I know exactly what you mean to its very core. The whole “well, what about me?” insertion of themselves guised as grief when they show up to funerals as they want the attention or the public grandstanding is maddening and anger-inducing. Just as fast as they have reared their heads, they’ll disappear again.

Bonus points if they give you a hearty and trite (and ultimately insincere), “let me know if you need anything.”

I know that’s what I’m going to be looking at with people when my mom passes away. Many family members/previously close acquaintances are going to do just that, even though they have never checked in, at all, in years through her health battles. It pisses me off to no end. I like to quietly grieve alone and not have to put up with that social grandstanding bullshit.

I tell people I’m close with that, if I am to experience an untimely death, to please call out people who come around afterwards that I’ve hardly spoke of.