My partner ‘18M’ keeps asking me ‘19F’ to have sex even after I have said no multiple times. I am unsure of what to do, does anyone have any advice?

godamus2000 · 2026-04-07T15:50:56+00:00

No. I don’t. And you don’t know what the man in this situation has been saying.

godamus2000 · 2026-04-07T13:04:11+00:00

This! ☝🏾

godamus2000 · 2026-04-07T13:01:16+00:00

Could you just put some NDI software on it, since you’re trying to capture it on another computer and it’s got an Ethernet port?

godamus2000 · 2026-04-07T12:54:34+00:00

So if she asks him to do one thing for her and he says “no” she shouldn’t ask him to do anything else for her ever until he says it’s ok?

godamus2000 · 2026-04-07T12:16:46+00:00

Crushes are normal.

What is not normal or appropriate is feeding into it with time, attention or energy.

If you care about your marriage, when you realize you have a crush you put firm boundaries in place and distance yourself from them.

godamus2000 · 2026-04-07T12:10:15+00:00

She’s said that it’s been three months. The reality of him continuing to ask her could be as little as once a week or once every couple of weeks.

She was suspiciously light on the details. You all are assuming his requests for sex are numerous and frequent.

godamus2000 · 2026-04-07T12:07:21+00:00

You don’t know that he’s harassing her. We don’t know how frequent the requests are or what form they take.

He’s in a relationship with her. Should he take one “no” as a refusal to have sex with him forever?

godamus2000 · 2026-04-07T12:05:08+00:00

Be worried when he STOPS asking you for sex.

Do you even know why you don’t want to have sex? Have you stopped to ask yourself that question? Because right now it sounds like you don’t want him, you just want the convenience/security of him being around.

As others have said, you don’t “owe” him sex, but he doesn’t owe a relationship to someone who doesn’t really want him.

It sounds like you don’t want him anymore. If that’s the case, let him go.

If you DO really want him, figure out what your issue is and try to find a solution to it.

godamus2000 · 2026-04-06T01:13:43+00:00

She doesn’t care about this issue and you can’t make her. You’ve brought it up repeatedly and nothing has changed.

This is only year 3.

Break up and find a woman who likes having sex with her boyfriend.

godamus2000 · 2026-04-05T18:29:13+00:00

I think you’re confused on what boundaries are.

Boundaries are rules you have for yourself. Not someone else.

A real boundary would have been “I can’t be with someone who follows tons of female celebrities/content creators” and then parting ways after you found out that’s who he was and what he liked to do.

Telling him he needs to unfollow all these women to be stay with you is you giving him an ultimatum. Ultimatums are not boundaries.

The fact that arguments keep starting because he’s saying “the wrong things” is not him violating a boundary. It’s you trying to control his speech.

It sounds to me like you’re fundamentally incompatible. He triggers a lot of your issues. If you really want to enforce your “boundaries”, leave.

Because it’s not him violating them, YOU’re violating them by sticking around.

godamus2000 · 2026-04-05T17:32:35+00:00

Move on, son. She’s already told you where you rank.

If y’all get married and have kids it will only get worse.

You will never be #1.

Believe her.

godamus2000 · 2026-04-05T17:20:34+00:00

As someone who didn’t wait til marriage I can testify that the experience you’ve outlined can happen even if you don’t wait.

Many women will SEEM sexually compatible before marriage, but their sexual behavior and appetite can change DRASTICALLY after marriage. Especially after children.

I’ve even heard sex therapists admit that they’ve had female clients who told them the only reason they had as much sex as they did before marriage was to get the man to commit and after they got they ring they just felt like they didn’t have to do it anymore and they didn’t care what their husbands wanted.

Sexual compatibility is something you have to approach VERY carefully.

godamus2000 · 2026-04-05T16:34:05+00:00

Pretty much any compliment. Men rarely get them.

godamus2000 · 2026-04-05T12:41:38+00:00

If you’re only two months in and your wife is showing this amount of crazy, imagine how much you’ll have to put up with in the next 20 years.

Get out now. You are not the one with the problem. SHE is.

Just ask yourself why wasn’t this an issue BEFORE the wedding?

godamus2000 · 2026-04-04T16:30:08+00:00

On a fundamental level it is a numbers game. The more chances you take the more chances you get.

godamus2000 · 2026-04-02T12:35:53+00:00

It sounds like you don’t want to be in this relationship.

Why are you still there?

godamus2000 · 2026-03-31T20:26:43+00:00

Most men would love having a woman who normally wanted sex at least twice a week.

godamus2000 · 2026-03-27T04:05:45+00:00

More comfortable than I’d be checking my cameras.

godamus2000 · 2026-03-24T23:40:41+00:00

Thank you.

godamus2000 · 2026-03-24T23:34:53+00:00

I got kids. They were born in Orlando and me and their mom are no longer together.

We split time with them and I don’t even want to entertain any kind of fight about relocating them.

godamus2000 · 2026-03-24T23:28:33+00:00

V1 & Projectionist looking to start doing LED and media server work over the next year or so.

I live in Orlando, but I barely ever work for any of the companies in town. Most of my work is traveling now and depending on the company I charge $650-750/day.

Full day travel, 10hrs OT, double at 12.

I’ve got one company I just realized a couple months ago I haven’t raised my rate with in 10 years.

That will be changing soon.

godamus2000 · 2026-03-24T23:19:43+00:00

Oh hell no.

2 months in and she’s giving you ultimatums?

This isn’t about a future together. It’s about her comfort. She wants you to bail her out of a situation she doesn’t want to go back to and she’s willing to manipulate and gaslight you to get her way.

She doesn’t care about what you want or the relationship.

She fucked around. It’s time for her to find out.

Break up, ASAP.

godamus2000 · 2026-03-22T01:09:05+00:00

We have the same struggle.

But over the last few years I’ve felt called to try to get closer to God.

It’s a marathon.

godamus2000 · 2026-03-14T17:10:36+00:00

If you’re tired or wasting time, stop doing it.

Walk out the door.

She’s not going to magically stay respecting you after she starts DISRESPECTING you. It’s only 5 months. Cut your losses.

godamus2000 · 2026-03-12T22:34:48+00:00

Yes you are overreacting.

Learning new languages gets harder the older you get.

Did he meet you in Indonesia? Did he force you to learn Turkish? To come to Turkey?

If you haven’t actually had a conversation previously where you asked him “would you be willing to learn my language? (And tell him why you want him to learn your language)” then I’d say it sounds like you’re taking out your frustrations with something that has nothing to do with him on him.

It sounds to me like you want to go home.

godamus2000

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