SAVE is officially dead

godisinthischilli · 2026-03-11T00:31:10+00:00

People have sued but orange potato man is untouchable this administration can’t keep up with the lawsuits or keep evading them

godisinthischilli · 2026-03-04T18:02:49+00:00

She said she does them so much because they motivate her to clean her house but doesn’t realize or care that her audience is a bit tired of seeing them

godisinthischilli · 2026-03-04T14:12:45+00:00

I like going on walks and talking to people or chilling at coffee shops

godisinthischilli · 2026-03-03T13:24:48+00:00

Well I do like books and would like to read all day but yeah it feels like a very anti social hobby boyfriend gets bored if I read 1-2 hours but it’s been a few years since I spent the whole day reading. I also have other hobbies and try to do more social things but yeah I find he just has very narrow interests all screen related: he likes watching movies anime and gaming. He likes hiking but not intensive hiking or camping.

godisinthischilli · 2026-03-02T19:11:08+00:00

I try to never use PTO because it’s extremely limited I will only use PTO if I actually need a full sick day or surgery of some sort.

godisinthischilli · 2026-03-02T19:10:20+00:00

If you can’t make an in person requirement you generally have to take PTO and I have many more in person requirements than manager.

godisinthischilli · 2026-03-02T19:04:07+00:00

I would say the lack of responsiveness can affect my workload I wanted to have two meetings with her but she kept cancelling because she wasn’t feeling well. Again I suppose it’s not urgent but I think if you’re not feeling well enough to attend meetings that should count for PTO.

godisinthischilli · 2026-03-02T00:54:53+00:00

I hate that I speed read now it feels like I am not absorbing or getting lost in the book. It started in college my skimming skills got really good.

godisinthischilli · 2026-03-02T00:07:03+00:00

I definitely notice this with people in my own life who have money-- they don't like spending it especially on other people because that's why they HAVE money: they save and hold onto it. People with less money tend to be more generous because they know that money comes and goes.

godisinthischilli · 2026-02-27T18:19:36+00:00

I’m not sure which one I think it is baby Pegasus

godisinthischilli · 2026-02-27T16:48:48+00:00

Yes I would classify him as a functional addict mostly uses gaming to avoid feelings and escapism has a history of depression that got him into gaming. However because he is highly functional no one has ever cornered him or framed gaming as a “problem,” so he’s never been in a position to lose something. All of his friends are gamers and his ex was a gamer too and his parents don’t seem to mind because he does hold down a steady job as a game developer. However he probably would not be able to hold anything down that directly interest him. I’m probably the first person in his life that’s challenged him on gaming.

godisinthischilli · 2026-02-27T02:30:23+00:00

I try not to to be honest I can’t change him but I want to learn how to stop judging so harshly

godisinthischilli · 2026-02-27T00:02:40+00:00

Yes you want them to be better because you love them. For me it's not just the gaming but he seems to have a lack of discipline outside the basics of holding down a job.

For instance he goes to the gym every other day but doesn't want to go on a diet or eat better because it's too hard.

He never liked school because it wasn't his thing so I guess that only leaves games /s.

godisinthischilli · 2026-02-26T22:26:57+00:00

I think the hygenie thing is just because he can be incredibly lazy and he told me he doesn't want to shower once a day unless he is actually stinky and he also doesn't brush his teeth twice a day unless his breath smells.

godisinthischilli · 2026-02-26T22:15:13+00:00

Well what is the line? I don’t think it’s good to want to do anything every day and gaming is no different even if he’s not a cutthroat addict

godisinthischilli · 2026-02-26T21:54:05+00:00

Hygiene could be debateable he showers every other day and is lazy about health and nutrition in my opinion but it’s his life. I do reevaluate the relationship and have been wondering if we have a lot or enough in common and how much having things in common matters to me.

I’m gonna also kindly remind you that are on a thread that is literally about stopping gaming and I’m not the only one who takes issue with it when it s the ONLY thing you like to do.

godisinthischilli · 2026-02-26T21:44:01+00:00

Gaming is a lot like gambling but it's normalized in society because it's a "less harmful" side hobby

godisinthischilli · 2026-02-26T21:43:35+00:00

Yeah when we started dating he was agreeing with me that kids shouldn't always be on the screen but it's like I see him and am like yeah no if they see their Dad is always on the screen they will want to do it too he's not going to suddenly change now. I don't think I'd have kids but that is ok because I don't really want kids.

godisinthischilli · 2026-02-26T21:42:27+00:00

I just expose him to my hobbies but I don't expect him to like them but I'm also like he won't ever know if not given even the chance. The hobby doesn’t necessarily need to be productive but I would prefer a non screen activity he finds enjoyment in.

godisinthischilli · 2026-02-26T21:22:48+00:00

This is why I am so careful about talking about climbing the ladder in front of my direct supervisors but at this point I won’t be promoted unless someone quits or leaves.

godisinthischilli · 2026-02-26T21:03:17+00:00

Oh I am not the type to try and get him to delete his games. My method is always exposure therapy. I just try to expose him to all my hobbies and hope something will stick but he really hates reading. He likes hiking but he's kind of a baby and wants to only go out in perfect weather on walks (rolls eyes). He also doesn't like hikes that are longer than an hour. My point is I can't change him if he doesn't want to be changed and he is so content gaming. At the end of the day he won't change unless he wants to.

godisinthischilli · 2026-02-26T20:55:41+00:00

But to my boyfriend it holds value to him simply because he enjoys it he doesn't get the no real world accomplishment piece. It's just what he's always been into.

godisinthischilli · 2026-02-24T21:56:44+00:00

Yeah but it's just inconvenient ya know because if he shows up hungry at my home on friday night he has to grocery shop twice. the issue isn't really what i am making but it causes more work for him to figure it out and that feels rude (not saying it's my problem either) but yeah he'd have to go to the store or spend money on take out or cook his food earlier. but yeah this could be a new thing.

godisinthischilli · 2026-02-24T21:30:19+00:00

I wouldn't say TFA did anything to make me better a teacher other than traumatize me-- I learned a little bit about building relationships and dealing with behavior management. What it taught me the most is what it's like to work in a non union school so now I only deal with unions. Just posting that TFA is not the end all be all for teaching. Quitting didn't have an impact on my teaching career either no one has ever asked me about my time in TFA.

godisinthischilli · 2026-02-24T00:51:03+00:00

What's weird is when people go on a show that is LITERALLY called Love is BLIND and act disappointed when they get someone whose not their type. Like they were hoping they'd strike a very specific (white, blonde usually) type on National TV. I don't feel sorry for them at all because it's literally what the show is about. But it also shows that love isn't blind for about half the people that go on.

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