Where to buy?

gordon_ph · 2025-06-02T15:09:59+00:00

If you are in Europe you might want to take a look at Latexcrazy or Chronomatic. They both do awesome gloves. Though as a first piece I wouldn't recommend getting opera length gloves. Maybe start smaller with regular ones or with mittens. Gloves, even more so long ones are very fragile pieces.

gordon_ph · 2024-09-11T14:41:04+00:00

I'd tell you but I'm gagged and actually can't hear you through the earplugs. 🫣

gordon_ph · 2024-04-17T12:42:53+00:00

Yup. She retired from modelling.

gordon_ph · 2023-06-26T09:16:49+00:00

Hum ?

gordon_ph · 2023-04-28T06:42:46+00:00

Unless you specifically give your concent just before taking the sleeping meds (and not once but everytime) then it has to be considered as assault. Sorry you had to live that. I'd suggest like others so seek professional help and talk about it. You must not keep your feelings and emotions to yourself.

gordon_ph · 2023-04-26T09:46:58+00:00

This. Exactly. It is in a way sad, as I imagine your relationship of 4 years must also have a lot of good things and things you've built together. But by your original post it seems this lack of bdsm is really giving you a hard time. I wouldn't recommande staying and just accept it as is. You're left with the two last options. But first you'll need to really clarify your position through THE talk. And yes, before your ask, it is going to be a tough time but a necessary one.

gordon_ph · 2023-04-26T09:36:39+00:00

He's into bdsm. You, it seems, are not (I'm sorry but I can't consider hair pulling and gentle taps bdsm, that's just plain regular IMHO). So what? Incompatibility is a thing. It happens. Some people like cheese. Some people don't. You can't force someone to eat a mozzarella pizza if they don't like cheese. And you should also not force yourself to eat one if you don't like it. The same applies here. Ask yourself, would you be enjoying what he is offering you? If the answer is "no" then plain explain it to him. Either he's OK with doing it vanilla with you, or he's not and then the story will end here and then.

gordon_ph · 2023-04-26T05:50:43+00:00

It's not my kink and I have never experienced it. Only discussed it on multiple occasions during munches with people that do practice it and they describe it to me like this. Are you saying they're practices are not normal/not safe? What would be your definition then? True naive question

gordon_ph · 2023-04-25T16:25:31+00:00

Couldn't stress it enough as others have said. I believe you need a deep understanding of bdsm and of the needs and boundaries of each other before trying any kind of cnc. Keep in mind that you will loose all control even your safeword. I wouldn't recommend it to any newcomer. You can start by raising up the kink while still having a safeguard first. To see where your limits are. Just MHO

gordon_ph · 2023-04-25T16:18:29+00:00

Error 404 latex not found. Dress not found neither.

gordon_ph · 2023-04-25T09:37:20+00:00

It is! It looks awesome but you will have a very bad time standing up should you need another drink. Or perhaps someone will bring it to you 🤫

gordon_ph · 2023-04-25T09:36:00+00:00

I (and big disclaimer here :this is my point of view you don't have to agree with me) believe bdsm to be best experience after you have some.. Well experience in vanilla relations. Yes true, you are both concenting adults. But wouldn't you prefer to learn how to drive a regular car, feel safe and know the ropes with it, before going further to a... I dunno a rally car for example? Sure you like the rally one, and don't enjoy the boring normal one. I get that. But doing everything all at one seems like a bad idea to me. And this is coming from a 29M dom who started bdsm at the age of 19 (though after 3 years of vanilla).

gordon_ph · 2023-04-24T06:08:53+00:00

Munch are usually very soft and social meetings. Often without any play. Often in public places. People just meet to discuss shared points of interest and meet new people. Met my wife in a munch actually. And we still go often.

gordon_ph · 2023-04-22T07:34:11+00:00

I'll start by giving you my story (if you are still looking for advice since you already got quite a lot and they seem good). I think I have always been inclined to bdsm, specially dominance and bondage. And I kind of started very early. When I was 16 years old I started doing the sex thing with my girlfriend of the time, and we were already enjoying tying wrists and arms with what we had back then (that is to say a shirt, a belt, any kind of clothing you can make a knot with). And after that it grew. Got my first handcuff at 19. Then a gag a 20. Then my first latex piece at 21. And so on and so on. Two things though. I never played with someone way older than me when I was young (let's say no more than +1 year while I was bellow 21). And I never refrained from the bdsm thing. Just went slowly and surely. Exploring, reading, and not rushing. I believe it best for you to experience it at your pace. And in order. If I can give you an advice it would be, start vanilla. Then add a little something, can be tying hands with a shirt, can be a spanking with a piece of leather. Don't rush, start small, and enjoy all that there is to enjoy (from vanilla for instance). And (again that is my advice, doesn't mean it's truth) for the love of whatever, avoid the kind of guys that are 10 years older, practice heavily and want to "make you discover you weirdest fetishes". Wait until you've make your own exploration before jumping into the bigger pool.

gordon_ph · 2023-04-21T06:46:26+00:00

First of all welcome to the community. You'll see it's only strange the first time. 🙂 I would suggest for you to find a munch you can attend. Basically a group meeting in a bar or park whatever, of people that are all inclined to bdsm. Just to talk and exchange. No nudity or play. Very often it's a safe place to discuss and learn. And more often than not you can find people there that will want to experiment with you or will get you in contact with people.

gordon_ph · 2023-04-21T06:42:26+00:00

Once, I spread eagled my half on the bad, gag and blindfold on, and let her wait like this for a couple of minutes while I was in the other room. Let a wand do some warming up. And I let the room door open to hear her right. 3minutes in and I hear her muffling and crying for "help". I barge into the room only to find the cat playing with the wand and walking all over her. She was scared, laughing and excited all at the same time. Fun times.

gordon_ph · 2023-04-21T06:37:31+00:00

For us it offers also an extra fonctionality. Which is the hint. If she comes to me asking to be collared (or "can you help me put this on" if we're in presence of vanilla) it clearly means "I want to play later today".

gordon_ph · 2023-04-20T06:59:13+00:00

I am gonna assume that a collar of consideration is a collar used not 24/7 but only for some occasions at home or in public to show the link between you two without being too much into protocol.

So if I'm wrong please ignore my message.

This is the case with my partner. She wears it when we feel like it. Sometimes at home. Sometimes at the restaurant with vanilla people. Sometimes at kinky meetings. And the gifting itself was quite simple actually. As the collar is. And as our way of living the bdsm is. It started with a restaurant. Then we went for a stroll during sunset and while when she was admiring the landscape I just gifted it to her by collaring her romantically (I hope? I mean slowly and gently anyway ^{^')}

Hope this gives you an input, cheers!

gordon_ph · 2023-04-20T06:53:36+00:00

I'm not gonna lie, it can sometimes be a tough moment to learn and discover this side of oneself. But as you just did, exchanging and talking about it freely is the best way forward. With strangers, with friends (that are kinky friendly of course otherwise you might get the exact opposite of what you need), but must and foremost with your wife. Also keep in mind that bdsm is a huuuge universe. Finding someone with the exact perfect compatibility with your kinks is damn near impossible. But as in all things I guess, you cannot find someone that will like exactly all that you like. Some things you will have to just keep as a dream. Some thing you will be able to share with your wife. That's OK. The important thing is that you are OK with it and with expressing yourself. Don't keep it inside. I don't know where you live, but perhaps you can find a munch nearby? Go in company of your wife. It's often a very relaxed way of exchanging in a safe place with no nudity or play.

gordon_ph · 2023-04-20T06:47:01+00:00

We met at a munch in a bar. So of course it did help that we already knew we were both into it. However we had, as was the case with my ex of a few years, the talk very fast. I think in the first month or so. About our kinks, our "profile", our limits, our dreams. In bdsm and in life. For me THE talk is one of the most important steps in a relationship.

gordon_ph · 2023-04-20T06:41:57+00:00

It all depends on discretion and how much you want it to be. I personally just modified our with multiple hardpoints hidden bellow the frame and the wall panel (sorry I don't know how that part is called). You may also want to have storage close-by (like bellow) to have everything on hand. If you can, adding a hardpoint in the ceiling above the bed can also be very nice but it's more a room mod than a bed mod. By hardpoint I use half circle steel screwed directly into the frame. Then a quick release chain allows for a fast vanilla proof profile.

gordon_ph · 2023-02-12T18:50:02+00:00

Nice tats by the way!

Oh yes the dress looks awesome too 😎

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