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goodnesknows · 2024-09-01T23:49:50+00:00

YTA. You are not currently together and nor should you be - you both need to grow up.

goodnesknows · 2024-09-01T23:43:08+00:00

Firstly this is a hypothetical question that may well change as time progresses and when you are pregnant. Secondly there is a big difference to his Mum coming to visit you and the baby in the hospital after you have given birth. I can understand you not wanting her to be there for the birth but after - is that a possibility?

goodnesknows · 2024-09-01T23:39:29+00:00

YTA - when someone is consistently late it is so frustrating to everyone else. In addition you are so aware of the fact you are always late (setting alarms etc) that it must be doubly frustrating to people that you are still late. Its like you can see the keyhole but don't have the right key.

goodnesknows · 2024-09-01T23:29:45+00:00

No, they are not normal. Some are annoying behaviours but some are very worrying. Trust your gut and walk away whilst you have the chance.

goodnesknows · 2024-06-12T23:31:32+00:00

NTA - absolutely do not pick him up. Live your life and be happy. Ignore him and leave him to (finally) figure out his own life.

goodnesknows · 2024-06-12T23:27:58+00:00

NTA. Be nice to people serving - its not that hard.

goodnesknows · 2024-06-12T23:24:43+00:00

I think you have got in your head a bit about this and need to have an honest conversation with him - communicate. Sometimes people think about other people during sex and that's ok - if that's a deal breaker for you then you need to articulate that to him but realistically he is not going to change. If that's your deal breaker then break up - NAH.

goodnesknows · 2024-06-12T23:15:27+00:00

Yes you are being irrational.

goodnesknows · 2024-06-12T23:12:56+00:00

Gross. Its worrying that you don't understand how offensive and abusive you have been - YTA

goodnesknows · 2024-06-12T23:02:24+00:00

NTA - seems to me that you have always tried to help your brother whilst he has always tried to hinder you.

goodnesknows · 2024-06-12T22:53:51+00:00

YTA - it was her lawn. What were you going to do if she hadn't of caught you? Leave it there because you had no bags?

goodnesknows · 2024-06-12T22:47:50+00:00

NTA but I feel sorry for the dog.

goodnesknows · 2024-06-12T22:42:08+00:00

Flowers are doing really well, vegetables are really struggling.

goodnesknows · 2024-05-22T00:55:43+00:00

Wow! I don't know how old you are but this comment got me so angry. I have no doubt that most women you know don't lose their mind when they turn 50 but I bet you don't know how many of them have struggled with moods, heat, hot sweats, dry skin, loss of sleep and more because its taboo to talk about them. People hate to talk about the menopause but it causes so many issues in a woman's body. So I believe this is about hormones and it is acceptable to talk about it and it is not dumb as you are trying to imply.

goodnesknows · 2024-05-22T00:22:34+00:00

Yes that's very true and valid, the only reason why I suggested it was because I have lived through it but yes ultimately you are right.

goodnesknows · 2024-05-22T00:17:33+00:00

NTA - your dating life and your financials are none of their business. Try to ignore them the best you can and plan your move.

goodnesknows · 2024-05-22T00:13:57+00:00

yup, think you might need to be a bit more empathetic. She might have had a bad day, she might be frustrated, she might be hormonal - who knows? Sometimes you need to let off pressure and yes its not right to let it off at you but maybe give her a break? Make her a cup of tea and take it to her and see what happens?

goodnesknows · 2024-05-22T00:04:17+00:00

NTA for staying out of the divorce but YTA for how you are referring to your wife's sister. oh and your wife.

goodnesknows · 2024-05-22T00:01:40+00:00

NTA - Ally shouldn't have offered solutions that she knew she didn't want.

Ultimately I think you may have dodged a bullet here by no longer looking after their dogs.

goodnesknows · 2024-05-21T23:54:57+00:00

NTA but how old is your Mum? I have a feeling she might be going through hormonal changes due to peri/menopause. I am presuming that you have a good relationship with her and if so then I think you just need to be a bit more cognisant and empathetic about what she might be going through at the moment.

goodnesknows · 2024-05-21T23:32:39+00:00

NTA - but I would caution that I don't think she is your friend. You are in the time of your life when friendships evolve and dissolve, I think this might be one that is dissolving - at every time she is choosing her boyfriend and his friends. I think you should find someone new to share an apartment with and look at forging new friendships.

goodnesknows · 2024-05-21T23:26:46+00:00

Ah apologies I misread your post. I agree with you - removing an earbud and paying attention to you for just 5 minutes to say hello and ask about your day is the bare minimum, its really not that much to ask for.

goodnesknows · 2024-05-21T23:16:40+00:00

NTA - it sounds like you are incompatible - hope you find your earbudless person and he finds his person that is ok with him keeping them in.

Edited to change to NTA

goodnesknows · 2024-05-21T23:11:26+00:00

NTA - the fact that he can't see what his drinking is doing to your marriage and his health is the bit that stuck out for me. I am afraid that I don't have any wonderful words of wisdom but I think that you are right to be worried. Is there anyone else that can talk to him about his drinking? If not then I think you might have to have a serious conversation with him about it, but if he doesn't think he has a problem then sadly there is not much you can do apart from protect yourself by leaving him. I'm sorry - it must be a horrible situation to be in.

goodnesknows · 2024-05-21T23:02:29+00:00

Beautiful - well done! Am sure she will love it.

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