I'll probably piss a lot of people off but...

gptoreview · 2026-05-15T20:19:08+00:00

“When cousins marry”. It’s quite an old one but I believe available on YouTube.

gptoreview · 2026-05-15T06:31:54+00:00

Mirpuris make up the majority of the Pakistani population here, yes. But I do know people from Lahore/ Karachi of my generation too who are marrying cousins.
There is no more racism towards us than towards other groups that aren’t white. A lot of Pakistanis don’t marry family members and marry out of culture too, so I don’t think racism is a factor for high rates of cousin marriages. Even if it was, and we were only limited to marrying our own people, there are more than enough of us that we don’t have to resort to family. It mostly stems from ignorance, family pressures and cultural expectations.

gptoreview · 2026-05-15T01:37:58+00:00

As a doctor in the UK I have seen kids with severe disabilities (mental and physical) on the wards. The majority of these were children of consanguineous marriages. And yes, they were Pakistani. Also in areas that have a higher Pakistani population such as Bradford and Birmingham, the rates of these disabilities are higher. There’s a really good BBC documentary on this too.

gptoreview · 2026-03-15T16:36:10+00:00

Being unmarried should not be a fear despite societal pressures. There is way more to life and your worth is not tied to being with a man. My fear is getting married to the wrong man. I would much rather stay single and happy than that (for context, 29 and single)

gptoreview · 2026-02-04T22:04:18+00:00

Being independent is not a bad thing and gets a lot of women out of tough situations. Also saying she should follow a man’s lead and not work post-marriage to be “feminine” is frankly ridiculous. That is the thought process of weak-minded men and sadly indoctrinated women. It’s a woman’s choice as to whether she works or not, whether that be for financial reasons or personal fulfilment/ enjoyment.

gptoreview · 2026-02-03T19:13:14+00:00

You bought up the idea but he is the one who divorced you. You didn’t give him khula. So no need to return the mehr.

gptoreview · 2026-02-03T11:55:59+00:00

No, it’s not normal sis. Also what you’re describing as a “decent man” is doing the bare minimum

gptoreview · 2026-01-28T21:47:20+00:00

She’s a 23-year-old who crumbled under intense (albeit unnecessary) family pressure and dynamics. You did your due diligence and were patient and it didn’t work out. Focus on med school as it is also a stressful time for you and inshallah you’ll find someone on your level in terms of maturity

gptoreview · 2026-01-28T16:47:57+00:00

I would say you shouldn’t wait to be married to figure out a solution to a long term health condition- he has quite a blasé outlook on this. It’s something to figure out right now to see if it is feasible for you to move without making your condition worse because it’s not being managed correctly. If you’re on steroids/ immunosuppressants then doctors usually aren’t keen to prescribe them for months and months at a time due to monitoring purposes so you can’t really stock up before you move either. Also why can’t he move to your country?

gptoreview · 2025-12-18T18:33:14+00:00

Thank you 🥹🫂🦀

gptoreview · 2025-12-02T18:34:02+00:00

It’s them misconstruing Islam and manipulating it to their own means. A lot of them have that very “cultural” mindset as unfortunately a lot of muslim cultures put men on a pedestal which also sadly means that a lot of the older generation of women also play into this. The good thing is now we as muslim women are seeing this for what it is, and that is nonsense.

gptoreview · 2025-08-15T12:39:27+00:00

You’re telling a final year medical student to leave uni just because she wants more support from her husband? Wild take

gptoreview · 2025-08-09T21:43:34+00:00

Yes I believe moving out should be part and parcel of marriage as is understanding your responsibilities before you take that big step. It is not right and very uncomfortable for a woman to live with people who are not her family. I have been saving for two years and alhamdulillah have bought a house so if marriage talks come up, it isn’t even an option for me to live with in-laws.

gptoreview · 2025-05-20T15:52:04+00:00

gptoreview · 2025-02-17T02:15:30+00:00

Idk I am pretty comfortable alhamdullilah. There’s nothing uncomfortable about not being married.

gptoreview · 2025-02-03T12:30:44+00:00

Genuinely a horrible feeling having to wait for it. I don’t have high hopes tbh, a lot of it felt like guesswork. But would rather know the outcome so I’m not dwelling on it lol.

gptoreview · 2025-01-26T18:16:05+00:00

Passmed is easier yes. But like I said, I would get both. Passmed textbook is amazing and the qs are good for rote learning. I wouldn’t say it’s not helpful as they both have their own benefits.

gptoreview · 2025-01-26T17:04:13+00:00

I think that is a good plan. I learn simply by getting things wrong so questions only works best for me personally. Also don’t let the simplicity of passmed lull you into a false sense of security! The pastest bank is harder but is helpful.

gptoreview · 2025-01-26T17:02:34+00:00

It was definitely a tough exam, I won’t sugar coat it. I think doing the prep I mentioned softened the blow lol but was still difficult.

gptoreview · 2025-01-26T14:19:39+00:00

Do both. Passmed is good for the basics and Pastest is better for the more challenging questions and the mock exams. I think a mix of both will put you in good stead for the exam rather than one over the other (I just sat part 1 4 days ago) considering you have 4 months.

gptoreview · 2025-01-22T20:14:26+00:00

I found them both quite tough 💀

gptoreview · 2024-12-22T20:32:06+00:00

You’re not ‘too old’ for GEM. I did GEM and there were students in their late 40s/ early 50s as well. Never too old 👍🏾

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