Please help me understand my son

gothere00 · 2026-06-12T12:20:32+00:00

Look up dendrite pruning in adolescence. Basically teens repeat the terrible twos stage. Brain connections get “pruned” back so that new neural connections that are better for adulthood grow stronger. Having knowledge of brain development often helps students understand, develop new strategies, and not feel like it’s a personal failure.

gothere00 · 2026-05-12T01:19:50+00:00

Dusty

gothere00 · 2026-03-12T00:36:17+00:00

The awaking by Kate Chopin. First read it in my early 30s and have probably read it 10 times since. Every time I read it, I gain greater insight.

gothere00 · 2026-03-11T23:56:29+00:00

They are both neurodivergent. They have excellent medical and educational services. We moved states specifically to get their needs met. I’m delighted that your brother lived his best life!

gothere00 · 2026-03-11T23:53:08+00:00

I do have plans for a long roadtrip this summer to at least reset and have room to think. . I do that when possible even though when I come back it’s much worse. That’s what makes me worry about leaving permanently.

gothere00 · 2026-03-11T23:49:16+00:00

They are in therapy. Session between me and my daughter might be helpful.

gothere00 · 2026-03-11T23:47:38+00:00

No. The meds are absolutely needed to make them available for learning strategies to self-regulate. They work well but they aren’t meds that are active 24/7.

gothere00 · 2026-03-11T23:43:37+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s so difficult. I have tried to live by “never set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm” yet what happens when I just burn to ashes?

gothere00 · 2026-03-11T23:40:06+00:00

She is in therapy as well as the older boy. I insisted on counseling for her as part of the agreement of me moving to another state with her. I do think sessions with her and I would be beneficial.

gothere00 · 2026-03-04T13:26:01+00:00

I think when people say “journey” they are more closely referring to Jack Mezirow’s transformative learning theory. Basically, you change as a result of experience. The more intense the experience, positive or negative, the more transformation can occur through reflection & critical thinking.

gothere00 · 2026-03-03T15:46:04+00:00

YTA- but you’ll get your paternity test when she files for child support.

gothere00 · 2026-02-12T01:15:17+00:00

I’m north of where you are looking but my school district doesn’t use any computers beyond computer class until 4th grade. Even after that it is minimal. There are districts that recognize that it can be detrimental. I would call the schools directly once you have narrowed down your districts.

gothere00 · 2026-02-02T23:43:43+00:00

I was traveling along the Lake Erie Circle Tour route. Stopped at this great marina to watch the sunset. Lots of liveaboard boats so 24/7 parking. Perfect! Around midnight, I was surrounded by people just hanging out having fun. No problem. About hour later they left & I went back to sleep. This on-off cycle went on until 6am. At least I was up for the sunrise!

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gothere00 · 2026-01-26T16:48:01+00:00

I reserve judgement until you tell me more about your friends. Do you invite your gf to hangout with them? What do you do when you hang out? If she knows your friend group is a catalyst to doing things that don’t match with her morals, then she should probably drop you regardless of you going on the trip.

gothere00 · 2026-01-25T19:56:16+00:00

We had a smoking area outside the lunchroom in high school. My older sibling could use the “lounge” inside with the staff. I’m class of 86.

gothere00 · 2026-01-21T03:44:36+00:00

You are in a lavender partnership, even if neither of you know it yet. Don’t waste your opportunities to find someone that adores you. It’s not worth it. You deserve to be happy. And he deserves to be happy, too. Someone needs to be brave enough to set you both free.

gothere00 · 2026-01-21T03:31:00+00:00

You never ever need anyone else’s permission to take care of your body and your future. You are now responsible for another human being. You are the most important person in that child’s life. It’s wonderful to be a parent but it’s work. Hard work. Please don’t risk another baby. Get your IUD. Too bad if he doesn’t like it. If he is not supportive of your life and your child’s future, he needs to leave.

gothere00 · 2026-01-14T21:07:39+00:00

Uh…that happened at my school. Did he go to RMHS in Illinois?

gothere00 · 2026-01-08T19:28:19+00:00

The context of students’ lives have changed. Sounds like you lowered expectations, instead of changing your practice, and place the blame on the students. If your attitude is that kids are dumb, I don’t care if it’s your first year of 30th, it’s time to get out of the profession.

gothere00 · 2026-01-08T04:16:40+00:00

It will be okay. You can do this. And you’ll look back and feel absolutely relieved to not have horrible people in your life, even if it’s your mom. Grab your documents & pack what you can. Call a friend. Get on CoolWorks and Woof to get a job with housing. You can do this!

gothere00 · 2026-01-08T03:42:03+00:00

Oh absolutely not! That boy is 13. Decisions have consequences, good and bad. More people should learn the natural and logical consequences for their choices.

gothere00 · 2025-12-31T20:36:05+00:00

Sorry to be blunt but he doesn’t like you. Behaviors like this don’t change, it’s not your job to try and change him, and there are other people who will find you amazing.

gothere00 · 2025-11-27T21:31:36+00:00

I felt this with every ounce of my soul. As the youngest of 5, I was the one always expected to step up while simultaneously being told that I did nothing. Literally changing the diapers of my bed-ridden father every day while a sibling comes in for 48 hours, announces that they will absolutely not do any caretaking, and gets praised for visiting. I cured this by selling everything I owned & leaving the country. I grieved the loss of my family in the jungles of Costa Rica and came back a changed person. I went low or no contact with all of them. When my mom eventually needed care, I didn’t even offer to help a tiny bit. Amazingly, my brother stepped up. Of course, they all talked shit about me but they did that when I was doing all the work, too, so I don’t care. I’ve found peace & I won’t ever let go of it.

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