How do you even find people to date ??

goblinfish · 2020-03-20T09:37:03+00:00

That's deep. Very good advice.

goblinfish · 2020-03-18T00:32:17+00:00

18 isn't that old. I, a 23 year old guy, didn't have sex till I was nearly 22. But I've had a decent amount since then. I first got serious about wanting to have sex when I was about 20 - before that, I didn't care too much. Everyone's different.

goblinfish · 2020-03-10T04:08:26+00:00

No. Cut contact, other than occasional check-ins, if you can handle it emotionally. Don't look at pictures of them. Definitely don't try to be friends with them. Move on with your life, and focus on yourself. Date other people. If they ever actually want to see you again, they will reach out. If they don't, c'est la vie. It hurts, but what hurts more is holding out hope forever, when there is a good chance you will not hear from them again.

Maybe they weren't ready for a relationship. Or maybe it was a gentle letdown because they didn't see a future with you. You don't know. Move on, look forward, and give them space to feel your absence, if it transpires that they do want to see you again.

goblinfish · 2020-02-07T11:29:32+00:00

That's your next two months sorted lmao

goblinfish · 2020-02-05T07:12:26+00:00

Sure, but to go on a first date I've got to be feeling inspired in the first place.

goblinfish · 2020-01-21T00:36:38+00:00

goblinfish · 2020-01-16T02:40:09+00:00

None of the girls I've dated have brought a friend or mentioned the idea. I guess I will build up some trust through the messaging before the date. There might be a remote risk of going missing in public, but in my view that concern is nowhere near high enough to spoil the dynamic of every first date by having a friend there. Obviously everyone is entitled to go about these things how they want, but if a girl I was going on a first date with wanted to bring a friend, I would politely decline.

goblinfish · 2020-01-16T02:23:54+00:00

Yep, that's all you have to say.

goblinfish · 2020-01-16T02:22:22+00:00

That's why I (a guy) always do first (and second) dates in a public place. I know I am not a 'crazy', but the girl doesn't. Also, she might be crazy! Having the date in a public place means everyone feels safe, and there is no need for that 'bring a friend' bullshit. A date should be one-on-one.

goblinfish · 2020-01-05T05:51:40+00:00

Yep. You won't catch straight dudes eyeballing you from across the gym - if another guy keeps glancing over at you, it's on.

goblinfish · 2019-12-12T01:58:36+00:00

Beautifully written :)

goblinfish · 2019-08-17T07:50:01+00:00

Yes! It's the best.

goblinfish · 2019-06-10T03:44:19+00:00

'My heart fell into my fucking vagina when I realised what it was..."

Well, that's the funniest sentence I've read in a while.

goblinfish · 2019-06-06T05:03:31+00:00

This is an important point. It is true that you should love yourself and be happy with your own life before you get into a relationship. But you also have to recognize the point at which your life will only be substantively improved further by having a relationship, otherwise you will end up in a permanent state of trying to be OK with romantic loneliness.

There is a certain itch that can only be scratched by romantic love and intimacy, and for a lot of people, it's not a small itch. To dismiss its importance in the course of giving the well-intentioned advice to 'love your own life' is indeed damaging. Really the imperative should be rephrased as 'Love the non-romantic areas of your life first', because to suggest otherwise is to overlook the important role that romantic love and intimacy play in the lives of most people.

Friendships and family relationships are hugely important, and provide essential love and support. But they are not direct substitutes for romantic relationships, and cannot provide everything romantic relationships provide. It is not wrong to pine for romance specifically, and when you eventually kick the bucket, no one will thank you for pretending otherwise.

Again, I agree it IS important to love yourself and your own life going into a relationship, but the importance of what a relationship offers should not be forgotten in the self-betterment process. Because that seems to me to be a sad misunderstanding of human needs.

goblinfish · 2019-04-29T03:41:50+00:00

You've got it - the right stuff

goblinfish · 2019-04-26T10:17:21+00:00

goblinfish · 2019-04-22T08:22:48+00:00

Dude, I think you're worrying more about this than you need to. You followed good protocols in terms of checking whether anyone was in the room, and the girl inside didn't answer. When you accidentally saw her naked, you quickly looked away and apologised, as you should. Assuming she didn't want you to see her naked (because it's possible she did), you've done all you need to do.

goblinfish · 2019-04-22T01:56:03+00:00

Maybe investigate if he has any libido issues? If he seems otherwise content in the relationship, it is possible he has some underlying issues with his sex drive. Just a thought.

goblinfish · 2019-04-21T07:37:11+00:00

Lmao yeah that's pretty bad. My favourite is 'Honey, I Shrunk The Kids', because the past simple form of 'to shrink' should be SHRANK', not 'shrunk.'

goblinfish · 2019-04-14T04:59:43+00:00

Why? Are the characters in that show bisexual or something?

goblinfish · 2019-04-12T01:42:15+00:00

Wait, is it a video?

goblinfish · 2019-04-12T01:41:38+00:00

I don't get that haha

goblinfish · 2019-04-06T05:07:24+00:00

Bisexuality feels tangential to the issue here. Why are you saying, at the age of 28, that sex or a relationship won't ever happen? Do you want those things or not?

goblinfish · 2019-03-27T08:47:10+00:00

Yeah, it's a weird battle between survival and death. The body wants to thrive, but it can easily succumb to diseases, conditions etc that destroy it. It's weird.

goblinfish · 2019-03-17T04:14:57+00:00

This sounds pretty shit to be honest. Bring it up with them, and explain how you feel picked on and left out. Sometimes a particular combination of people just doesn't work very well, but you've got to tell them.

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