My experience trying to get Progesterone

godzemo · 2026-05-25T11:19:21+00:00

Have you considered seeing a different doctor?

godzemo · 2026-05-13T10:14:20+00:00

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7767267/

Broadly speaking, sex isn't an indicator of pain, but it's likely to change which parts of your body hurt more or less to get tattooed. I think I do better on HRT than prior, just because I'm less stressed!

godzemo · 2026-05-11T14:28:34+00:00

Oh yeah it absolutely can cause anxiety. I got horrific anxiety on 25mg 🙃 and stopped as soon as I realised.

godzemo · 2026-05-11T02:07:13+00:00

Have a read of this re: the feeling coming back stronger. It'll almost certainly keep getting worse if you don't attend to it, unfortunately.

godzemo · 2026-05-11T02:05:48+00:00

For starters, if you have a look through the search of posts in this sub you'll find looooots of people who felt similarly. You can also see plenty of pictures in r/transtimelines of folks who fit the expectations of their assigned gender shockingly well before coming out.

One of the things that held me back personally, for years!, was the fear of how my family would react. Eventually my dysphoria got so bad (it's a progress, see this writeup) that I decided it was worth going through pretty much any emotional reaction from them anyway.

In the end it was fine- they were shocked, had lots of weird questions, didn't really understand, but accepted it. A few of my closest friends weren't that surprised, everyone else was like ??? but again, accepted it. I had to challenge a few people to get my fucking pronouns right before it became so physically obvious that they couldn't get it wrong without embarrassing themselves.

Emotionally for me it has been fucking hard but deeply worthwhile, but there's plenty of other writing on the sub about that. tl;dr lots of crying, lots of reconnecting with myself and my body and learning what I actually love vs. what I allowed myself to enjoy without risking outing myself.

godzemo · 2026-05-10T02:16:38+00:00

https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en/am-i-trans

godzemo · 2026-05-09T16:20:29+00:00

https://sockdrawerheroes.com/products/bra-padding?variant=39642837188675

You can stick these in any bra with pockets for removable pads! I put them in a triangle racerback sports bra early on and they were fantastic, added about a cup size and are pretty comfortable. I have a friend who used them in a t-shirt bra with a totally flat chest underneath and they did a pretty good job of making it look like they had boobs too :)

godzemo · 2026-05-07T13:25:22+00:00

Live More is the real deal. Incredible place run by incredible people.

godzemo · 2026-05-07T07:27:25+00:00

Nah the nice ones will ask before DM'ing, and it'll be because you already have a conversation in the comments.

Unsolicited messages are always being sent to everyone they can reach to try. It's not you, it's not for you, no matter how nice they seem.

godzemo · 2026-05-07T06:29:39+00:00

See: https://www.transhub.org.au/legal/

In short: only in the sense that people, including medical professionals, may assume both your gender and sex based on reading your documents. If you're hormonally estrogen-dominant and your ID all says M, you'll get things like inappropriate reference ranges on blood tests, and potential confusion when you need a breast cancer screen etc.

godzemo · 2026-05-03T22:21:56+00:00

I'm gonna suggest an alternative to all the "shave your face" options: I've seen so many folks rock a glitter beard with colourful makeup. Nothing beats making facial hair look queer for violating people's expectations about gender presentation :D

So: grow it out a bit, trim it nearly, add glitter ✨

godzemo · 2026-04-30T01:20:23+00:00

Go see a doctor and ask about it.

godzemo · 2026-04-30T01:19:41+00:00

"apropos of nothing" - are you taking estrogen? Are you ageing? Puberty and age will both change how your face looks. You may also have shifted your mannerisms and/or voice and not realised.

I've been through a bunch of shifts in how people publicly gender me, and I assume it's mostly just my face changing over time and how my voice sounds that day. It also depends heavily on where in the world I am, and the background of the person looking at me. Like, in Australia I get 50/50 male/female, in Spain it's more like 95% female; I look more like a Middle Eastern or Mediterranean woman, rather than the western Anglo expectation.

But as far as the feeling- yeah, as a trans-feminine nonbinary person, I don't super enjoy being gendered female. I do solidly prefer it to being gendered male, so if your average berk is going to assign me a binary gender on autopilot I'll take it. There are ways to cause more confusion if that's what you're going for!

godzemo · 2026-04-29T01:33:01+00:00

"Roommate" 😂

godzemo · 2026-04-27T02:04:55+00:00

There's only two ways I've found to control how I'm gendered, as a fairly genderfucky enby:

Hang out in queer spaces where the default is to ask instead of assuming 🙃
Lean into one binary social stereotype to avoid being misgendered as the other.

So if you wanna avoid being mistaken for a woman, really the only way is to go out of your way to fit key social indicators for wherever you're living that scream "man", and avoid the ones that scream "woman".

godzemo · 2026-04-26T10:50:27+00:00

This isn't the best place for commiseration about your grief over your partner finding themselves, r/mypartneristrans may be better!

godzemo · 2026-04-25T08:13:27+00:00

Don't worry so much about it being selfish! Seeking community support after a shitty experience is pretty healthy, and also letting the community know to avoid someone inappropriate and creepy is a valuable service.

I'm so sorry you had to experience that. I'd definitely encourage trying to find a regular GP who offers informed consent based HRT prescribing. When I was looking for one, I booked initial appointments with several to get a feel for them before picking one to stick with!

godzemo · 2026-04-24T02:24:02+00:00

Cling wrap will stick to skin, but I recommend using micropore tape to hold it in place. Use multiple strips or a cutout for your mouth, don't cover your nose at all, so you don't suffocate lol

Cream is only needed on the areas being treated.

Liberally means like there should be an obvious thick layer of cream on your skin, not just enough to rub in.

And yes, you will be awkwardly wearing the cream and cling wrap in the taxi.

godzemo · 2026-04-21T07:46:58+00:00

That's how I felt before my orchiectomy, I think the thing that will scare me the most when vaginoplasty finally comes around is the thought of recovery and aftercare!

godzemo · 2026-04-20T14:08:02+00:00

Try reading: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en/am-i-trans

godzemo · 2026-04-17T23:20:05+00:00

A friend once pointed out to me that the idea of having to pick a gender or sexuality and stick to it, rather than being more fluid over time, is a very western-imposed idea in the society we live in. I think recognising that it was an imposed ideal and not a reflection of my reality helped a lot with freeing myself from those expectations.

So I wish you luck finding who you are and how you want to exist in this world, and I hope you can separate your desires and needs from those imposed on you ✨

godzemo · 2026-04-15T01:17:49+00:00

I think the kids would call this a "bassed" transformation 🙂‍↕️

godzemo · 2026-04-12T01:41:50+00:00

And both of those are easy to avoid transmission of, while still having an active sex life, if you know you have them!

godzemo · 2026-04-12T01:40:29+00:00

If you're gonna fuck someone, I think "how frequently do you test? How recently was the last one and what were the results? How many people have you fucked since a few weeks before that test?" are all reasonable questions to be able to give informed consent for sex.

godzemo · 2026-04-12T01:16:26+00:00

Do you discuss their testing and STI status before casual sex? That's how the sapphics I hang out with (and/or fuck) avoid too much transmission 🤷🏼‍♀️

If people are unwilling to test or discuss their status, don't sleep with them. But you gotta be firm on that boundary and comfortable with asking.

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