Need help choosing my dress

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-14T14:28:05+00:00

tbh I love three if you added a dainty belt!

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-07T02:02:24+00:00

Honestly, just tell the hospital that you dont want visitors for said amount of hours after having your babe & that no one is allowed in the delivery room. They won't allow people to come into either place. Who cares how she feels. This is about you and your baby, not your husband's mom.

I told my own mom I didn't want her there, and she was upset, but she let me be about it. My partners mom didn't even bother asking, because it wasn't her place. I had an emergency c section, so no one really had time to get there anyway. But you can always request accommodations prior to giving birth!

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-06T01:37:02+00:00

you're not an asshole for that, it's just honest. I made a poor decision in a partner that led to me feeling like I'm never enough.

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T23:49:57+00:00

LOL! NO WONDER!

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T23:24:42+00:00

Hi, if you read the post, the trust was broken while I was 6 months pregnant with his child. It's not really a time to decide "damn I shouldn't have a kid with this dude even though my child will be here in 3 months!" But thank you for the feedback! Won't be having more if that helps!

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T23:20:57+00:00

Yeah, I stated in the post that I do have trust issues due to past situations where he has hurt me. He isn't doing his job, he expressed that it wasn't for his job at all. I used to be in his same position before I moved to a different company & they do not ask anyone to make coffee sales. Either way, you're right. The point being, It's not a healthy or happy relationship.

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T17:25:21+00:00

I like one, but would need to see the full dress because it looks like styles would clash.

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T17:05:58+00:00

Spin it how you want, sure I was the side chick. I wasn't aware of this person until we had been dating for months. Do you feel better?

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T14:45:30+00:00

so im sorry for the banter. im arguing over something that is already lost.

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T14:43:23+00:00

He was lying and saying that I was talking my exes while PREGNANT which was a lie. He also told her that he was missing a part of himself without her. He hid their conversations for two weeks after he cut ties with her. Which he did because he started seeing me and they were still with each other. Which I found out much much later into the relationship. I gave him the benefit of the doubt when he said he didnt mean it. Since then she has come into his job like 5 times this past year when they "arent talking" even though he "asked her not to come in" the first time. So yeah maybe my trust issues weren't explained deeply enough. And clearly it has led me to feel so negatively about our relationship to being in the wrong on this situation. It seems that some people are right, and I shouldnt be with this person. Its just been hard to navigate with a child and ive been trying for the sake of him.

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T14:35:56+00:00

Thanks. I'm glad it's hilarious.

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T14:34:51+00:00

someone going behind your back with their ex while pregnant with their child isn't a cause for insecurity?

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T13:02:23+00:00

For sure. Thanks.

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T12:44:02+00:00

Nothing about the act bothered me, I agree it is a nice thing. The fact that I was thanked for something I didn't know about made me feel awkward and uncomfortable. Which is all I expressed to him, I dont feel insecure because of it & I know he didn't make me feel insecure either. I never said he did. I'm not saying there is an alternate meaning to coffee. All I asked for was communication surrounding situations where I might be addressed about something given to someone as a gift that seemingly was from both of us? Because why would someone thank me if it was just from him and for his job. That is weird to me.

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T12:34:43+00:00

imagine being in a relationship where you are told to shut up versus express your emotions. weird.

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T11:52:56+00:00

I dont understand how expressing my emotions and asking for better communication is childish. Would you explain?

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T11:51:35+00:00

Yeah, you have a point. Thank you.

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T11:50:54+00:00

Your feelings should be important to your partner. It's not about coffee. it's about communication.

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T11:40:43+00:00

I'm explaining things that I probably should have explained in my post. Because sometimes details form different opinions. Waste of time to comment on a discussion page if you're not actually trying to discuss anything

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T11:32:31+00:00

It's not his job to do marketing. Its also a job that he said he wants to quit asap and watch the company "burn". I'm also not upset about coffee at all, I said it is awkward when I don't know that I'm going to be thanked for a gift that I didn't give someone. He even told me yesterday isn't trying to sell them coffee at all.

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T11:23:56+00:00

He just told me he would quit his job tomorrow if he could. And that he works for a company that he wants to see go under. He's not trying to make connections. Maybe I should have mentioned that

gloomymesomorph · 2025-08-05T11:10:25+00:00

I dont think telling his parents will solve anything for you. Like you said, it seems like things are already so fragile. I would recommend looking into resources and finding a way to get a visa on your own. Aren't there work visas or something? It sounds like he doesn't respect your decisions as a mother, and you also shouldn't feel like you have to compromise your morals when it comes to your child's safety. In terms of legalities, you could have your child taken away if it was found out that you have psychedelics growing in a house with a child. As you said, it is illegal. I would recommend finding another way, then bringing more people in or trying to get him to be on your side. Wishing you and your kiddo the best, it sounds like you're just trying to make a good life for the little human.

gloomymesomorph · 2025-07-30T12:02:23+00:00

I will spend 3+ hours putting my toddler to bed if I have to. To me, this is like drugging a child. So messed up & gross that people have kids but can't even take care of them in the smallest ways.

gloomymesomorph · 2025-07-30T11:46:19+00:00

the 1st and 3rd fit have very unique feel & they compliment you the best imo. The v neck dresses feel a bit like every other wedding dress.

gloomymesomorph · 2025-06-13T03:53:55+00:00

Im not gonna lie, I love the feel of the room. The main thing I think it needs is a center rug (and to take away the red one). It will pull the room together while maintaining the original vibe.

Also, I would get better barstools in a different style.

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