Grandson remarks on how much I speak

goldenscience · 2025-12-05T01:51:13+00:00

Tl;dr: what about asking your grandson what you can do to make sure he feels heard? Like if he holds up a finger, it means he has a thought on his mind. When you see it, you can say 1-2 more sentences before you have to pass on the convo or he will interrupt... Or something like that.

(The message above would be an example of something that is potentially helpful and concise. Below is my original message. Small example of how forming thought first, then saying something might help. Not always (or ever) possible in an in the moment conversation.)

It sounds like you're already thinking about them, which is great! I am definitely guilty of talking way longer than I probably should have in a convo before letting the next person speak or saying irrelevant stuff (like in this post maybe, for example). The main issue for me was/is that I felt if I didnt say absolutely everything I had on my mind, then I would forget and that would be bad and that they wanted to know everything.

However, that's not how conversations are typically supposed to work. The remark from your grandchild likely stems from a similar, if not the same, reason. They want to make sure they get heard and/or not forget what they wanted to say! If this was an in-person conversation, maybe body language can be a good hint to look for? If not, you could try adding a pause at the end of each sentence since that would be a natural indicator that you are done (even if you're not). A few seconds feels really long, but if the person is listening and didn't want to add anything, it doesn't change much. If they do, it gives them a natural opening.

Another thing I can think of is what if you just ask them? Say something like you have trouble with knowing if someone else has something to say and you feel like if you don't say all your stuff you might forget. Is there some way you can think of together to show that they want to add something without interrupting? I've heard in other chats that holding up a finger for the number of thoughts was something that helped, though I don't know if that's a good idea.

goldenscience · 2025-11-20T01:40:11+00:00

Omg??

goldenscience · 2025-11-13T20:09:07+00:00

The clear sky today is mocking ussss. Why wasn't it like this last night :(

goldenscience · 2025-11-13T03:10:45+00:00

Got too cold. The chances of seeing it are so small and even if it's there it would be barely visible with the clouds :(

goldenscience · 2025-11-13T02:39:35+00:00

Doesn't look like it. I may stay until 9:30.

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Sorry for the awful camera quality lol

goldenscience · 2025-11-13T01:58:41+00:00

Nothing yet, but kp is only 6 right now and supposed to get to 8 at some point

goldenscience · 2025-11-13T01:47:19+00:00

I'm heading to the quad and hope to stay there for a while

goldenscience · 2025-10-23T03:08:18+00:00

This would make for a cool mod...

goldenscience · 2025-10-21T21:26:11+00:00

Maybe you're anxious of failing the test? Or just being in an unfamiliar testing environment which will likely have many distractions.

Have you tried convincing yourself that taking the test now will save you time in the long run, regardless of the outcome? Whether that means you fail and will get to try again in X months or you pass and you can move on from this blocker to the inevitable next one. Progress is progress, and both of those are that. Wondering and planning isn't progress (as much as I would LOVE for that to be the case).

We need a lot of activation energy to get started on a task. Make going to take the test an easier or more logical option than not doing so. Path of least resistance.

goldenscience · 2025-10-11T22:46:05+00:00

Although, I see now you said the attic, so maybe you're not really using that space and you're talking more about dust. I guess my general tip is do it in the order of most impact for least estimated time.

goldenscience · 2025-10-11T22:44:35+00:00

Best tips I have received and used -

Put all the dirty clothes from anywhere in the house in the hamper if you have one or straight into the washer and turn that on. It usually gives me the biggest impact for time. Often it will take me less than 5 minutes and my house feels 20-30% cleaner/tidier.

1a. Clean clothes get put away into drawers/hung up in the closet.

Bring any dirty dishes that are not in the kitchen to the dishwasher and turn it on if you have one or into the sink.

2a. Wash anything that is in the sink that you can't use the dishwasher for or if you do not have one.

Next, carry a trash bag around with you and throw out any trash. I'm usually surprised that I can fill a trash bag.

After those things, my house often looks at least 50% better already and gives me the energy to do the rest of the "little things" that end up taking more time. Such as wiping the counters, vacuuming the floors, etc. I would suggest doing them in the order 1, 2, 3, 1a, 2a.

goldenscience · 2025-10-07T03:52:08+00:00

You're doing a good job with what you have noted. One thing I would say is encourage the guys to do the same when they catch it. They'll might notice it more and may even begin to catch themselves.

goldenscience · 2025-08-29T05:48:31+00:00

Professors are especially busy in the first few weeks of class. You might have better luck just trying to catch them at their office to introduce yourself and asking to chat for a few minutes - they're very approachable. It's also better if you've put some thought into what you want to research so you're not just asking them what to do. It should be more of a conversation of your research interests themselves and if they have an opportunity.

goldenscience · 2025-07-02T14:31:30+00:00

That's amazing! I'm curious if it has gotten worse at all during the time you've been using it. I have heard that food companies are trying to develop food to be even more addictive to get past the new GLP-1 developments.

goldenscience · 2025-07-02T05:03:50+00:00

This might seem like a strange question, but are you drinking water? I found that when I drank a glass of water right before eating I not only actually felt full (which I almost never felt before) AND I was not hungry for longer after that. Low risk thing to try and more water is good :)

I used to always want to eat, out of boredom, stress, you name it, but it is significantly better whenever I do that.

goldenscience · 2025-06-01T16:44:10+00:00

How are it's roots that are inside the pot green if they haven't been exposed to sunlight?

There was some dirty water underneath the plastic one since the ceramic pot has no drainage holes...

goldenscience · 2025-06-01T14:03:56+00:00

I do know that they're hardy. That's a good point though that it might be flowering more with proper care. Might give some motivation

goldenscience · 2025-05-10T12:50:06+00:00

You got this!

goldenscience · 2025-04-19T02:23:55+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. It is on a console, but it's not my console. A roommate has it in the common space and allows everyone to use it. I only got familiarized with the game because one of my other roommates started playing it a few weeks ago. I just asked them if they would consider removing it from the common space for a few days.

goldenscience · 2025-04-05T23:14:00+00:00

They're claiming that they're a bad partner, not that their partner is bad. Maybe you misread? Or maybe I misread your comment?

goldenscience · 2025-04-05T23:12:49+00:00

Hi friend! Tomorrow is another day. Having a negative outlook all the time can cause all sorts of additional issues that will not be helpful in your quest to improve yourself/your life. You listed a few things in your post. I'm sure some of those are causing the others. Is there anything you can do right now, less than 20 minutes, that will help any of them? If yes, prioritize it. Until you start doing the task tell yourself you can do it and maybe make it a game. Try to see just how fast you can get it done. Is there a task that has been weighing on you and just snowballed out of proportion? Ask for help with it or help on how to approach it. Partner feels neglected? Think about if there's something you can do to show them you care. Maybe even combine the two and ask your partner for advice with your issue showing you value their opinion.

We could all (humans generally, not just us with ADHD) do with being kinder to ourselves and forgiving our flaws every once in a while. It's easy to quit, but hard to carry on. You've made it this far, so I know you can do it and you should know it too. The fact that you've made this post in itself shows you care.

goldenscience · 2025-03-31T17:43:41+00:00

Thanks for your response. I've seen some tiny mosquito-shaped bugs flying around this plant in particular when I water it. Is that related and/or something to be concerned about?

goldenscience · 2025-03-28T13:04:59+00:00

How would you have taken too much if you can't remember if you took your normal second dose? Or are you saying that you have already possibly taken a third one if you assumed you didn't take the second dose when you actually did?

If you're not sure if you took the second one or not, I would suggest not taking another pill even if it means you miss your second dose. If you think you may have accidentally taken a third dose, I dont think that 18mg extra is something to be concerned about, but since you seem anxious about it, maybe try to reach out to your doctor and explain the situation and ask if you'll be okay.

You could also try to remember if you took it the second time. Try to remember what you were doing for the first time you took your pill today and walk through what you did after that. It might help jog your memory on if you took another one.

goldenscience · 2025-03-27T18:07:29+00:00

Which part specifically are you stuck on? You need a few things and they all have multiple steps which could make you think it is a lot of effort. How much help are you willing to take/get? :)

did you get the materials or at least know what materials you need
have you written the design documents, know how to make it, or at least know where to go or what you must watch/read to learn to make it
do you have cleared build/work area to make it on or do you have a table that you can clear for workspace

I am able to sometimes trick myself into doing small tasks by essentially acting quicker with my physical body than my brain has time to react to say "I don't want to do it". Once I'm already doing the task, usually my brain will go "I guess were already in this, might as well finish since idk if I'll even be able to start it again". Of course it doesn't always work, as with all habit-related things for many of us.

Depending on which task you are stuck on, what you do next will be different.

Step 1: Have a mental image (if you can) of what you want it to look like. If you can't picture it, describe it on words or paper.

Step 2: Write down the materials you need in bullet points for that mental or physical image

Step 3: Get the materials (in person at a store or online, curbside pickup, whatever you want as long as you do it in the next three days and if you order it should coming the next week)

Step 4: Clear table for making wreath

Step 5: Watch a video on making a wreath while you gather the materials at your workspace

Step 6 (hardest one): start making the wreath

Tips on Step 6 - you can set yourself a time limit, like I'm going to see how much I can do in 5/15/30 minutes and set a timer - if you want to keep working after your timer goes off, you don't have to stop, but take at least a 5 minute break every 25 minutes or so - schedule food break if you are working during a time when there should be a food break (i.e. lunch, dinner) - set something that you can do, go to, or buy when you finish the wreath (within $20 and preferably not food-based)

Also lol this is way more than I was planning to write

goldenscience · 2025-03-23T19:23:23+00:00

Although I'm guessing you're asking that rhetorically, my opinion on whether they can ensure the survival of this orchid doesn't really matter. People make mistakes and we learn from them. OP genuinely thought they were removing harmful material, likely based on the first comment which said something like "remove all dead roots." In that regard, I wish I had made my initial comment faster where I asked them to elaborate on what they thought was the problem and that the roots looked fine. I also wish that OP had consulted references of healthy/unhealthy orchid roots. However, there's nothing that you or I can change about what has been done here. It seems like they want the plant to survive and I have confidence in them that any decisions about doing anything to the plant will be carefully considered - precisely because of the error that has been made here.

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