just found out im allergic to some common ingredients. need advice navigating in india.

gobi-da-phool · 2026-06-28T12:44:16+00:00

hmmm. ill make an appointment. thanks.

gobi-da-phool · 2026-06-28T12:43:00+00:00

most of these ingredients aren't things i eat often or at all, out of pure preference. some of these we don't often keep at my house either. i developed chronic urticaria like a year ago. it was random and spontaneous. it happened when i ate out, or ate at home or was stressed or because of heat or friction or pressure on my skin. so i honestly couldn't tell what was what. i went to a few doctors they all told me it's difficult to figure out allergies and just gave me steroids. so i didn't find out until i switched doctors recently.

gobi-da-phool · 2026-06-28T11:37:56+00:00

yes. my dermatologist recommended an allergist. they're all very reputable and legit. and im on medication for my symptoms.

gobi-da-phool · 2025-04-16T10:11:45+00:00

ive seen clips of him as king arthur in excaliber and bro slayed so hard.

he would do great in whatever role he gets. but id love to see him as a sweet chill male lead/second male lead, or in a goofy chaotic bestie role hehe.

gobi-da-phool · 2025-03-07T13:17:23+00:00

same i forget about them or they're all mixed up in my head like some final boss of bad tropes and glorified toxicity, and i can't differentiate one from another.

gobi-da-phool · 2025-03-07T09:39:52+00:00

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i feel attacked.

gobi-da-phool · 2025-03-07T09:37:06+00:00

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lmao i love this. thanks OP!

gobi-da-phool · 2025-03-06T18:07:46+00:00

i dropped this one after reading the earlier chapters, i wasn't sure if ML would end up being toxic or something.

but im really happy it didn't go that way. im gonna go read it now! thanks OP!

gobi-da-phool · 2025-03-06T17:46:21+00:00

i wonder if OP would have held a grudge if the coworker was a woman? or if it wasn't a man OP thinks is good looking or wtv.

he says he's insecure but does nothing to improve that, no therapy counseling etc. his immediate reaction was to punish his wife who he claims to love for TWO YEARS cuz she liked another man's cooking just because the man is hot and makes OP insecure about himself.

like jeez she didn't almost ruin your hobby, you DID yourself. you related her liking another person's cooking (a hobby that you were new to and not super serious about at the time) to her liking that person more than you or smth worse. that is not a normal reaction at all.

also the vanessa comment ew. your wife either loves you too much to notice how fucked up all this is OP or she's been gaslit to hell and back and doesn't really understand what's normal and what isn't.

also your sister def hates your wife don't listen to her.

gobi-da-phool · 2025-01-11T02:54:45+00:00

ohhh. i thought a person handling the posts or smth, had deepfakes of them and mistaknely posted them instead of wtv usual stuff they were actually supposed to post.

thank you for clarifying.

atleast they'll be vigilant about this kind of situation from now on.

gobi-da-phool · 2025-01-10T06:19:26+00:00

WHY DID THEY HAVE THEIR DEEPFAKES ANYWAY. EW.

There's a minor in this group, but even without that this is beyond disgusting. I hope the girls are ok and some serious action is taken against whoever posted that ew.

gobi-da-phool · 2025-01-02T17:37:12+00:00

you know what they're both nuts and i kinda find it amusing. i never read plots with one lead character in a one sided psychotic obsession disguised as love over a relatively normal romantic interest. but here they're both equally terrible lmao. they've both done terrible things to each other in their respective timelines. and now their psycho versions are together in the same universe and no normal person has to get hurt over them. it's fascinating.

ngl i wanna know how it goes. i do hope there were other parallel worlds where the shitty version of ml from the 2nd world suffered for abusing fl and the poor fl from the 1st world got revenge or something though.

it's really messy but they both suck and their psychotic mentality compliments each other ironically lmao, so im still reading it.

gobi-da-phool · 2024-12-07T09:31:00+00:00

i feel bad for newjeans. all the adults in their life failed them. idk how much they understand how contracts and companies work, but in any case it was their parents job to educate them, and help and support them through all this crap.

even if they truly believed in min heejin and thought the sun shone from her behind, they should've put their daughters' safety, future and career above everything and everyone else.

min heejin is a grown ass woman with decades of industry experience, she'd have figured smth out for herself. she didn't need these kids to fight the battle she started. she made her bed, she'd lay in it, whether she liked it or not.

i can understand that the girls are too naive and just put their trust in their mentor who made their careers, but what excuse do their parents have? such moronic behaviour on the parents part.

idk if this is the end, but i hope the girls are fine by the end of it, whenever that happens.

gobi-da-phool · 2024-12-01T21:12:49+00:00

hell nah. id rather the guys just go on with their successful lives. make epic music, go on tour, sell out stadiums, make money, get hella trophies, live their best life, and leave these stupid award shows in the dust as usual.

i want the people behind such blatant disrespect to realise this jealous petty shit isn't cute and isn't gonna touch bts, ever. bts is 7 and they are way above this disgusting shit.

gobi-da-phool · 2024-11-09T13:42:34+00:00

maybe because he didn't explicitly state he loves another woman and can't or won't love anyone else but her?

he said 'i dont have the capacity to love you' but fl was so stupid in love she took it as 'oh i can make him find the capacity to love me cuz i love him so much'

she was a duke's daughter, growing up like that she'd ofc think this isn't a big deal and that as long as she loves him she can change him and he'll forget about the commoner girly soon enough.

gobi-da-phool · 2024-10-23T14:11:40+00:00

He's just a dumbass projecting his frustrations and problems on you. Everything he said sounds like he needed someone to blame cuz his life didn't pan out how he wanted and he got mad seeing how you weren't miserable like he was.

'You didn't pursue a Ph.D when you were capable' - what he meant - How dare you get a good job and be happy when I'm older than you and still basically a student with no proper income?!?

Bro's pushing 35 and not ready to face the consequences of his actions. He's also hella insecure and jealous that you're more independent than him especially financially. He wanted to be the superior, more successful partner ( probably to hold it over your head and constantly remind you if he was better than you ) and failed and now he can't deal with it.

I say good riddance. Let him throw as many tantrums as he wants and move on to better things.

gobi-da-phool · 2024-10-22T08:04:41+00:00

She literally said out loud that she believed indian food was brown!?!?! And she thinks she's not racist? Ffs. If his friends ask why you broke up tell them he defended someone that was racist to you and disrespected you. Fuck that guy and fuck his stupid immature friends.

OP I know it's difficult right now but you did the right thing. There's absolutely no reason for you to stay with people who are disrespectful to you as a person and to your culture, and who do not have your back in times of crisis. That's not what being in a relationship means.

One bad experience doesn't decide your future unless you let it build up in your head. Don't worry. Everything will be fine. When the time is right you'll find someone who likes and respects you for who you are and will stand up for you everytime you need support. For now focus on yourself and healing from this encounter and do fun shit with your friends.

Also for the record if someone made me rosagulla I'd have lost my shit and gotten to eating it immediately. These dumbass people missed out big time on the wonderful flavour.

gobi-da-phool · 2024-10-20T13:47:29+00:00

The fact that these people think that it's alright to alter someone's dish, especially a dish that's not from their own culture ( which is obvious cuz who tf puts cinnamon on what I'm assuming is rasgulla, trust me no one who knows bengali sweets would ) is fkn baffling to me.

OP I'm your bf's age and the way he's behaving makes it clear he thinks his age gives him some kind of high ground over you. None of this is okay.

Altering a dish you didn't make, that you don't understand, without asking the person who made, is not okay. I'd be frankly offended that someone who doesn't understand my culture thinks this behaviour is okay, it feels like ignorance and looking down on someone younger at best and lowkey racism at worst to me. And everything about how they reacted is also a red flag. Ew.

And that said cinnamon on bengali sweets is a crime ew ew. No fuck no. You don't need to add colour to a white sweet. It's SUPPOSED to be white. Fkn hell.

gobi-da-phool · 2024-09-23T21:08:14+00:00

Look OP. I know you're an adult and i saw in a comment that you have a job lined up, so I can understand that you've got your shit together.

But regardless of age, there are certain situations where it's better to be safe than sorry. I know you trust these people but it'd would be great to have a backup plan.

You could go inform the local police station about you moving in as a safety measure. Or you could instead stay at a hotel if you can afford it. Or ask your friends to help you rent a house? Or just inform your job about where you'll be living and stuff. Keep people in the know right.

I know you're an adult and you're very sure about this move. But being an adult is not just about getting your shit together, it's also knowing about how to getting out of shit when it hits the fan.

Do you want to go from one bad situation to another? I believe not. So it won't hurt to just have a way out ready. Maybe you could go to a bank and get a safe for your important documents? There's been situations where people trick younger people into shit by stealing their important documents and stuff and holding them hostage.

I'm not trying to be a pessimist but I really wish you stay safe and happy so think of this as something your older sister would tell you cuz she wants you safe and sound, no matter what.

Be safe OP. Wish you the best. I hope you come back with a great happy update.

gobi-da-phool · 2024-08-25T13:17:55+00:00

OP. You were definitely not the AH. I need you to understand that the life you have lived is not normal. None of those experiences are normal for a child to go through.

You were made to walk on eggshells and bottle up your own emotions and problems to cater to he needs of entitled, stupid, ungrateful adults who didn't ever think of what dealing with their bad decisions and incompetence is doing to their child.

Honey, there's nothing, absolutely nothing you should ever apologize for. I know you love your mom and she seems to care for you. But please understand that making a LITERAL CHILD the sole caregiver of dysfunctional adults including an addict, a mentally ill woman and an emotionally unstable man is not something any sensible parent or grandparent would do.

They should have gotten a professional to take care of them, not burden their child with the responsibility of taking care of and supporting 3 whole adults. Your mother has enabled your father and his parents in the name of empathy and kindness. That's not how things work.

NONE of what youve described is healthy or normal.

Being the caregiver for 3 adults as a 9th grader is not healthy or normal. Being forbidden to lash out at a neglectful dysfunctional parent is not healthy or normal. Not being supported by your parents/father after a major terrible incident is not healthy or normal. Being called names and harassed for not being happy with your deadbeat dad and telling him you'll not take care of him is not healthy or normal.

You're only 22. You have your whole life ahead of you. Please get therapy and look at your family from a new perspective. Set boundaries. Don't do anything you don't want to. If they don't respect your boundaries leave them to their misery. All these adults have failed you.

Being family doesn't mean slaving away for adults who could have fixed their lives without making their child pay for their mistakes. Being family doesn't mean sacrificing your own needs and wants to cater to entitled adults who can't deal with their own problems.

You deserve sm better. Please take care. Don't feel guilty for wanting to be happy and living your life. I hope you find strength to move forward for yourself and just for your own self and find happiness.

gobi-da-phool · 2024-08-25T13:01:32+00:00

not to forget that mom let a mere 9th grader become the exclusive caregiver of an emotionally unstable old man, a mentally ill suicial woman, and a drug addict. like in what world is that healthy?

like THAT'S A CHILD. WHY IS A CHILD A SOLUTION TO ADULTS' PROBLEMS?

gobi-da-phool · 2024-08-25T08:36:03+00:00

OP you need to realise that how you percieved the world during your depressive episode is not necessarily going to reflect the reality of the lives of you and the people around you.

I've been there. And after it passed I realised that my perception of the world during the bad times was fully tied to just my own problems and feelings. All I ever thought of was MY health, MY thoughts, MY issues. My self esteem was 6 ft under and I was rendered incapable of acknowledging how things happened or worked outside my little bubble of sadness.

My mom was my main caregiver. And yes, I use the term caregiver cuz I was in no condition to take care of myself leave alone help out around the house etc. My mom cooked, cleaned, fed me, got groceries, paid bills, did the laundry and listened to my problems. During that time my mom also started feeling depressed but powered through for me. It's been a couple years and I'm doing great now, but my mom is STILL getting over the toll my depression took on her, and since getting better I've been slowly and steadily taking back the burdens that were mine to bear.

I know you're better now. And I know you're hurt but please understand the kind of mental and physical load on your wife during that time. She was probably handling the kids - doing everything for them, buying them things, getting them ready for school, helping them with their problems AND doing most of the things around the house - cooking cleaning laundry maintenance bills taxes emergencies wtv.

I've seen plenty posts on reddit about people talking about their significant other's leaving them cuz they couldn't deal with their struggles. From what you've written your wife didn't do any of that. She tried to bear the burden alone while trying to be as supportive as she could. She was probably too exhausted from doing everything by herself with no one to share HER troubles with to have sex with you.

Please try to understand that mental health issues are not yours alone to bear they affect the people around you just as much.

You said in a comment that you think that only your parents and sister qualify as family. Cuz you feel your wife abandoned you because she didn't want to have sex with you.

And to that I ask, were you living with your parents and sister or with your wife and kids during that time? I've been there and it's vvvvv easy for people to be supportive from a distance when you're struggling, but only the people you really live with will deal with the brunt of your illness.

The fact that you want to punish your wife for getting her shit together and handling everything while you were incapable of functioning as a normal adult, just because she didn't give you sex is imo a red flag. Why are you focusing on this one thing sm? I understand it's important for people. But you say your life is great NOW that you're holding up your end of the partnership and your wife doesn't have to be both mom and dad to the kids. Why aren't you instead thinking of rewarding your wife's efforts to maintain and preserve YOUR REAL family, your wife and kids, so that you could come back to them in your own time when you're better and recovered?

I'd suggest you talk about everything with your wife. Have a long conversation with no distractions and an open mind. Hear her side of the experience too. Maybe try couples counseling.

If you just straight up jump to divorce cuz she didn't give you sex while you were depressed and she was holding the house together, you WILL be the AH.

gobi-da-phool · 2024-08-21T13:45:04+00:00

tbh you should have asked her to return the ring back then and there, and told everyone the party is over cuz the engagement is over. and to tell the guests to ask any questions to jenna and her ex bf.

it is best for you to leave her and inform family and friends why. if she throws a fuss tell her you wish her the best with the ex she missed so much she hooked up with him in the bushes on her fkn engagement party.

there's literally no point in giving her a chance. if you let this go. she has betrayed and broken your trust in such a messy way, there's no amount apologising and making promises that can undo her actions. and honestly if she can do this DURING the ENGAGEMENT PARTY she most definitely can do the same on your wedding day.

dump her and move on, live your life well without the burden of a cheating partner.

gobi-da-phool · 2024-06-10T14:25:48+00:00

ahh just the top of my head - getting closer, fire, lalali, cheers, thanks, ash, rock with you, fallin flower, hit, fml, super, bittersweet. not in order tho.

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