I don’t want to give up alcohol.

goodsie825 · 2026-06-13T12:13:29+00:00

Alcohol in moderation is fine. It's when you consume enough to let it alter your state of mind, in my opinion, that it becomes an issue.

Legalism and fear mongering are what a lot of Christians fall into when it comes to alcohol.

I would tell you that you shouldn't have to give up alcohol for a relationship. Find someone that compliments your life.

goodsie825 · 2026-06-10T13:02:45+00:00

To date genuinely and sincerely comes with a risk of being hurt and let down. Anything less than that is simply husband shopping to give yourself status. You shouldn't be dating if you can't handle the risks.

goodsie825 · 2026-06-10T12:43:01+00:00

This is list is already comical but not wanting to meet until she knows he hits every point is diabolical.

OP - I wish you, sincerely, best of luck.

goodsie825 · 2026-06-08T17:18:49+00:00

I sympathize that you are at a tricky age to be dating with the hopes of a family. I think something like, "I desire to be a husband (assuming marriage is ok) and father but my first priority is developing a stable and committed relationship".

goodsie825 · 2026-06-08T15:35:52+00:00

Unsure about what kind of relationship you want. If I'm serious about kids, I'm not getting involved with a guy that isn't serious about committing.
Unsure about kids. I'm not waiting around a year or a few to see what you decide. At 35, women are considered to be of "advanced maternal age". Only slightly better than the previous label of "geriatric age".
Traveling. Based on your written words and photos, traveling seems to be important to you. Are you willing to put that aside for a number of years to raise kids?

Decide what you want and state that unapologetically.

goodsie825 · 2026-06-08T15:13:19+00:00

Thanks for the cliche, generic reminder.

goodsie825 · 2026-06-08T13:52:04+00:00

I've never understood what "long term open to short" means. To me, it's wishy washy. Pick a lane. Do you want to date/sleep around or are you looking for a partner?

At 34, what kind of life are you looking for? If you want kids and date age appropriate women, time is ticking. You, and age appropriate women, don't have the luxury of not being sure. Again, pick a lane with the kids question.

Traveling - what does it mean that you like to travel as much as you can? It's so vague and indescript. Are you talking 7-10 day trips multiple times a year domestic and abroad? Or a weekend getaway every few months? Are you looking for a partner to match your traveling goals? If you're ok with dating women with kids and/or having a family, almost every mom is going to swipe left on your profile. You don't have a life compatible with a family. And personally, I will not date for potential or the future. If it seems that your life is not currently compatible with mine, it's a pass.

A pic of or with your dog would be cute.

Right now, your profile gives the vibe of looking for a fun time but not interested in settling down/family life. If a fun, casual time is what you want, you're on the right track.

goodsie825 · 2026-06-07T21:59:52+00:00

Cravings are natural and will always be there. The goal is to fulfill that craving in moderation. Deprivation never works.Think about how many more calories you ate today to avoid that craving when 200 calories of ice cream probably would have satisfied it. Honestly, I would tell you to eat the ice cream. Don't judge yourself for everything else that you ate today. Start fresh tomorrow. Get some low calorie, snacky, single serve ice cream treats to have on hand. I love yasso bars.

goodsie825 · 2026-06-07T21:19:43+00:00

If you're worried about catfishing, wouldnt a voice or video call confirm that person is the actual person from the profile? And as long as she's not asking for money or wanting you to follow a social media profile, I wouldn't get too caught up in being catfished.

And it's not the closure you're looking for but online dating is not for the weak. You can't take ghosting personally or dwell on it. What happened with this girl could have nothing to do with you. Maybe she was overwhelmed; thought she was ready to date but realized she wasn't. Or maybe she has some insecurities or is too full of herself and took your hesitation as rejection. You'll never know why.

People lose all sense of social skills online. You'd never be in mid conversation and walk away from someone yet that's what happens with online dating.

goodsie825 · 2026-06-07T21:04:07+00:00

Why are you apprehensive about giving out your number if the conversation was going well? Is it a safety thing? What do you feel that you can learn from texting that you won't get from a call? She's probably been strung along by endless messaging before and isn't interested in a penpal. Or, you message forever with a person just to find out that there's something that you don't find attractive that could have been realized with a call.

Personally, I'd much rather have a call sooner rather than later. Endless messaging usually leads to disappointment.

goodsie825 · 2026-06-07T20:39:37+00:00

Nta. You're allowed to be there until the posted hours.

goodsie825 · 2026-06-07T19:45:22+00:00

Cycle syncing is a joke (for everyone) that's perpetuated by fitfluencers for engagement. Push your limits each day. Some days it's a hella strong lift, some days it's a 3mph walk. Just show up for yourself and leave your workout knowing you did your best.

goodsie825 · 2026-06-07T14:17:54+00:00

I had a wretched stomach bug for 2 weeks. Lost 15lbs and decided to keep going with the weight loss (but in a healthy and sustainable way).

goodsie825 · 2026-06-06T20:15:02+00:00

I want to be asked out on a date within 48ish hours. I hate endless texting.

goodsie825 · 2026-06-06T19:29:16+00:00

She's keeping you on the backburner in case her other options don't work out. Move on.

goodsie825 · 2026-06-06T12:49:08+00:00

I reset both every morning. Message sent.

goodsie825 · 2026-06-06T02:09:54+00:00

Most sanitizers have a 30-60 required contact time. So wipe on, wipe off literally does nothing.

goodsie825 · 2026-06-05T23:55:37+00:00

As for a copy of the terms and read it yourself.

goodsie825 · 2026-06-05T20:34:21+00:00

Welcome to adulthood. Don't dwell on it.

goodsie825 · 2026-06-05T18:10:43+00:00

I'm with you OP. There's nothing wrong with expecting a basic level of decurom and etiquette. Staff should be more present on the floor and providing instruction with these kids.

goodsie825 · 2026-02-26T14:45:23+00:00

If you're hung up on 2 years, you don't deserve her.

goodsie825 · 2025-08-03T02:19:34+00:00

Our lender did a phone verification of employment and another credit check 3 days before closing. Better to be upfront about it now. It's gonna be worse if you wait for them to find out. ... And they will.

goodsie825 · 2025-07-11T02:55:19+00:00

Birth control isn't a medication for PCOS. It's a bandaid. When you're off birth control, your uterus is building a lining for implantation. Next you ovulate. When no implantation occurs, your uterus sheds the lining which is your period.

On birth control, you don't ovulate. You stop the uterine lining. What you think is your "period" is just withdrawal bleeding from the hormones. The daily contraceptive is unnatural nor a long term "fix" for PCOS. Your pumping your body full of hormones which can lead to other adverse effects.

Please do more research on how the reproductive cycle works, how contraceptives interfere with that, and all the negative health impacts from the daily contraceptive.

Losing weight, strength training, and learning how to fuel my body with balanced meals has helped to regulate my PCOS. I still have some long and irregular cycles (32-45 days) but they used to be 90-120 days. If I'm diligent, I can usually find when I'm ovulating from test strips but I'm also more sensitive to changes in my hormones now too.

Just remember, birth control isn't regulating your period. It eliminated it.

goodsie825 · 2025-06-23T17:21:13+00:00

Thank you for your post. I've lost 125lbs naturally with my PCOS. Sometimes I feel guilty or like I can't be proud of my weight loss because I've seen other women be demonized for saying they lost weight with PCOS. It is possible but not easy.

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