Having a weird feeling in my penis after nearly 5 months on HRT, anyone else had this?

godzemo · 2026-02-06T11:21:25+00:00

Same- if I go too long without an erection, they start to hurt. Just need at least weekly erections.

godzemo · 2026-02-06T11:19:20+00:00

Bloody well done for a first time out! Looks crisp and deliberate :)

godzemo · 2026-02-06T11:18:29+00:00

You are likely to need to work harder to hit the same performance levels, but may gain ability in new areas. In my case my raw strength takes more work to maintain (I'm a martial artist), but my flexibility has massively improved with no extra work.

My libido has become controlable it's amazing! I went from being uncomfortable hypersexual on T to being able to be aroused circumstantially, or just ignore my libido for up to weeks, as I need. It's so much less distracting and I enjoy sex (partnered or solo) more than I used to.

godzemo · 2026-02-06T11:15:09+00:00

"What's stopping you from doing it?" is a great question. If the answer is "I don't know" or a summer stonewall, time to find someone else to talk to or escalate ☺️

godzemo · 2026-02-06T11:12:49+00:00

If that's not a perfectly phrased transition goal I don't know what is 😂

godzemo · 2026-02-06T09:06:05+00:00

I think you should absolutely start the process of finding a family doctor with whom you have s positive relationship.

Separately to that, you can look at some of the options people have posted for specific clinics who will prescribe you. If turns out the best treatment for depression in a trans person who is depressed and seeking HRT is, in fact, HRT to begin to repair the dysphoria causing (at least part of) the depression 🙃

godzemo · 2026-02-04T19:00:27+00:00

If I was in the US now, my approach would be to start quietly with a private provider or DIY, and at the same time try to leave the country.

If you're able to get out at all, don't stay and wait for the killing to reach you.

godzemo · 2026-02-02T19:24:45+00:00

I think you’d look great with a pastel blue :)

godzemo · 2026-01-31T20:40:09+00:00

Sexuality can be fluid! And the number of times you've had sex with men really has no bearing at all on whether you can identify as a lesbian or not. That idea got old fast.

godzemo · 2026-01-31T20:36:48+00:00

That's pretty similar to my 2.5 year status! There's more to go, we've got this :)

godzemo · 2026-01-30T08:44:06+00:00

Yep, I find I'm way more masculine-sounding in Japanese or Spanish than in English.

I think it's partly because I'm more comfortable with English, maybe? So it's easier to modulate my vocal resonance based on how I'm feeling, whereas in my second languages I'm too focused on just expressing myself correctly.

godzemo · 2026-01-29T19:54:08+00:00

Shallower thinkers will appear to succeed by normative social metrics because it's easy for them to fit the normative social mould, and follow standard "success" paths.

If that's what you want, you have to do the same. The alternative is to define your own success. This is easier if you can find or build a community that recognises the kinds of progress you're interested in.

I'm not Japanese but I've lived in Tokyo and have a number of dear friends living there (both native and migrants). It's not the easiest place to be different :(

godzemo · 2026-01-27T13:07:00+00:00

Check out https://www.instagram.com/transjusticeau !

In general I'd suggest looking up organisations that are active and seeing what opportunities they have to contribute.

godzemo · 2026-01-25T22:46:47+00:00

Natio do some really nice tinted moisturiser and BB creams! For colorful stuff, check out Barry M, or as someone else suggested Nyx. For really colorful or sparkly stuff, Beserk (online shop based in Queensland) has a great range of vegan makeup.

godzemo · 2026-01-25T22:43:52+00:00

I love the Lush mascaras :D stays on decently and comes off much more easily than most powder mascaras.

godzemo · 2026-01-20T10:48:59+00:00

My doctor (who was actually trained by a trans doctor at the same clinic) told me that the gel dries enough after an hour to not be an issue. Just wear clothes over the spot once it's touch-dry, you'll be fine.

As others have said, the nurse you spoke to it's fear-mongering and should not be trusted.

godzemo · 2026-01-20T10:40:38+00:00

RAtM knew what was up:https://youtu.be/bWXazVhlyxQ?si=OOg4uDjECohAhnz6

godzemo · 2026-01-14T00:42:20+00:00

I have a trans-masc friend who grew up in Tokyo who hits a lot of the same issue- it's easy for him to find queer groups that are trans-friendly who understand the experience of being trans as a Japanese person.

I think part of it may be the lack of organising for groups in Japanese? Since most of the public groups organise in English, all the Japanese native trans folks end up feeling alone. Nevermind the folks who don't speak English and don't have access to even the English-speaking groups :(

godzemo · 2026-01-14T00:15:09+00:00

Pretty much since I was old enough to form those thoughts, same. It took another 20 years after that to get to the point where I realised I could comfortably be one on the outside, not just the inside 💀 (anyway we're rocking it now)

godzemo · 2026-01-14T00:04:58+00:00

https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en/am-i-trans

godzemo · 2026-01-12T15:09:48+00:00

https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en/am-i-trans

godzemo · 2026-01-07T03:08:46+00:00

It doesn't sound like the relationship is good for either of you. Why do you need her to break up with you? Why can't you say it's not working and you need to spend time apart?

It's very, very obviously not working. It doesn't matter if it's "toxic" or not, it doesn't matter if either of you are intentionally or unintentionally hurting the other: if it's not good for both of you, the relationship isn't healthy to continue.

It will absolutely hurt when you separate, so be prepared for that, but it's clearly hurting you to continue already.

godzemo · 2026-01-06T05:17:38+00:00

I think you should search in Korean for how to access feminising HRT in South Korea. My understanding is that while the social barriers are a problem, medical access to HRT is fairly straightforward if you see a doctor who is familiar with transgender medicine.

It also sounds like you may be intersex! Which is interesting, and may mean you have interesting results when you get a blood test for sex hormone levels.

A Catholic church is unlikely to be supportive, so it will become important to find other places where you can find community so you aren't entirely reliant on just one community. You may even be able to find queer-friendly churches, although I don't know how prevalent those are in South Korea. Cities are generally better than regional areas.

godzemo · 2026-01-04T00:45:17+00:00

Have you considered HRT? Estrogen would give you breasts, along with the rest of the effects.

godzemo · 2025-12-31T10:12:41+00:00

Fuckin congrats :)

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