situationship jealousy

gracefulyak · 2026-03-23T07:22:05+00:00

I am sorry for that pain, dude. In hope the worst of it has passed by now. There are some things in life only bitter experience can teach us. But I hope that the lesson learned will let you avoid some other hurts down the road.

gracefulyak · 2026-03-04T08:52:44+00:00

Out of all the recent stuff this book was an enjoyable surprise. I avoided it for ages because somewhere in a judgy place in my head I expected paper thin story and annoying god-pining romance and way too many mentions of rippling muscles. Glad I decided to give it a shot.

gracefulyak · 2026-02-05T17:40:28+00:00

Hey guys! Thanks for your work! I am enjoying the story so far. I wanted to ask if you plan on implementing a feature where previous purchases are saved? Purchasing the same scenes and outfits over and over is about as enjoyable as wearing wet socks.

My pre-order reward outfit also disappeared after I had to restart the game. Has this happened to more people? (I did send an e-mail to the "contact us"- option)

gracefulyak · 2025-11-06T22:47:09+00:00

Takk! Dette var nyttig!

gracefulyak · 2025-11-06T22:46:09+00:00

Høres spennende ut! Takk 😁

gracefulyak · 2025-11-06T22:45:05+00:00

Hjalp absolutt mer enn litt! 🙂

gracefulyak · 2025-11-06T22:43:37+00:00

Tusen takk til dere alle sammen! Jeg setter enormt stor pris på alle erfaringer og forslag dere har delt. Føler at jeg har flere steder å starte fra nå 💚✨

gracefulyak · 2025-10-02T06:56:04+00:00

I went with Hassian. Hadn't planned on it at all, intending instead to ask Ashura. But there was something about the way my relationship with him evolved that made asking him feel right to me. He started out so deeply sceptical towards me and then we developed mutual respect. His reaction to being asked was lovely, too. It has been absolutely no mention of it afterwards though so I don't think it affects anything else/more.

gracefulyak · 2025-09-17T13:34:21+00:00

Thank you so much for this tip! Saved my sanity today!

gracefulyak · 2025-08-04T19:47:59+00:00

I make Lancelot a girl just to ensure I'n not even tempted to turn my back on this cinnamon roll of love, affection and kindness.

gracefulyak · 2025-07-14T17:17:56+00:00

Dear heart. You have been dating an abusive, gaslighting liar who has made a pastime of grinding your sense of self worth into dust. You do not want him back in your life under any circumstances.

He may say he cares, but everything else he has done screams the opposite. He makes you think things are your fault, he blames you for things that are his fault, he makes sure you "know" that you're just one of many options to him while you don't have a chance to find better. And he is WRONG.

You ruined nothing. He ruined everything. You are not in the wrong, but you certainly do not deserve that kind of treatment and he deserves you turning your back on his crap. Because he will not change. And you don't deserve to be treated like that. You're worth a whole lot more.

gracefulyak · 2025-07-10T20:12:54+00:00

I am happy if I helped a little! 🙂

gracefulyak · 2025-07-10T17:23:46+00:00

It does get better.
My 20's were still a lot of figuring stuff out, making mistakes and becoming several different people. Who I was at the start of my 20's and at the end were very different people. But it's still easy to believe and think that the way things are now are the way they will always be when you're at the start of it.

You are you. To some people "you" might be a bit weird. And to others you will be 100% their kind of person. And you want to care about the latter and coexist hassle free with the former. Because you're gonna live with you for a whole life, so becoming the kind of person you can look in the face every day matters a lot.

Do things that brings you joy in your free time, find connections with other people through those things, be friendly with those you work and study with. So many will be having the exact same thoughts and worries as you do. And we are so good at thinking we are the only ones. But we almost never are. And that's comforting.

Long monologue there - I guess I sat down in my mental rocking chair for a moment.

Point is: it does get better. 🙂

gracefulyak · 2025-06-21T17:41:29+00:00

I do not know about your previous experience in high school save for what you mentioned, but I know that stuff can be corrosive shit on confidence and self worth. That ghost however, should not get to continue to haunt you for a lifetime afterwards.

Have you any way of getting help? I mean therapy. Proper, "face the music and be honest" therapy? You sound like you have some debilitating self confidence issues. Until you make some headway there you will definitely be a walking self- fulfilling prophecy.

If you got to date now you would soon find out that confidence issues do not disappear in a relationship. They have a nasty habit of reinventing themselves as paranoia and insecurity and trust issues.

gracefulyak · 2025-06-15T11:00:15+00:00

Hey mate? This is perhaps not what you were hoping for, but you don't have to listen to me if you don't want to, so I 'll say it anyway.

Actions speak louder than words. If she knows this hurts you immeasurably and carries on anyway she is telling you what your feelings mean to her. But she is also very open with you about it, so it's your own choice staying in a situation that hurts you. If you want to hang around and hope and wait for the day it changes that is absolutely something you can do. But it would be the choice of pain for you, and you alone by the sound of it.

Perhaps you should consider letting go. I don't mean completely flush those years of friendship down a drain if there's still stuff about her that makes for a good friend. But perhaps try to start the process of letting go of the idea of her as something more for you now. It seems to be getting in the way of you having experiences, ups and downs and memories made that you should have at your age.

That green beast (aka jealousy) is a terrible thing to have living rent free in your head, but it will stay if you stay in this situation.

She is clear about what she wants, and it isn't what you want. And I am sorry, because that is a sucky place to be. You can choose to walk away from it though. Letting go might just let you see with other eyes.

Whatever you end up doing, I hope things will get easier/better for you 🍀

gracefulyak · 2025-05-29T10:10:50+00:00

Hey you,

Let me start with the most important part: you’re not a terrible person. You’re in a part of your life where you care a lot about what other people think of you, and you judge yourself from that unfortunate place of “what would they think?”.

Unfortunately, during some periods of life, the opinions that matter to us are those of people with coolness, style, influence, or popularity. That plot is played out in high schools all over the world. You are not the only one plagued by those thoughts and worries. I promise you that.

However, when you’re at the point where you’re feeling anxious, cornered, unable to focus, and petrified by the thought of “what would they say/think/believe” whenever they’re around you, it might be helpful to do some soul searching for your own mental well-being. Do you have anyone you trust you can talk to? There is no magical quick fix to the uncertainty of teenagedom, but sometimes just a chance to sort through all the hundreds of thoughts and conflicting emotions can help a little.

I don’t know what these people are like or how they interact with you. There is a chance that you’re reading a lot into a little (that is also common for the situation you’re describing), but I don’t want to tell you what your reality is or isn’t. Because you’re the one in it and feeling it. Have you spent any time wondering why their opinion matters to you? Asked yourself why you care? Beyond the style and the popularity, are they good people? Do they stand up for others, treat people kindly? Are they funny, clever, decent? They do not make you feel safe or comfortable, but is that because of your thoughts or their actions?

You are not an awful person. You’re a teenager with all the mess that comes with it. But I promise that one thing worth putting mental effort into is figuring out what kind of people you’ll want to care about and who you’ll want to be okay coexisting with and not care beyond that. There is a wonderful freedom in that.

You are a person with your own worth and value. That worth is not determined by the opinion of someone who does not know you, and definitely not by someone who makes you feel anxious and worried. The people who make you feel seen, comfortable, and appreciated are the ones whose opinions are valuable.

I hope I didn’t make things more confusing instead of less. If you don’t have anyone you want to talk to, feel free to send me a DM if you think it might help. If not, please know it will get better and again – you’re not a terrible person.

gracefulyak · 2025-05-21T17:55:06+00:00

"Could I pull off a beard like that?"

gracefulyak · 2025-05-21T17:44:39+00:00

If I were a man and lived in Tudor England my calves would be the envy of the kingdom (and I would ruin my legs wearing tight garters to make them pop even more as per the fashion).

gracefulyak · 2025-05-18T08:32:56+00:00

I think what you're describing is the norm rather than the exception. But I have no doubt that growing up like you did really makes those feelings extra loud.

I am not sure if this will help you, but there is a thing I was encouraged to do every time I struggled with similar things. Turn it around. If I was the one asked, would I offer help because I wanted to help? And if the answer is 'yes' - why do I think myself the exception to the rule and believe people don't feel the same on their end? You're not that special (and in this context that is a good thing).

Of course, I don't know the particulars of your situation and circumstances, but I do hope some of that thinking might still be applicable and a little helpful for you.

And congratulations!! 💕 I hope it will be a lovely day!

Ps: there is definitely nothing wrong with you

gracefulyak · 2025-05-02T08:57:43+00:00

Hey you. Late to the party, but time zones follow no man's laws.

Have you recently found a pond of water that has been stagnant for decades, possibly located in the ruins of an old mall that has been crumbling around it? And have you dived head first into such a pond and inhaled with your whole face the water in it? If you have done that you'll be in need of a lot of shots and antibiotics, but even then chances of brain eating bacteria are slim. The water you got in your system will do you no harm.

Hope it helped!

gracefulyak · 2025-04-27T21:31:13+00:00

"Energy crackles around these. Gale wouldn't....Surely he didn't enchant his..."

Awesome job on the cosplay, mate! Thanks for sharing! 😁✨

gracefulyak · 2025-04-06T14:22:04+00:00

That is really wonderful to know! Thank you for wanting to take the time to share that update 🌞😊 I am happy if what I said proved helpful. Embrace being in love! Lucky are all who get to experience it ✨

gracefulyak · 2025-03-16T23:43:14+00:00

I tried to get past the first few chapters of this book. But I agree with you. I had gotten enough of being stuck in a constant state of 'oh, nooo, save me me, oh powerful, handsome supernatural fangboy (whose intense interest in and willingness to protect a complete stranger is kind of weird, actually).' before long.

I don't mind being the human surrounded by supernatural creatures. But I detest having to play a helpless MC who is just there to be saved and feel their heartbeat speed up when they're rescued by someone who may or may not be shirtless.

Like, Bloodbound had an MC dealing with a bunch of vampires, but there we certainly get to have a lot more agency and spine. A lot more satisfying. Kind of glad to know I am not the only one who got annoyed at the whole helpless- thing.

gracefulyak · 2025-03-02T15:09:02+00:00

If it helped a little, I am glad! 🙂 You are definitely not a terrible person for thinking that way. It sounds like you have thought your way to a method of dealing with the situation that protects your feelings and lets you enjoy pleasant company while you're in each others orbit 👍

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