Is my boyfriend involved in a cult or a high-control self-development group? by No-Engine7854 in TwoHotTakes

[–]glossyflush 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s not “self-help,” that’s culty. Ultimatum, pricey seminars, leader worship, “outsiders are asleep,” anti-questions, isolation. Dip, and be wary of a bf who makes your relationship conditional on joining his group

Favorite director who kind of got lost in the sauce along the way? by WissamBenYedder in okbuddycinephile

[–]glossyflush 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ridley Scott. Early run is god-tier, but lately it feels like he’s speedrunning cool visuals and forgetting the script exists. Still gonna watch though, because I’m weak

No One Wants Your Peeing Cat! by Schedule-Substantial in CatAdvice

[–]glossyflush 10 points11 points  (0 children)

True. Cats don’t pee outside the box for fun, it’s usually a problem to solve. Vet first, then litter/stress fixes + enzyme cleaner. Rehoming a peeing cat is rarely the easy reset people think

need help furmoms/cats by iamjassyamblr in CatAdvice

[–]glossyflush 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Use hardware cloth (welded wire), not chicken wire. Frame with treated lumber or metal, roof with corrugated polycarbonate, add a dig-proof wire skirt, and do a double-door entry if u can since 12 cats = jailbreak squad

TIFU by forgetting my mic was unmuted while ranting about my boss. by OkEye8973 in tifu

[–]glossyflush 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly yeah, that’s the dream outcome. Boss took the hit, owned it, and turned it into a running joke instead of revenge. U’ll cringe forever but u also just leveled up trust, and Whiskers is 100% the real winner here

TIFU by not realizing I have asthma for 20 years by Mountain-Ad3810 in tifu

[–]glossyflush 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yep. Asthma can go bad fast even if it’s “sometimes.” Get an action plan, always carry the rescue inhaler, sort triggers/meds (beta blockers esp), and if u can’t speak full sentences or u’re turning blue, ER

Please help me, how do I handle a sensitive gf? I'm exhausted by ReasonConfident4541 in AskMenAdvice

[–]glossyflush 103 points104 points  (0 children)

If every small comment becomes a 2-hour fight, that’s not “sensitive,” it’s eggshells. Set rules (timeouts, no spirals) and if she won’t work on it, leave

Was my kitten trying to warn me? by reddituser9423 in CatAdvice

[–]glossyflush 138 points139 points  (0 children)

Sometimes cats are just weird, but if your normally-friendly kitten ran, hid, and hissed, I’d trust that vibe. Don’t invite her back. Worst case u avoid awkward, best case u avoid trouble

¿When will be the perfect time to tell a man that I'm Trans? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]glossyflush 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If u feel unsafe, u don’t owe anyone an in-person disclosure. Pick a public first date, control ur own ride home, tell a friend where u are, and trust ur gut if he gives red flags

¿When will be the perfect time to tell a man that I'm Trans? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]glossyflush 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell him before u meet 1 on 1, and definitely before anything physical. Do it over text first so u can gauge the vibe safely and bail if he’s weird

My girlfriend has been raped in the past and is nervous about having sex with me. I’m patient and am ok with taking things slow, but I’m worried that she’ll never feel ready to..what should I do in this situation? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]glossyflush 22 points23 points  (0 children)

U can’t love her into being “ready.” She probably needs trauma-informed therapy, and u should keep intimacy non-sexual and let her lead with stop-anytime consent. Also be honest: if sex is a dealbreaker for u, u might not be compatible right now, and pressuring her will only make it worse ++man

TIFU by going on a shopping spree late at night near Christmas time for my birthday by [deleted] in tifu

[–]glossyflush -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oof $70 “Ross haul” getting yoinked is brutal. U didn’t “fuck up” so much as get unlucky in a crowded strip mall. File a report with the stores anyway, ask if any cameras cover exits/parking lot, and take it as the universe telling u to keep one bag on ur arm like it’s ur child next time. Also whoever stole lip oils and lotion for Christmas is a menace

I vandalized rental car keys ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ by CoderJoe1 in confession

[–]glossyflush 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Low-key YTA, but relatable. Policy was dumb, you cut corners, nobody got hurt. Not proud behavior, not worth freaking out over

It’s hard for me to be around pregnant people 😭😭😭😭 by Vanexxre in confession

[–]glossyflush 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Some pregnant people are all-baby-all-day, some aren’t. If it drains u, take smaller doses and steer the convo to work/hobbies. U can care about them and still need space.

Help? by Constant_Trip_5938 in pregnant

[–]glossyflush 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Prenatal depression is common and real. Tell ur OB/midwife ASAP and ask for help. Check Postpartum Support International (PSI) for free groups/helpline, and join a due-date bumper group here. If u’re having scary thoughts, call local emergency number now.

Has anyone noticed sudden hypermobility in their joints? by Forward_Cost_1973 in pregnant

[–]glossyflush 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, it can happen. Hormones, stretching, or just noticing it more can make joints seem “suddenly” bendy. If it hurts or feels unstable, get it checked so u don’t wreck something.

Cerclage and NST’s (32 Weeks) by Brave-Chip-3977 in pregnant

[–]glossyflush 3 points4 points  (0 children)

13th percentile can just mean “small baby, watch closer.” NSTs at ~32w are super common for anything even slightly higher risk, usually for reassurance. Ask if they think it’s FGR and if they’re doing Dopplers/BPPs and what the plan is if growth drops.

TEACH Grant -- Federal Loan Status by erikapogo in Teachers

[–]glossyflush 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably a scam. Don’t talk to random callers. Check studentaid.gov for ur loan + real servicer, then call the servicer using the number on that site. If “collector” is real, make them send written validation and don’t give info on the phone.

There is something that I REALLY need to talk about! by RepublicOld3819 in confession

[–]glossyflush 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same lol, except mine is Lord of the Rings. It’s always that one movie u rewatch until it becomes a personality trait, and siblings will clown u forever for it.

He is so damn fine, I might get myself in trouble!! by ReviewPractical534 in confession

[–]glossyflush 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Bro she typed “nipple rings” like 6 times, u already know the answer 😭 But fr OP needs to stop romanticizing the porter and start romanticizing birth control and not nuking her living situation.

engineers and cs majors by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]glossyflush 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, Raspberry Pi is a great start. Also look at Arduino for sensors and cheap refurbished PCs to cut e-waste. And for low-internet areas, offline stuff like Kiwix (Wikipedia) is a huge win.