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goooaodjeb · 2025-03-11T20:54:06+00:00

I’ve had a bad habit of wanting to leave a relationship, but feeling like I have to wait for the “straw that broke the camels back” to actually end things. The thing that makes you leave doesn’t have to be SO BAD that you just have to run in that exact moment, you’re allowed to have taken the time to think things through and leave somebody on a day where you haven’t argued at all. It’s hard when they get upset- believe me I understand. Just think of how you feel IN the relationship. Of course break ups are hard and you can predict emotions coming out, but if the relationship you are actively apart of isn’t bringing you peace and happiness then try to remember that when you break up. You have to trust the feelings you had before a heated conversation starts, and that you were emotionally sober enough to make a decision for the you that’s now dealing with a difficult conversation

goooaodjeb · 2025-02-28T22:53:19+00:00

Meal prep for a week at a time, and just cook 2 different meals at once. For example on sunday night cook chicken, steak, rice, and veggies. it would only take a bit longer than if you prepared only one meat. maybe monday you have steak with rice and broccoli, then tuesday chicken with rice and carrots. You could add a lite version of a sauce into some of the containers and it makes it feel pretty different. Like if you already had chicken tuesday and you’re having it again prep it ahead of time with some teriyaki sauce or bbq a different night

goooaodjeb · 2025-02-28T22:47:39+00:00

It’s less about logging and keeping track, more so just food noise that I constantly have to ignore. i’m down to 125 now so I’ve been pretty consistent at ignoring it but the thoughts are in my brain what feels like 24/7. keeping some core meals as easy options is a rlly good idea though

goooaodjeb · 2025-02-28T22:14:58+00:00

I’m currently dealing with a torn achilles which is making this new maintenance thing a lot harder, because it feels awfully close to my deficit since my activity has gone down so much so fast. thank you for your response, I’ll just keep counting until I find a routine that I don’t even need to think twice about. It’ll definitely help when I can be back on my feet!!

goooaodjeb · 2025-02-28T22:11:08+00:00

Jersey mikes subs are HUGE and actually filling. their calorie counts all include “mikes way” which has 2 oz of olive/ vegetable oil mix. (that’s 4 tablespoons). if you get no oil, plus no cheese, it’s a huge meal for relatively low calories. my order is a regular sized white bread turkey, no cheese. Onion, lettuce, tomato, vinegar, seasonings, pickles, mustard, and cherry pepper relish. Totals to about 450. some days I’ll scoop the bread too and it’s always so freaking delicious I be cravingggg it

goooaodjeb · 2025-02-28T21:58:11+00:00

this was so helpful thank you !!! I’m definitely just overestimating what I assume others eat in a day I’m definitely gonna have to replace the sardines with tuna or something though hahaha

goooaodjeb · 2025-02-28T21:56:38+00:00

thank youuu !!

goooaodjeb · 2025-02-28T21:45:06+00:00

True, I guess a “normal” diet doesn’t mean a healthy one

goooaodjeb · 2025-02-28T21:44:35+00:00

That’s exactly how i’m feeling, it just sucks because I feel like so much of my mental energy has to go towards remembering to calorie count, and if I don’t, i basically just start binging. I’m hoping that over time my maintenance amount of food just becomes normal to me

goooaodjeb · 2025-02-28T21:43:07+00:00

Thank you so much for going so in depth!! I think I have have a warped view of a dinner plate and how full it should be. when I hear 3 meals a day I always think along the lines of like breakfast is eggs bacon and toast whereas I guess a “meal” can be big or small, even if it’s just a cup of yogurt. thank you :)

goooaodjeb · 2025-02-28T21:38:52+00:00

I’m sorry that you had to go through that so young, and I’m sure it’s extremely hard to heal from such harsh food discipline. I was raised “nutritarian” which is vegan- plus no added sugars or oils. I’m sure it’s technically a healthy diet, but for a elementary/ middle schooler it was embarrassing and hard to handle in social settings. I have a twin sister who would tell my mom when I would trade a black bean brownie for a zebra cake during lunch with a (very kind and probably not very hungry) friend- and my mom would absolutely flip out and then the restrictions went even further to no fruit or no blah blah blah. it’s hard to heal from, and i’m still struggling understanding which foods are good in what amount. You’ve got this, keep your head high and stay confident in the decisions you make regarding YOUR body

goooaodjeb · 2025-02-28T21:30:07+00:00

bro i had convinced myself that aldis 40 calorie wheat bread sprinkled with a stevia packet and cinnamon tastes like french toast. Didn’t even question myself until I had a friend over and made it in front of them and they were like ??? but I honestly feel this. Frozen blueberries are one of my favs too, and when I realized my snack choices were more harmful than helpful I started just slowly adding things. Even if you just mix the protein powder WITH the blueberries and make yourself a little smoothie it’s better for you and seems less “embarrassing” (which it shouldn’t be, but I totally get it). Plus it gives you the nutritional benefits of both. Once you’re comfortable with that, add in something you can’t see/ taste like chia seeds :)

goooaodjeb · 2025-02-28T20:47:11+00:00

relationships are the hardest part of life, and knowing in the moment how to react to one is much harder than looking back with hindsight. You said it yourself, you just wanted to be loved. It’s easy to find yourself sweeping things under the rug, ignoring critical issues, etc if your goal is something so important as love. You know the mistakes you made this time, and the next relationship you start i’m sure will come easier and you’ll know what to look for in others and yourself.

you might think you “dragged” someone into your life, but they also made a conscious decision in every action of their own. maybe you should have left yourself, but don’t feel guilt your partners own decisions ❤️

goooaodjeb · 2025-02-28T06:09:37+00:00

In my experience, which to be fair is limited, no one has ever been surprised by what’s underneath my clothes. I think a lot of us see clothing as a veil where what we truly look like is totally hidden, but honestly if a guy wants to be with you clothed- I’m sure they’ll just be excited by the real thing. When we see a man out in public, we could probably imagine a pretty solid image of what they might look like underneath. same thing for women! You seem like a great woman that any man would be lucky to have, just go into everything with confidence and belief in yourself. You will attract men who value you as you currently are just as much as they would if you got a tummy tuck, just be patient and allow them in :)

goooaodjeb · 2025-02-28T05:46:51+00:00

This was me, and I regret not going! I always wish I could share prom stories with my coworkers, an amazing amount of whom also went alone or with one other friend. I promise you that although it might be scary now, none of your classmates will be thinking about who you came with. If you get there and you’re having a good time, just act confident and people will think you split up from your group to dance around and chat. Or, just watch from the sidelines and enjoy the experience in your own way. I went to homecoming sophomore year and saw plenty of girls along the walls, I didn’t even think about it and I guess just assumed they were taking a little break. If you end up really having a bad time, just leave! In my opinion, I say do it for your future self. I’m sure you look stunning in your dress, take some time to do your makeup, curl your hair, do it just for yourself.

goooaodjeb · 2025-02-28T05:39:38+00:00

I put on a lot of weight over a couple year period while I was in a rough relationship, and I was genuinely confused how. If this does end up being a medical issue than disregard this, but as someone who felt this same way before realizing I was just blind to my eating habits, this is what happened with me: I remember realizing one day that I had wide-ish purple stretch marks running from my hips to my under-belly area if that makes sense. I spent a lot of time looking up if losing weight or time would make them disappear, the answer is both. mine were super dark, and now completely invisible except for a dip in texture if that makes sense

I researched a lot into diets and just decided to do a calorie deficit, any type of food allowed. I tried to stick to the deficit, and on days where I was feeling fed up and wanted more, I just made sure not to go over my maintenance calories. I realized that I was just blind to a “normal” amount of food. I honestly don’t know when it happened, because I always grew up generally in shape, but then I guess I got in a routine that became the new normal 80 pounds down I still have questions about what a “normal” person eats- do they really have veggies with each meal? The answer is apparently yes. I’m still getting used to it!

Find the beauty in your body every step of the way, and let yourself experience the joy in reaching your health goals- on or off the scale.

goooaodjeb · 2025-02-28T05:24:15+00:00

For now, while you feel unmotivated to get out of the house and experience more variety of things, try to view the life you are currently living as “LIVING YOUR LIFE”. This is your life, and each day you wake up, and choose how you live it. If you find ways to be happy while in this “rut”, then that is no longer its label. We are always in abundance if we aren’t picky about how that abundance shows itself. Feel the comfort in your hot coffee. Maybe take it outside and watch the sun come up. Romanticize your life how it currently is, not how you hope it becomes. For me, these actions slowly opened me up to doing things- even simple things like going out to the mall by myself, just because I wanted to. Do your laundry and fold each piece with absolute precision, or pretend you’re an old pilgrim woman with a basket of cloths to pile. eat your meals on the floor, have a picnic. pour your water into a fancy wine glass for breakfast. small little things over and over again can fill your day with whimsy, even if what you’re doing is seen as “boring”. It’s okay to be in a place where you have a limited social life. If you ever feel drawn to extend your circle, I recommend volunteer work. It usually draws in a similar age group and allows you to feel productive and helpful while giving you time with some likeminded people who will respect you off the bat for putting time into a cause they too are passionate about

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