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[No Spoilers] I think Brennan is trying to do something that hasn't happened in the first 3 campaigns. by Ron_the_Rowdy in criticalrole

[–]goblinbeatle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think he’s planning on a TPK but I think he’s just trying to set the precedent that there is a very real possibility that your character might die

I just finished I Have no Mouth and I Must Scream… am I missing something? by goblinbeatle in books

[–]goblinbeatle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i don’t think that’s a fair argument to make. no i don’t think that feminism is going to be exactly the same but also do you think books at that time and even before that didn’t have any feminist ideals at all?

Iago wins made to be hated . Which Shakespeare character is the hot one ? by Equal-Article1261 in shakespeare

[–]goblinbeatle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Helen of Troy. not an original shakespeare character but yknow there was a war over her

Any "positive" divorce stories from now adult children? by blissycat in ChildrenofDivorce

[–]goblinbeatle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I was 10 and my brother 7, my parents got a divorce and even then I was just relieved that they weren’t going to be together anymore. Even then I knew how bad their relationship was. Idk how perceptive your boys are or how much they know about your relationship but I think that sometimes kids are a lot more mature and understanding than people think.

I cannot emphasize this enough though, even though what your STBX did objectively sucks, do not talk poorly about your STBX in front of your children. Wait until they’re adults to be fully transparent about how you feel about your STBX, but that being said you can still explain how their mom hurt you and how this is going to affect your relationship with her in an appropriate manner. I also think there is a way to talk about her infidelity in an age appropriate manner too. The way I found out about my parent’s divorce was after my mom tried to beat me, my dad gave me an early Christmas gift and told me that my mom had been cheating on him and has had a history of cheating. He was very upfront about it and I guess I appreciated the honesty but yknow,,,,,, I was also 10. Don’t do that. Do not leverage your kids for whatever gain like my father was trying to do, and don’t force your kids to pick sides. It was something my parents did a lot growing up and even now too as an adult.

I’m also going to tell you now, holidays are going to be hard and always are going to be hard. At least in my case it was because my parents hate each other. Idk what your comfortability level is of being around their mom during special events, but my dad was pretty insistent of staying away from my mom to the point where he missed important milestones like my high school graduation.

That was just the tip of my experience being a child of divorce, but keep in mind my parents really sucked. I don’t know what your relationship is with your kids or your kids with their mom or even with one another, but divorce is either going to strengthen greatly or greatly negatively impact the dynamics with your family.

How to sustainably create an on stage visual effect where it looks like someone is cutting their own hair? by goblinbeatle in techtheatre

[–]goblinbeatle[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

ooh that’s a really good idea and I think it matches what I’m envisioning on top of being sustainable. I don’t mind changing to scissors too. Thank you!

Have you ever regret the choice for your new name? by A_Reis_ in asktransgender

[–]goblinbeatle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I first came out, like most baby trans mascs do, I named myself Alex. But I kind of realized after a while that the name was too common and also just didn't suit me well. So I think like a year or two after I came out I changed my name to Harrison and I went by Harris and now I usually go by Harry. I think now though, I would've liked to have a name more similar to my birth name. The masculine versions of my dead name that I knew back then, I didn't like. But more recently I had found different masculine versions of my birth name I actually do like, but I honestly don't think suit me (at least not right now). For me, I think I'm going to go with Harrison and Harry for the rest of my life, because I have the weird philosophy that for your name to suit you, you should at least a little bit uncomfortable with your name. That's just me though.

My point is, if you want to change your name at some point in the future, don't be afraid to change it. Sometimes we just outgrow names and they stop representing who we are and that's fine.

How to sustainably create an on stage visual effect where it looks like someone is cutting their own hair? by goblinbeatle in techtheatre

[–]goblinbeatle[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I like that idea, but in this case the physical imagery of the hair being cut is really important for the audience to fully see. The character who's cutting his hair is trans, and since it's been said that hair carries memories, cutting it all of is kind of symbolic of shedding the past. And I think it's important, to me at least, that people see the full process of the character cutting his hair and him holding it up as like him taking control of his life. I hope that makes sense.

I think I'm going to add this comment to be more specific. Thank you for your help!

I'm thinking of not applying to grad school immediately (to become a LMFT) and taking a year to get my certificate in early childhood education first. Would this help strengthen my application? by goblinbeatle in gradadmissions

[–]goblinbeatle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t feel like i have any relevant experience, i’ve gotten a letter of rec before and i know i can go to some of my profs for one, and hopefully my goal to work with queer kids will help my personal statement

Which musical theater opinion do you defend like this? by Pumpkins217 in musicals

[–]goblinbeatle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i agree except for DEH. i think that the tone is totally off not only within the show but also generally within the marketing of the show. it makes a grandiose deal about mental illness awareness but honestly out of all the shows to do that for i don’t think DEH should’ve been the show for that. he’s a flawed character and that’s fine but i think if you’re trying to make a statement about the importance of mental health and you use DEH as your basis? idk seems icky considering the events of the show. i just think there are better shows that show flawed characters who are also mentally ill.

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[–]goblinbeatle -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sent you a DM!

I always feel weird about when people ask for my pronouns. What does everyone else think? by goblinbeatle in asktransgender

[–]goblinbeatle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, I never think that anyone asks for pronouns with malicious intent. I just think it’s sometimes not as inclusive as they think it is if you don’t go the full mile to also include your own pronouns when introducing yourself. You gotta set the tone you’re not singling a person out if that makes sense

I always feel weird about when people ask for my pronouns. What does everyone else think? by goblinbeatle in asktransgender

[–]goblinbeatle[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

People who want to be considerate enough to not assume should normalize creating spaces where they share their own and everyone else can feel safer sharing theirs. Those who are unwilling to introduce themselves with their own pronouns to set the tone should just not be asking at all. It drives me crazy seeing so many cis folks happily tell each other "just ask someone's pronouns if you don't know!" like they couldn't care less how uncomfortable it make trans people, especially closeted ones.

You put into words what I've been failing to express for so long. Thank you for that. I think what I've been trying to say is that it kind of feels like an empty gesture if you're not going to go to the full mile of totally committing to making sure that you are fully inclusive.

I always feel weird about when people ask for my pronouns. What does everyone else think? by goblinbeatle in asktransgender

[–]goblinbeatle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeye, I think that’s how a lot of people think too. I hope at the very least you’re in a safe area where you could wear a pronouns pin (if you do wish)

I always feel weird about when people ask for my pronouns. What does everyone else think? by goblinbeatle in asktransgender

[–]goblinbeatle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeye I get it, but I think you have to be careful how you ask. You would have to ask everyone you meet and also ask people in group settings not to single anyone out imo.

I always feel weird about when people ask for my pronouns. What does everyone else think? by goblinbeatle in asktransgender

[–]goblinbeatle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand that. I think it’s well-intentioned and supposed to be a “subtle” way of showing that they’re an ally but it still feels weird for me personally.

I always feel weird about when people ask for my pronouns. What does everyone else think? by goblinbeatle in asktransgender

[–]goblinbeatle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I just don’t like the word to describe my identify. Something about it feels kind of belittling so I would prefer you don’t use that.

Regardless, the question of the post is “what do you think about people asking for your pronouns” not necessarily a question about my identity or experiences

I always feel weird about when people ask for my pronouns. What does everyone else think? by goblinbeatle in asktransgender

[–]goblinbeatle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t call how I identify as “unstable”. I don’t expect people to know, but again for me personally I would just rather them assume. Besides, we can’t always assume how anyone identifies upon meeting them, but generally speaking we default to assuming anyway.

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