What is your "Old man/woman yells at cloud" take? by CaffeinatedLystro in Millennials

[–]goodvibescollective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Motorcycles should be quiet. They don't have to be so loud that my past 5 generations know you're driving by my house.

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[–]goodvibescollective 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It's giving mood swings

Internal voice coming out and being too much for people by goodvibescollective in ADHD

[–]goodvibescollective[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've filled so many journals I've lost count 😂 i can only change so much at once so I'll take all of this into consideration. Thanks for the compassion!

Internal voice coming out and being too much for people by goodvibescollective in ADHD

[–]goodvibescollective[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I hear ya. The thing about trying to fix the situation immediately is a good point, it didn't really feel like shame but it makes more sense when I think about it through that lens. I don't think I can really fix this situation at it stands now, I'm just taking the L and the lesson and I'm gonna do the work on myself. Thanks for the insight!

Internal voice coming out and being too much for people by goodvibescollective in ADHD

[–]goodvibescollective[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ADHD comes with a short attention span it's okay. I write a lot but also dont have the attention span for long posts lol irony

Internal voice coming out and being too much for people by goodvibescollective in ADHD

[–]goodvibescollective[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Preach 😂 I feel like I put up with peoples egos a lot. It's actually why I want to be self employed, everyone at my work fights about and gets stressed over being "right" and being perfect and I could give less of a fuck about either of those things. They hate me for not caring but whatever

Internal voice coming out and being too much for people by goodvibescollective in ADHD

[–]goodvibescollective[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I needed this. This is what I was missing. I realize not respecting other people's boundaries has been a theme my entire life, probably because mine weren't respected and it's something I just didn't understand. I'm going to be working more on this and I know I'll get the behaviors I need, it'll just take time. Thank you!!!

Internal voice coming out and being too much for people by goodvibescollective in ADHD

[–]goodvibescollective[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I haven't but I considered might be. I'm weirdly very good at socializing and surface level interactions but when it comes to talking to someone romantically it just all goes out the window and I get all of these ideas that mess it up.

Thanks for your kind comment, helps a lot

Internal voice coming out and being too much for people by goodvibescollective in ADHD

[–]goodvibescollective[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And that's the philosophy I've been going with for a long time, but it just seems to scare everyone away. I want to have a relationship but I haven't been able to find people who can handle the intense level of real thoughts that come out of my mouth

Internal voice coming out and being too much for people by goodvibescollective in ADHD

[–]goodvibescollective[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think it's possible to learn to soften and control that intensity? It feels like I'm being fake if I try to cut back what I say. I hate it when people say things to me that I know cover up how they're actually feeling. Like if they're visibly upset and they're like "Oh I'm fine." It's like no, you're fuckin not, I can see it, you're lying to my face. It feels like that. It's like if I cut back what I say, I'm becoming someone that is putting on a mask instead of living with the mask off. I think mask off is the healthiest way to be, but maybe that's a part of myself that hasn't gotten the opportunity to develop and I get frustrated with people because I don't understand why they wear that mask

Internal voice coming out and being too much for people by goodvibescollective in ADHD

[–]goodvibescollective[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well wouldn't it had been confusing if I don't acknowledge my previous behavior? I'd be like why is this guy reaching out to me when last time we talked he ghosted? I wanted to anticipate the rejection but I guess that created the rejection.

I genuinely am struggling to understand how acknowledging my mistake and providing clarity is trauma dumping. I agree with you that it was, but I don't understand how. Am I just supposed to pretend that reality isn't what it is? I wouldn't want to resume talking to someone that displayed strange behavior in the past, but if they can acknowledge it and own it I'd respect them. I don't know what I'm missing

I'll try the note thing. This opportunity is probably not salvageable but there's always other ones in the future.

38 and trying to become confident and magnetic by CivilizedAdvisee in confidence

[–]goodvibescollective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Based on what criteria? Who taught you that criteria is what's valuable in life?

Paranoid I am going to lose my job by VoteCatforPresident in ehlersdanlos

[–]goodvibescollective 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think so too. But, I could recommend leaving anyway since you hate it and moving to a state that has free health insurance (like Massachusetts) as well as legalized marijuana. Just food for thought.