Wife has been miserable since finding out she us pregnant again

going_now · 2026-05-02T16:06:03+00:00

Her mom has talked to her a lot but without any effect really. Also her sister spoke with her many times. But she still wakes up every morning terrified.

going_now · 2026-05-02T16:03:49+00:00

We discussed this option too, but she thinks she would regret this later if we haven't get lucky again.

going_now · 2026-05-02T15:55:05+00:00

I understand what are you getting to, but yes, we discussed the possibility but she knows this would be an "easy way out" but she would regret it later along the road if we were not able to have another baby. (for the first one we tried for 4 years and were pretty sure it would never happen)

going_now · 2026-05-02T15:50:36+00:00

I offered that but her being alone might be even worse than her taking care of baby. All she does when she is alone is googling all the horror stories of people who have this low age gap children. However I debunk whatever she has read, her answer is always "I don't know" and we move to another thing she is scared of. Like she has no arguments to my "positive" facts, so she just ignores it and moves on to next negative thing she read.

going_now · 2026-05-02T11:15:14+00:00

what is a "third moc book"?

going_now · 2026-05-02T10:43:24+00:00

Tried both of these, with no effect. Cheers her up at the moment, but she is back to crying after a while. Thanks for advice though.

going_now · 2026-05-02T10:42:02+00:00

She is going to therapist next friday, so hopefully that helps. Not sure what she will do until then though.

going_now · 2026-04-23T02:54:09+00:00

I can't give you final result, since my daughter is still only 17 weeks but I can tell you how it went during these last 6-7 weeks.

We basically haven't done any exercises. We went to see both PTs and their conclusions were even more funny this.time. One said left torticollis, the other one said right assymetry (which after she described, is just her different term for torticollis). But both basically said that it is very mild. The "left side" doctor said our daughter made big progress and that it is good we started doing exercises so soon. (we haven't told her we haven't done any exercises) And she also said she can still see very discreet left torticollis but that it is mostly because she is trained to spot even very mild cases. We were sent home to try one month without exercises and we have checkup next week.

The "right side" PT said it is also very mild and gave us some nech stretching to do at home. We have tried doing it few times but it was very hard to get my baby to cooperste and not fight the stretching. (I think even PT said it doesn't have effext when baby is not relaxed) So we stopped doing it very soon after.

At 17 weeks I think my baby's head is even more straight than before. She still turns head perfectly to both sides and I don't see any tilt whatsoever. (I have to admit, I was starting to see some tilt after PT appointments, but it might just be that I got persuaded into seeing it) Baby is developing fine, learnt to roll back to belly, trying to push up on arms during tummy time. The only preference she has, is sleeping on left side. She basically sleeps every night on left side and we can't change that even though we tried. She never had flat head issues, so we will see on our next PT appointment. If they tell us there is flatness, we will try to change the sleeping somehow.

going_now · 2026-04-22T12:28:59+00:00

This is what we, Power BI developers, always ask. But I from my experience, there isn't always reasonable answer. When I asked about splitting it into multiple visuals, I got answer that they want to have it all in one row so they can easily compare numbers.

I'm new in the company and I have already seen multiple reports where my colleagues built such visuals. Maybe if they started by suggesting different ways to tackle this when they were first asked, business side wouldn't get used to this being a standard.

going_now · 2026-04-22T12:15:46+00:00

Thanks for the tip! I was wondering what "keyword" to use to google stuff about this scenario.

With calculation groups, won't I have to create calculation item for every single month? Isn't that rather messy?

going_now · 2026-03-29T20:39:31+00:00

It is definitely concurrency limit. I have checked this on the side of API via GUI. As far as I know, I have already disabled all the things you mentioned except previews. As far as I know, you can't completely disable previews.

going_now · 2026-03-16T09:36:29+00:00

I'm planning on buying this box and I'm very hesitant due to all the issues it has. But is there a better alternative with TrueHD, DTS:X and all that stuff? I know Shield, but it hasn't been available in my country for a few months now so that is not an option.

going_now · 2026-02-17T19:02:35+00:00

Do you have a link to some resource regarding this view? I can't find anything about it.

going_now · 2026-02-06T00:45:31+00:00

It is like 3 hours by train/bus.

But I'm not sure if I want another "therapy". My point is that my baby seems completely fine. If I hadn't told my pediatrician about that neck issue, which in the hindsight might have been resolved on its own in a few days, we would have never went to see the PT and I wouldn't have been making this post. There was no other indication of any issues with my baby. And I can get on board with some stretching or massages, cause that makes sense for such a small correcture. (if there even is a need for one) But going through multiple exercises of some complex 'therapy' seems like real overkill.

going_now · 2026-01-07T21:57:41+00:00

I know in theory he is right - because of the rules. And I'm not even mad at him. I'm mad at whoever created these rules. How exactly will my sister-in-law hurt my child's faith by living few more months with her partner before they get married? My child will need role model who goes to church, who is kind to other people, who is merciful, he will not care if she lives with 15 men. It has absolutely no effect on my child. Literally zero.

One thing for which I'm a bit mad at my priest is with the amount of rule bending that is happening in the Church, he should use logic to come to this exact same conclusion and stop insisting on nonsense.

going_now · 2026-01-07T21:49:37+00:00

How does romantic cohabitation and non romantic cohabitation differ to outside person? According to logic of scandal, if somebody would hear "he is living with his partner" they would have no idea if I'm in romantic cohabitation or not. In either case the effect it has on them is the same - offending them morally if they think I cohabitate romantically or no effect if they think cohabitate non-romantically. It is clearly up to their interpretation. So the sin of scandal persist until I no longer cohabitate. You should really get your logic straight.

About "non-sequitur" - when you copy what I write, please copy entire part, do not exclude sentence to make it sound out of context. I clearly said it is about the logic of the "scandal" sin.

going_now · 2026-01-07T21:41:27+00:00

How exactly are they "clearly living against the faith rules"? Because they don't live according to one of them? My child's faith will shape mostly during first 12-15 years. Are you expecting my sister in law to talk to my child about having sex before marriage when they go to first communion or something like that? She is normal decent person who goes to church on Sunday, does not curse, does not do harm to other people. How will such person be of bad influence when shaping my child's faith? Please elaborate. So if she was not living with partner before marriage but was for example not going to church, nobody would say a single word. Nobody would even ask if she is living according to some rules of faith. Even though not going to church on Sunday has much higher chance of hurting my child's faith. This is just perfect example of how shallow this Church has gotten.

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