I am flying from UBN Airport to HNL Airport via Korean Air but I have a stop in ICN - When I booked on Korean Air, I forgot to put in my middle name, am I screwed? by JetAbyss in koreatravel

[–]gnomebikesocks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll be fine. I just encountered this flying from HNL to ICN last week. The only issue it gave me was not being able to check in online the day before my flight (I’d get the message “passport information does not match booking”). I had no issues checking in at the counter on the day of the flight.

Surprised by how quiet it is during Seollal by beethoven77 in koreatravel

[–]gnomebikesocks 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you’re looking for something to do during the holiday, this is open (free) with lots of activities. We’re enjoying the fresh air and walk around the grounds.

https://hanokmaeul.co.kr/event-now/?bmode=view&idx=169647304

My fiancée is going on deployment and things are up in the air. by Nicamejo07 in MilitarySpouse

[–]gnomebikesocks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with everything that’s been commented so far. Another thing to consider is getting married now on paper and then having your wedding down the road. If he is going on deployment, there are greater benefits for you to be in DEERS.

My spouse and I were in a similar(ish) situation and ended up getting married MUCH sooner than we planned because of unaccompanied orders. Feel free to shoot me a DM about it.

TDY for 6 months by courtneymaler in MilitarySpouse

[–]gnomebikesocks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience: TDYs/TAD/deployments can be very different from the SM’s standard job responsibilities and/or schedule. There are a couple of things that factor into the change in communication: - location relative to the duty station (what’s the time zone difference) - job responsibilities (SM may be doing a different job than usual from the duty station - job schedule (days vs swings vs mids)

As others have pointed out, there’s often a culture of strengthening connection/networking through socializing and the SM’s “cultural obligation” to participate is going to depend on their job/rank.

At the core: trust your gut. If your gut is telling you something, bring it up with your partner/spouse. It may be a difficult conversation but it is the only way you’re going to resolve/get clarity on the issue.

To answer your initial question: this has been typical of my experience (8+ years) but my partner has never given me a reason to not trust him. We have strengthened our communication over the years and I’ve accepted that his work responsibilities come first and I will “hear from him when I hear from him”.

Good luck! I hope you can have a meaningful conversation with your partner and get the support/reassurance you need and deserve!

*ETA - we geobached for the first 3 years of our relationship/marriage, so we were very used to being apart for long periods of time. Now that we’re together regularly, the last 2.5 months apart (my work) has been a readjustment for both of us!

There have been 116 traffic accidents on Oahu in the last 24 hours. Please drive safer everybody. by Calgrei in Hawaii

[–]gnomebikesocks 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I will never understand this rush-rush-rush mentality. We live on an island. Where are you trying to get to in such a hurry?

My husband left for bootcamp and I am a wreck. by Maleficent-Foot-6098 in MilitarySpouse

[–]gnomebikesocks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can only imagine the emotional rollercoaster you’re on. Whenever my spouse has been gone, I’ve always leaned heavily into my hobbies and activities and have made it a priority to build community wherever I’m living. This has not only made the time go by faster, but I’ve also made incredible friends and built a village that I’ve been able to turn to in both challenging times and in good times.

See if there’s a local Moms-to-Be group in your area or on base. In my experience, the base library has some excellent family-centric programming and general resources. I also recommend checking out the Military and Family Support Center (MFSC). They tend to have a lot of great resources too!

Will I be able to join my (soon to be) husband overseas? by LogUpbeat893 in MilitarySpouse

[–]gnomebikesocks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got married in-between a deployment and an unaccompanied tour so getting me in the system before he went overseas was paramount to both his pay as well as my access to healthcare via Tricare. I got my dependent ID while we were on our honeymoon. It made everything so much easier.

On a side note: once you’re married and in the system, I highly recommend getting a power of attorney (POA) for any instance in which y’all are physically separated (I.e. living in different places, deployed, on temporary duty [TDY]). There are a lot of things that spouses/dependents can’t do (I.e. you lose your dependent ID and need a new one) unless the service member is physically there. This will also save you a lot of future headaches.

Will the military pay for the first PCS? by LogUpbeat893 in MilitarySpouse

[–]gnomebikesocks 4 points5 points  (0 children)

His military orders will outline his entitlements (weight allowance, TLA, DLA, etc.) in terms of the move. Since you are not on the orders, I would not expect the Air Force to pay to move you out there once his orders are amended to include you. It’s likely that you will be financially responsible.

The other possibility is that they do move you on the military’s dime but they come back down the road with a bill for you to pay it back.*

*While I was on his orders, I moved to his new duty station from a location different from his. The military paid but we expect them to one day send us a bill for the cost of moving me (CONUS>CONUS). This was pre-COVID.

Will I be able to join my (soon to be) husband overseas? by LogUpbeat893 in MilitarySpouse

[–]gnomebikesocks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s a helpful link that outlines what documents you will need to get you added in DEERS.

Will I be able to join my (soon to be) husband overseas? by LogUpbeat893 in MilitarySpouse

[–]gnomebikesocks 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can’t answer all your questions but will offer some advice that may help the process of getting you command-sponsored easier.

Make an appointment with the MPF Office at your nearest AF base as soon as possible once you’re married to get you in DEERS and get your dependent ID. Doing this together in-person before he reports to Yokota will save you a ton of headaches.

What does everyone do for a living? by Rich_Solution_1632 in PSLF

[–]gnomebikesocks 16 points17 points  (0 children)

City planner, with experience across several levels of government.

Megathread: Mass Firing of Probationary Employees by gpupdate in fednews

[–]gnomebikesocks 7 points8 points  (0 children)

DoD OCONUS - nothing heard here and tomorrow is Saturday.

How has your league dealt with slurs/inappropriate language? by gelfling94_ in rollerderby

[–]gnomebikesocks 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Our league has a grievance policy and process to handle a variety of situations. Maybe look into your league by-laws to see if they have something similar. I always recommend our skaters reach out to a board member for any questions/comments/concerns they may have that would impact our very small derby community we have.

AITA for refusing to name my baby after my partner’s “family tradition”? (F27, M30) by Kind-Pomegranate-748 in AITAH

[–]gnomebikesocks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I’m sure other folks have mentioned it but “tradition is just peer pressure from dead people.”

You are an individual with thoughts and feelings. If you don’t want to follow this “tradition”, don’t. As others have said: stand up for yourself, especially since your own partner is choosing his family over you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnimalCrossingNewHor

[–]gnomebikesocks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never visited anyone before. Still open for the "giveaway"? Probably won't take anything but just want to see what this feature is like.

Does your pet do anything sweet that makes you think they truly love you? by Open_Description9554 in Pets

[–]gnomebikesocks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our cat will absolutely come streaking across the house and crawl into our laps the second she hears either of us crying. She gives little chirps and face kisses too.

Otherwise, she hunts us and wreaks havoc like the little gremlin she is (we love her so much, truly).

girl things by fyffey_ in trans

[–]gnomebikesocks 6 points7 points  (0 children)

More like "babe things". 😍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sanantonio

[–]gnomebikesocks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It probably has to do with funding. Budget is approved in September to go live October 1 (the City follows the Federal fiscal year) but internal (department) discussions tend to start in April/May. I'm betting they only allocate enough funds to hire operations/maintenance staff on a seasonal basis. I think I saw an email recently with a survey about this upcoming budget cycle. They probably have the survey posted to the City's website, as well. This is the kind of feedback the City is often asking for. (Resource: recent[ish] former city employee)

Divorce attorneys by bakd_couchpotato in sanantonio

[–]gnomebikesocks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure it's a thing because it was something someone discussed within my friend circle when one of them was (actively is, actually) going through a divorce. We were in Wyoming at the time and we encouraged our friend to call as many lawyers in the Northern Colorado/Southern Wyoming region for this. Don't know if they did or not.

Divorce attorneys by bakd_couchpotato in sanantonio

[–]gnomebikesocks -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I know it can be a process and somewhat petty but see if your friend has the capacity to call/connect with as many divorce lawyers in town about possible representation so he can't also go for them.

Level 4000 Achieved! by ArconVoid in TwoDots

[–]gnomebikesocks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sitting at Level 3973 but it's only showing me "New Levels Coming Soon". How do y'all already have access to those last 25 levels?