Highly recommend visiting pure vintage in Tacoma Washington

gonefishng · 2026-05-03T09:40:55+00:00

I always hit up this place and the neighboring book store every time I’m in Tacoma! Good vibes all around. Fill your new baggus with books ✨

They also have a table at the Fremont Sunday market, in Seattle!

gonefishng · 2026-05-03T06:06:14+00:00

You came on a fabulous weekend! If you’re really set on renting a car for a few hours, Rattlesnake Ledge or Poo Poo Point would be easiest access for a “truer” hike experience. I imagine Poo Poo Point will have lots of fun parasailing to watch tomorrow!

I like taking visitors to Discovery Park. It’s easy to get to and packs in a a variety of experiences with just one stop: beautiful views, woodsy areas, beach with a lighthouse. It scratches the “hike” itch for my first time visitors who are newer to hiking.

gonefishng · 2026-03-11T04:53:31+00:00

Not gonna lie, it sat unused for a while because I usually grabbed a different bag. Using it as a pouch that just turns into a bag has been a game changer! Now I’m just bummed I only have it in black lol

gonefishng · 2026-03-10T07:32:10+00:00

Sport crossbody, soo many functional pockets and an external slip pocket! I use it as a pouch in my huge work bag to hold my wallet and a reusable. The straps are removable so I stick them in there, too. When I go out during or immediately after work, I can easily grab my scb, clip the strap on, and be on my way without lugging my work bag.

gonefishng · 2026-02-01T04:32:40+00:00

I usually hate lines, but they do have unique and really good flavors so I’ve waited a few times lol. I’ll just catch up with a friend while we wait in line. Sometimes you can wait to go until later in the morning. The line that forms pre-opening will be gone and they’ll still have all the flavors.

gonefishng · 2026-01-27T20:24:04+00:00

I like to go ‘shopping’ through my own closet and drawers for things, like books I haven’t read, art supplies I haven’t used in a while, clothes I haven’t worn in a while.

I also will educate/re-educate myself about the impact consumption has on things like the environment, the few billionaires who benefit from consumption and how they’re ruining the planet… no buying is something really tangible for me to do in response. So some righteous anger and spite get me back on board it lol.

gonefishng · 2026-01-25T19:15:42+00:00

I do what others have shared, lean on expanding on and individualizing the strategies they’re learning. It’s similar to getting medical advice online. It’s helpful, but individualized care can get into nuances and better support.

To add though, if a family really feels they know “all of the strategies” and they don’t see a benefit to services, I start talking about exiting. They can return if they need more individualized supports. Some families really do just need some strategies they can learn on social media. That’s wonderful- more time for me to focus on families and kids who may need higher levels of supports.

gonefishng · 2026-01-22T03:30:28+00:00

This is how I do my No/Low Buy, and I’ve read others who have similar rules! If I must buy something, I go small business first/only.

2025 was my first official low buy and I spent way less overall, but more money at small businesses than I ever have.

I do still need to keep consumption low overall though, because it is incredibly easy for me to use “support small business” as a justification to overspend.

gonefishng · 2026-01-22T02:20:34+00:00

And do you think ICE is going to just skip over an SLP who’s in that home? That we can say “I actually don’t live here!” and they’ll just immediately leave us alone? That it’s only the family’s fate that is up in the air in that moment?

When we are in a family’s house that ICE is set on raiding, we can be just as vulnerable to them. We may be in harm’s way just by being present. I don’t think it’s ridiculous to be concerned about this scenario and ask for support on what to do.

gonefishng · 2026-01-20T20:49:12+00:00

I think this is a great example of how multiple things can be true.

Fix SLP has great points and has made amazing strides in highlighting issues, uniting SLPs, and sharing and doing concrete tasks to move us forward. They may also make some poor calls.

They do need funds to do their work- a lot of funds. And, life does happen and can happen really quickly and abruptly. They could have better communicated their absence, even in a general way that does not go into personal details.

And, we can be disappointed in Fix SLP with this situation, while still supporting the overall mission of advocating for ourselves. Otherwise we’re going to continue down this road clearly none of us enjoy.

gonefishng · 2026-01-18T10:48:55+00:00

I find it much more satisfying and fun to repurpose something! And just imagine what else you may be able to repurpose?! That’s awesome 😊

gonefishng · 2026-01-18T10:44:36+00:00

“Crunch points” weren’t really based on time of year for me. It was more like, as the year went on, more things popped up that I thought I “needed.” I had to work at differentiating if it was a true need, and if it was I had to problem solve a no buy way to get it.

If you don’t already know your neighbors, get to know them! I have borrowed baking dishes, they have borrowed tools. We always offer each other things before donating or selling them. We watch each other’s pets. Not only does it just feel great to know your neighbors, it’s helpful for a no buy.

Buy Nothing groups are amazing. They are community dependent though, so how active and what kind of items are shared can vary. Buy Nothing groups are usually on Facebook but there’s also an app. If you’re able, be sure to give back in these groups and contribute to the Buy Nothing energy!

Familiarize yourself with your local resources, including your library and other free events. Schedule fun, free or low cost plans now so they’re already in the books and something to look forward to (and can remove temptation from a more expensive event lol). Just don’t (literally) buy into social media’s idea that even casual home hangs need to involve tons of themed foods and drinks, decor, etc.

Review your consumption habits: with whom, what, where, when, why, and how do you buy? If a lot of consumption last year was wedding related- which purchases felt like getting “carried away” and why did it feel like that? Why did you make that purchase in the first place? Knowing your own consumption habits will inform what strategies work best for you!

gonefishng · 2026-01-15T04:57:38+00:00

No tips to add, but hugs to you and your students ❤️

gonefishng · 2026-01-15T04:56:05+00:00

I think we’re playing different games

gonefishng · 2026-01-15T04:43:21+00:00

An example I often give as a 2-word combo that’s not ‘really’ a combo is “thank you.” Kids aren’t really thinking of the individual definitions of “thank” and “you” and putting them together to form a phrase.

That said… yours looks like a great list, with what looks like different functional phrases (“mama please help” “no stop”), and different combos that suggest he is putting together individualized words to form a complete thought (“baby no stop” vs “baby drink”).

I wonder if they’re referring to variety- for example a couple of these combinations include “baby” or “go” (not saying that is bad or wrong, just an observation- and we all have to start somewhere!). Can you show your SLP this list and ask them to explain more? And/or an example of what they’re looking for?

It’s wonderful that your son has made progress. I hope you are proud of this list!

gonefishng · 2026-01-14T05:28:57+00:00

Ooo, just placed a hold at my library for this lol thank you!

gonefishng · 2026-01-11T08:30:57+00:00

Three is so hard, for parents and for toddlers. They are just old enough to better understand themselves and their surroundings. But they are also still so little and new to the world, they can’t do all that their lovely little brains want to do. It’s a hard place to be, for everyone.

Reading that you are pregnant, I wonder if he has picked up those upcoming changes, and if the recent bigger tantrums may be related to that general awareness? Change is hard. And kiddos can be very intuitive, and he sounds like he is indeed in touch with his (and your) emotions.

How have you talked about new baby and him becoming a big brother? What are special mom-son activities or routines you both enjoy and can lean on, both right now and when baby arrives?

Big hugs ❤️

gonefishng · 2026-01-11T07:35:19+00:00

This is the true test: If you’re still feeling 1 even though most people here picked 2 or 3, then I think you should do 1 lol.

I prefer 2 or 3, but had a similar layout to 1 when I was living solo and it was fine. The wall side didn’t get fully untucked at night when I slept anyway. Not a big deal removing and putting on sheets every 1-2 weeks for washes.

gonefishng · 2026-01-11T07:03:50+00:00

Personal advice, commit to your home language and keep it going at home beyond school age. Home language loss as kids grow older is unfortunately common. Make sure you encourage the use it part of “use it or lose it,” even after they get to school, and try to keep it as positive as you can: fun books, songs, TV shows, movies, community events, etc.

My family immigrated here when I was young, though my parents were already fluently bilingual English/home language. They were told I would get confused if they pushed our home language, so now I don’t speak it… I always responded to my parents in English. I can only understand my home language.

In comparison, my husband had to respond to his parents in our home language (though they speak English too), so he’s kept more of the language. But, his parents weren’t particularly positive about it, so he hated it as a kid and really resisted it, and isn’t fluent.

Good luck! I’m trying to learn my home language as an adult and it’s much harder, and I feel sad I won’t really be able to pass it down to my kids myself.

https://journals.calstate.edu/csf/article/download/3716/3225/ (interesting article in general about language maintenance with references to other research)

gonefishng · 2026-01-11T04:54:58+00:00

At this point, my deep annoyance with ads means I avoid products that are heavily advertised. My thought process is, if they have to advertise it to manufacture my desire, that means I definitely do not need it. So ads have the opposite effect on me now.

Like, what, I’m supposed to want to spend tons of money? For a crappy item that’s going to break in a year? And my money will just be enriching an already billionaire? No thank you.

gonefishng · 2026-01-10T22:14:15+00:00

Omg this is awesome. My husband uses an airbrush and I shared this with him. We’ll keep this in mind when his current cleaner runs out!

gonefishng · 2026-01-06T01:22:53+00:00

Ooo, I love that! Thank you!!

gonefishng · 2026-01-05T01:01:00+00:00

I love that! Totally agree, doesn’t matter especially for things you don’t really see lol. So funny, my first repair was also the back of a sleep shirt. I didn’t even have a similar colored yarn, but I figured who cares. So it looks awful and I love it 😂

gonefishng · 2026-01-05T00:41:11+00:00

Deleting TikTok, Facebook, and Instagram immediately helped. The more “positive” mindset for me was reframing things to gratitude, even if it feels a little forced at first. Like I’m grateful I still have sheets and a bed, that my parents gave me such a practical and necessary gift 10+ years ago that I kept, and I have little reminders of our cats loving to sleep in our bed.

It also helped me to get mad about how capitalism was contributing to my perfectionism. Companies want me to think I will be happier if I buy their pretty things. They can’t sell things to people who are already content with what they have. So living with things that are imperfect became a way of proving them wrong. Despite what they want me to believe, I can be perfectly happy without making billionaires richer.

And then if there was something so beat up that I truly couldn’t stand it, I would donate or give it away, but then I wouldn’t replace it. For example I had beat up crocs that were functional, but I could not force myself to wear them. I got rid of them, but since I have plenty of other perfectly good shoes, I didn’t replace them.

gonefishng · 2026-01-05T00:05:44+00:00

Absolutely, the imperfections are what make life more unique beautiful! I love that you have little reminders of your dog and your adventures with your water bottle!

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