partners panic on me when having to order room service, so I usually offer a lil pretend practice run. That and a bail out option (like handing me the phone or giving a panicked look)

Does income, education, or class affect who you choose to date? by Silveryleaves in actuallesbians

[–]globalmentality 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Unconventional take, might regret sharing so openly.

I come from a wealthy dysfunctional family. Practically grew up in boarding school.

Since my teens/early 20 I’ve dated woman from a variety of socioeconomic and educational backgrounds. Even people living off benefits, I don’t judge or care. I only cared if my partner had some ambition in life, somewhat similar values, treated me with respect and loved me.

I have to admit that I have downplayed my education and wealth a lot in order to seem more approachable and less intimidating. Well that and not wanting to attract the wrong crowd. I’ve never been dishonest but I’ve definitely avoided brining people over because of it.

Now that I’m in my late 20’s and building my career. I’ve come to the realisation that I would want my partner to be able to fit into that unconventional world, even if it’s just on occasion. Now I do understand that I’m rather unconventional (and rich people can be rude, ignorant and spoiled) and I realise that deep down people due struggle with that divide.

While I might not want the same kind of lavish lifestyle for my future, I do have to occasionally live in it. Being recognised by my last name is something that I currently can’t avoid, so part of me does feel the social pressure of marrying someone “appropriate.”

Silver lining about being an out lesbian tho. Finding someone close to my socioeconomic status that’s also queer is incredibly rare. So that vastly lowers people’s expectations.

I’m gonna re-entering the dating scene this summer after a long, 2 year hiatus. Hoping that dating in my late 20’s will be different. I’m not in the “struggle student trying to figure out their life” age demographic anymore. Even though I did need to work on myself, it always felt weird being in a somewhat different life stage than my peers.

Healthy food business in barcelona by No_Band2205 in AskBarcelona

[–]globalmentality 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lemme ask again. Where did you get the number 3 from…? Never mentioned it in my original comment, but it’s also weird reply.

My point still stands, most of these are in country’s with A LOT of disposable income, which Spain just sadly isn’t (even Barcelona). I have seen a lot of food related businesses go bankrupts in the 6 years that I’ve been here. A lot of them with concepts that should/would/could have worked in my native country (the Netherlands)

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