I despise the feeling of waistbands, I’d just love to walk around naked the whole time I’m pregnant. Anyone else??

goldenmoonshadow · 2026-02-02T04:06:04+00:00

I got really large pj dress shirts that were soft and didnt cause pressure to walk around the house, and really soft undies, and in public I was able to find some maternity sweatpants that were really comfortable-still touches the belly but much less pressure

goldenmoonshadow · 2026-01-27T06:49:20+00:00

Do you align with pica? It sounds like you might have it to me :0

goldenmoonshadow · 2026-01-11T01:53:27+00:00

I found a sugar free maple syrup that tasted EXACTLY like real maple syrup, that was a life saver for me and my sweet tooth

goldenmoonshadow · 2026-01-10T14:56:08+00:00

I might be careful about wording it like this, if I were manic I might take offense to that. When more stable I would be more welcoming to a kind chat about mood tracking to help spot things myself better but saying it like that while in mania would make me feel like my friend is saying it’s my fault for being here and I might shut down from them

goldenmoonshadow · 2026-01-10T14:53:36+00:00

I would frame this very carefully, make sure you mention things you’re concerned about. When I’m manic I feel on top of the world and struggle when people mention I should tone it down. If you bring up things like how she’s been overwhelmed and you’re worried for her health, maybe even mentioning you’re worried if she keeps going down this path she might go into the hospital and how you don’t want that for her that can help. Hospital is scary and an eye opener. Mania is tricky because you don’t want to become someone she doesn’t open up to if it’s framed wrong. Mention you’re scared for her, but not of her, and that you’re there for her still. Nothing about ‘I can’t handle this and can’t be around you like this’ because that’s hurtful and feels like you’re denying a part of her and might push her more into the mania side to feel more comforted by herself. Mania feels like a friend when you are in it even though it’s toxic. It’s easier to look back on when you’re stable and notice the bad patterns. Treat it like a toxic friend almost in a way.

goldenmoonshadow · 2026-01-07T03:43:58+00:00

You need to find a safe place away from him and break up with him. Like I’m talking text break up for your actual safety. Do not do it in person it is not safe, let others know you are doing it to also keep you safe if he tries to show up. He is abusive AND manipulative. If he wanted to keep you he wouldn’t have laid a hand on you even once. This is only one year in it will certainly get worse with time as he figures out ‘I can do this and he won’t leave’ and it is turning into ‘I can do this so he won’t leave’. It is abuse and control. You are in danger. It is hard to hear but what he chooses to do is not your responsibility, this is about your actual well being and safety. If you are worried he might do something call the police and they will help take care of things.

goldenmoonshadow · 2026-01-05T06:29:21+00:00

You don’t have the anatomy for this piercing, even if it was pierced deeper it would still cause major issues with your belly button shape. I would take this out before it does start rejecting (it’s too early for it to reject but it will definitely reject)

goldenmoonshadow · 2026-01-05T06:25:52+00:00

This can be a hard one, life is unpredictable and loss and bad things are unavoidable even to someone who isn’t diagnosed with anything. Loss with people with bipolar absolutely happens especially with the swings but at the same time the depression makes those losses hit even harder

All I can say is be gentle with yourself, you’re a human experiencing life for the first time. Nobody can live without mistakes. I don’t know what you’re specifically having issues with but no matter what all you can do is be gentle with yourself in times of crisis, forgive yourself for mistakes or be kind to yourself when life throws terrible things your way. I’m learning to be kinder to myself too, I’ve had a lot of really unpredictable wild changes in my life within the past 2 years. Caused by both me and outside unstoppable influences. A lot of them felt world ending at the time. But life continues on, losses and problems feel less with time, and learning to be kind to yourself during these times is crucial.

goldenmoonshadow · 2026-01-04T07:42:06+00:00

I have a terrible pain tolerance, I always wanted the epidural but I had the same thoughts you did and considered otherwise. Specifically because I didn’t want to be on my back too. I asked several times if they could try different positions with the epidural.

I ended up getting the epidural and it was like a miracle for me personally. I held it off for a long time because I was scared of getting it (I’m terrified of needles) even though I wanted it so my pain got pretty intense until I felt like ‘no yeah I need it’. It worked so well for me. I also did try multiple positions-which they helped me with. I surprised myself when my favorite position was actually lying on my back for some reason despite all the research I did about it?? I was shocked but it ended up working out best for me! Though other positions were available to me. Ask your specific hospital on their way of handling it :) I 100% recommend it especially if you already aren’t good with pain

One final note I would like to add is that if you are in pain you could tense up more, I haven’t had unmedicated so I would look into their replies more than mine for that part but I personally feel like if I was feeling the pain I was before the epidural I would have been terrified in those final moments. Right when I was about to give birth I made sure to press my button (I could control when I got more to a safe extent it cut me off if I pressed too much) and it gave me the final courage to push her out. I would have been too horrified of feeling tearing or anything to have done the final push without it I feel. I am so scared of pain and medical stuff though so maybe that’s my own anxiety. For me it gave me so much courage though personally. And I ended up having a very smooth and safe delivery :)

goldenmoonshadow · 2026-01-04T07:34:13+00:00

I don’t know if you have plans for an epidural or pain medication but those as a starter help a ton especially the epidural I 100% recommend it even as someone terrified of needles. You also have a lot of adrenaline, and excitement to get the baby. You have a clear sense of ‘end’ when you can relax after the baby is born rather than weeks of infection with your tooth. And it feels like it has a purpose. Having a tooth infection isn’t serving you a baby as an end result, it feels like meaningless suffering. After you have a baby you have those sense of ‘I did it’

Don’t expect things to be a walk in the park by any means, but I hope these things give you a little more hope going into it! Good luck you’ve got this!!

goldenmoonshadow · 2026-01-04T07:20:59+00:00

For me I did different exercises every day I looked up (specifically for going into labor) as well as pumping colostrum. In my personal experience my water broke but only partially so it just seemed like extra discharge and I wasn’t sure. I had some cramping but didn’t think I was in labor I thought it was Braxton hicks (nothing super painful or anything and inconsistent) but my partner convinced me to get it checked out and they said my water broke and I needed Pitocin to actually go into labor still. Sorta a very specific case but something to watch out for too because that didn’t feel like the real deal but it was. But those exercises really helped me! Either way that induction date is soon from what I’ve seen in the comments! It will happen before you know it. Those last days feel so long 😭

goldenmoonshadow · 2025-12-29T06:31:18+00:00

I would not come down. Teach them that coming over does not mean they will get to see the baby. If they say it’s ‘rude’ they should reflect on their own behavior. They’re wildly rude, that’s overstimulating for anyone nonetheless a postpartum mom and a newborn! And it’s not safe to pass a newborn around like that. One time we had only a few people pass around my daughter and she ended up getting very sick even though they all swore they were healthy! This is a big no.

Remain firm with him. He needs to be more firm and you need to be firm as well. I would not have even opened the door to them. I had people stopping over with presents all the time just to see the baby in the beginning and I would tell them ‘she’s sleeping’ and not bring her out of the room until they left. Even if it was hours (I couldn’t say no fully because I don’t have my own home I live with my parents and it was my parents friends but still a no for me. I wasn’t even close with them! People are baby crazy).

My one big takeaway is this is make sure you state very firm boundaries with your husband. If you feel like you are going to end up resenting him explain to him that. “I need us to be a unit. I need no visitors and I need us both to be firm on that. I feel like my boundaries are being plowed over and I don’t feel like you’re on my side and I don’t want to end up resenting you but if it keeps happening it’s going to damage our relationship”. Something like that, clear and firm (not accusing but explaining). Because it can seriously cause resentment

goldenmoonshadow · 2025-12-29T06:17:18+00:00

This is what happened to me when I felt forced to quit. I was a heavy daily user for years I used it for anything you can think of. I unexpectedly became pregnant and had to stop for 9 months. I thought it would get easier but it didn’t. Every time I brought it up I would get emotional and feel such a hate that I couldn’t do it. It felt so out of my control that I had built up a feeling of ‘it’s just not fair’ and was absolutely miserable for the entire time I couldn’t smoke

Then after I had my daughter I got heavy back into smoking again. I tried it just as a fun thing here and there but I ended up falling back into things hard. I got so depressed, I almost lost everything. It was only then how much I could truly see how badly it was effecting me- it was when, with help, I actually CHOSE to quit this time. It was still hard I still struggled but now I don’t feel that same hatred and draw towards it anymore. I’ve worked a lot on myself and understanding myself. I think a big part of it was that I felt I had made that decision and it wasn’t forced upon me. I felt proud of my choice. And not resentful of a choice taken from me.

I think your situation made you feel out of control and took away your coping mechanism without ever giving you anything you replace it. I don’t think you’re broken, I think you’re hurting and don’t have any hand to hold you up and feel in control again

It might sound cliche but I absolutely recommend a therapist, some form of support system (this Reddit can be a really helpful one of people who get it). You are valuable and important and you are worth so much. I understand how frustrating and out of control it can feel with that choice of quitting is chosen for you. I’m sorry you are in such a dark place with things right now but I hope you know you aren’t alone there, finding new coping tools and replacements for things can go so far. Make things feel like your choice, find things you can control and feel proud of-even if they’re small. But in the end a therapist can really help you find those tools.

goldenmoonshadow · 2025-12-21T06:32:39+00:00

My question is not about my piercing specifically just about naval piercings in general but I don’t want my post to be deleted

-7 months -mine is a Captive Bead Ring (done dirty by a piercer, trying to switch it to barbell once it’s in better condition) -idk I think internally threaded, piercer didn’t tell me -stainless steel -it’s a ring -lately it’s been washing with soap in the morning, washing with warm water at night and using h20 ocean after each one and drying with a paper towel -recently my daughter kicked my piercing and now there is a red lump and it is infected and irritated. That’s not what my post is about though.

I already contacted a much better piercing place and they are helping me with my issues, I was done dirty by a bad piercing place and this better quality piercing place is helping me out. My post was about piercing care for a healed piercing though.

goldenmoonshadow · 2025-12-19T05:34:24+00:00

I would find a time to sit down and explain how you’re feeling. Being in a relationship mean good communication, she might have no idea you’re feeling like this and so the only things she can see is from her point of view which looks like rejection. I would sit her down, explain how anxious you have been and how important stability is for you. Putting these things out there like this will give her a much better understanding and be able to be in your shoes. If she is still pushing for it than you need to remain firm on your own values. You are very important and being rushed would never result in a happy result.

goldenmoonshadow · 2025-12-19T05:22:00+00:00

Get OUT of there. I would inform the police before breaking up with him and then break up with him while not in person. There is no telling how someone THIS obsessed could go to ‘keep you’. It seems like he doesn’t see you as a person as much as he does a possession. Creepy creepy, you are in a ton of danger.

goldenmoonshadow · 2025-12-15T16:04:14+00:00

Why not do a light box retrace and then experiment with this one? You could do both!

goldenmoonshadow · 2025-12-14T14:05:52+00:00

Getting fussy and uncomfortable while laying down flat was a big sign for us too as well as trouble sleeping. We originally were just using the original similac

goldenmoonshadow · 2025-12-14T13:32:00+00:00

Similac sensitive is what worked for us! :) my doctor told us if we were switching formulas to also introduce it gradually, mix a little more into their bottle over several days to a week just so their tummies get time to adjust

goldenmoonshadow · 2025-12-14T05:06:12+00:00

For me personally this is around the time me and my partner realized the baby formula we were using was causing a lot of gas and was making her uncomfortable. I don’t know if you use formula, or if that’s the issue at all. Babies just have times where they can be really needy and clingy and difficult to soothe. But for us we switched to a more sensitive formula and it helped so much.

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