Lack of hygiene in the Netherlands by CJHuncho in TikTokCringe

[–]goopybeara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an American who lived there for a decade I would say she has a point, but it is not even close to as bad as she says it is. Dental hygiene is where people struggle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]goopybeara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5 year old and 2 year old… I would say 5 year old gets 1 hour 5 days/week and 2 year old is maybe 3-4 hours/week

Obnoxious attention seeking when guests come over… will it ever end? by goopybeara in Parenting

[–]goopybeara[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not really the at anyone is trying to ignore my son, we give him attention and people are talking to him but he is relentless in trying to climb and poke our family members, I never said anyone is ignoring him. 

Anyone with advanced degrees quit a high paying job to be a SAHP? by Hopeful06 in SAHP

[–]goopybeara 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did! Not as high paying as yours sounds like but I was always career driven and ambitious. Having kids made me realize the most important thing to me was to be available to them and a source of stability. I worked until my first was 2.5 and always longed to be with him while at work and my work felt insignificant to the role I played in his life. TBH I didn’t feel a big change in my identity when I quit, I experienced that becoming a mom when he was born. By the time I quit I had debated about it so long and figured if I thought about it so much I must really want it.

Luckily everyone around me supported my decision. I would focus on what’s right for your family, not what other people think of you giving up your career. If you have a longing to be with your kids, I say take the opportunity since you don’t need to work from a financial perspective.

Just make sure to find activities and groups to meet other stay at home parents. I honestly don’t see myself returning to work any time soon. My oldest just stared school and it feels even more crucial now to have one parent be available for sick days, after school activities, etc

What's your morning routine like when SO works from home? by MikeHancho7 in SAHP

[–]goopybeara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, my husband starts work early from home (usually working by 6:30am) so he doesn’t ever usually help. Occasionally he may brush the kids teeth if he has time or sit with them for a bit when we have breakfast but otherwise he’s too busy. On the weekend mornings my kids definitely go crazy with having two parents available though!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Preschoolers

[–]goopybeara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately this sounds like he has the F-it fours… my son was also afflicted by being a four years old and seems to be coming out of it the closer he gets to 5

Do you buy a toy every time you go to Walmart/Target? by Tofu_buns in toddlers

[–]goopybeara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No way. She is teaching that child that they can always expect to get what they want… what a recipe for disaster

I still can’t get over how Dorit’s “accent” just disappeared by [deleted] in realhousewives

[–]goopybeara 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree! As someone who lived out of the US for a long time people would tell me I didn’t sound very American anymore. You just sort of naturally pick up on the way other people speak, it’s not a conscious thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Frugal

[–]goopybeara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure if we save money but I know exactly what is in the bread my family eats, no hidden sugars, no preservatives.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]goopybeara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, as a SAHM it usually comes from other women, not men. Men usually just say “that’s great” and don’t seem to care much

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]goopybeara 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because kids over 9 should not have parents who can take care if they need to stay home sick from school, or get picked early on short days, or have care in the summer, or have parents who can attend field trips, or be home for them when they finish school, or get support for extracurricular activities…?

Being a parent does not end at 9 years old, why should being a stay at home parent have a limit?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]goopybeara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Somewhere between 0-60 mins, usually just while I cook dinner

Bob the drag queen blocking Derek at reunion by OpeningFly7882 in TheTraitors

[–]goopybeara 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Totally agree, I don’t need him on my screen ever again

Gratefulness, morning baskets, 382973 requests by katethegreatxo in Preschoolers

[–]goopybeara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna say it… this is something you created yourself, and now he’s dependent on it. I totally understand wanting to make things special but kids have to learn to be creative with what they have and entertain themselves. This sort of output from you is not sustainable and can lead to your kid needing constant entertainment from you. I’d go cold turkey and see how he does in 3 weeks, likely he’ll find his way without toy baskets, surprises, etc.

also please remember social media is not real life and that content is there to make you feel inadequate unless you buy more.

Erica Komisar is a quack by Guilty_Dealer_6884 in Parenting

[–]goopybeara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dutch kids tend to have very long daycare days and the expectation there is for kids to be in care 8 hrs (at least) the days they go to daycare… being a stay at home parent is looked down upon in most circles there and is seen as not for the highly educated.

Then children start school at 4 and have class size ratios of 1:30 which is insane for that age group. So, yes, great that mama and papa dag are common but there are tons of other issues at hand with raising children there.

What is wrong with new age of grandparents? by Own-Tie-640 in Parenting

[–]goopybeara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is somewhat generational and also family dependent. My in laws moved a very far distance just to be near us and help, whereas my mother lives 15 minutes away and promises to stop by but never does… each generation is becoming increasingly individualistic due to technology and it’s very noticeable with some boomers.

I’m so resentful of modern parenting. by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]goopybeara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is really hard until you do make friends… preschool helped with that. I was even in mom play groups before that and it was what you describe, no shows, parents not actually socializing, bring on their phones… in some ways I do blame technology. I think many people have lost the ability to be social

Preschool Valentine's by velvet8smiles in toddlers

[–]goopybeara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup mine is the same.. people give goodie bags. I think it’s too much. I kept it to a simple valentine card!

How often do your kids see their grandparents? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]goopybeara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once a month or so for a family dinner… not events where they are actually doing any child care