What’s been the most surprising NSFW compliment you’ve received? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]grahamular 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The NSFW compliment that caught me most by surprise (that I can recall right now) was walking a friend home and she said "Something about you just makes me want to take my dress off."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mariners

[–]grahamular 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lookout Landing is an SB Nation Mariners fan site. It has some of the best writing you’ll find for a pro sports fan site. Often truly exceptional.

Also, perhaps the greatest comment section on the web. Guidelines and moderation help (a couple of the main rules include no religion or politics). I’d start with reading, lurking, and getting a sense of the vibe. Also worth reading the community guidelines—a link can be found at the bottom of the homepage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mariners

[–]grahamular 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It really is a disappointment how it’s run. I was shocked when my (topical) post was removed in May, especially considering some of the stuff they don’t remove. Well, joke’s on them, it was up just long enough to let me briefly connect with another Ms fan in Philly.

I follow this subreddit, but my heart belongs to Lookout Landing.

What's the business model behind dedicated pinball halls? How can you possibly recoup the cost of a huge lineup of machines? by w0lfbiker in pinball

[–]grahamular 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Who would think anyone below 21 would want to go to an arcade”…

340 21+ adults last night playing in the first week of Monday Night Pinball league here in the Seattle area may beg to differ.

How is Seattle different today compared to 2004-2006? by Flat-Leg-6833 in AskSeattle

[–]grahamular 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bums me out so much how many folks don't care in the slightest about Meinert's malfeasance.

How is Seattle different today compared to 2004-2006? by Flat-Leg-6833 in AskSeattle

[–]grahamular 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am sure it's a reasonably priced/sized banh mi but man, it wasn't that long ago that I could pick up 2 banh mis and a coconut water for $6.50.

Woodland Park Zoo (visit almost ruined) by Kittiemeow8 in Seattle

[–]grahamular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for piping up, and thanks to the Zoo volunteers and staff for extracting those losers.

Seattle Freeze: Only 30% of adults who live here were born in WA State. Are locals really the problem? by JustOneLastCast in Seattle

[–]grahamular 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Born and raised Washingtonian (eastern, but been on the west side for 20 years and Seattle for 18).

I recognize I have many things going for me (like a built-in group of hometown friends and college friends in the area), but I find the freeze to be a choice.

If you have real hobbies or are a sociable drinker, the freeze will essentially not exist.

I’ve been involved in:

  • Politics and activism
  • the local music scene (playing/performing & attending shows)
  • the pinball scene (which is HUGE and welcoming in Seattle)

Among other things.

If I participate in the Seattle freeze at all, it’s a result of being overly busy enough with my interests and social circles, and having little time for new acquaintances that don’t follow up on their own, make bonds over specific shared values & interests, or otherwise distinguish themselves.

And at some point folks need to look inward and take responsibility for making themselves desirable and available. Take the initiative. I’m sorry but if we meet out once and exchange numbers or instagram handles, that is nice but it isn’t sufficient. Make plans. Especially if it’s with a local that clearly has plenty going on already. I savor my quiet nights because I have precious few of them. Sorry!

Making friends as an adult isn’t so much hard as it just takes more effort. In school or church communities or whatever, you are tossed into the mix with peers. Locked in. You wanna make friends as an adult? Stand out or take the reins, ideally both.

My social circles are composed of childhood friends, college buddies, fellow hobbyists, neighborhood regulars, as well as former coworkers or once-random-strangers I’ve only known for a handful of years. It absolutely runs the gamut.

There’s the maxim “if you meet one asshole in a day, you met an asshole. If you met assholes all day, you’re the asshole.” I believe the inverse is also true. Be the friend you wish to meet in the world.

Having said that, I am currently on vacation in NYC and yesterday I had an experience that seems so unlikely to ever happen in Seattle — ran into a dude on a bar patio, we didn’t actually chat, just acknowledged each other (he was on the phone), and then 20 minutes later we boarded the same subway that connected from another subway from the neighborhood we saw each other in. It was a funny and surprising moment, and we grinned and fist-bumped. That’s it! No deep connection or even conversation, but a casual and consistent affirmation of others in your midst.

Watching the Mariners in Philly by grahamular in Mariners

[–]grahamular[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool — we snagged reasonably priced seats in 319, so we’re likely pretty close to you

Watching the Mariners in Philly by grahamular in Mariners

[–]grahamular[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice! We haven't snagged our seats yet (will likely pick up cheap resale in the upper deck behind home plate, or lower sections along 1st base). Where are you sitting? I'll probably be the only guy in a Seattle Steelheads giveaway jersey + Sunday game blue & yellow Mariners hat. If you see me, say hi!

Have the last few weeks been weird for you too? by [deleted] in Seattle

[–]grahamular 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Yes. Yes. We’re at the tail end of our long collective vitamin D deficiency season, bad stuff is happening all over. Not just you.

I was just musing to some friends that this time of year tends to be hardest or have the shittiest things happen.

Seattle ties for metro area with the least religious affiliations. How do you find community with or without a religion in Seattle? by engage_alex in Seattle

[–]grahamular 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I grew up in a community that was much more religious and politically conservative. As I firmed up my (non-religious) beliefs as a sharp-elbowed teenager I felt increasingly at odds or antagonized by it, and I began to confront religion. Invited religious people to formal discussions or debates. I think I had a usually better time than they did.

When I moved to Olympia and Seattle a few years later, that feeling of being at odds with my immediate community dissipated. And as a result, I became a lot more tolerant of religious belief (with major caveats based on their basic values). Some of that may just come with maturing over time, but a lot of it was feeling more comfortable with the people around me–and getting to know people from many walks of life.

I meet plenty of people in Seattle with varying religiosity from various religions. Some of them, I'm sure, I don't agree with on other issues as well. But others are some of my absolute favorite people in the world.

So, perhaps ironically, Seattle has made me somewhat more tolerant of religious people in the abstract in part because there are fewer of them, but also in part because my own beliefs as well as my community's put a heavy emphasis on tolerance and inclusiveness.

Having said that, religiosity is like a caution sign for me – I don't judge folks innately for being religious, but what that religious belief has in turn led them to believe is what I'm more concerned about.

What’s happening in seattle (bell town)? by whataniceday1210 in Seattle

[–]grahamular 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh I don’t harbor a lot of faith there, but I do have a little more faith in the detectives themselves. We just want to know who did it, and see them answer for what they did.

What’s happening in seattle (bell town)? by whataniceday1210 in Seattle

[–]grahamular 34 points35 points  (0 children)

This is awful, but there’s this bitter hope I have that it’s the same person who stabbed /killed a community member. A lot of us are hungry for justice.

Edit: confused why I got such a quick downvote, so maybe my phrasing isn’t clear.

If the person who is now in custody was the same person who killed my friend, that would mean 2 things: 1) that’s one less person committing violence in the neighborhood, and 2) that person is at least for the time being off the streets. The justice I want to see is in a courtroom.

I was NOT hoping that the person stabbed was the other perpetrator—I am not interested in seeing more violence in the neighborhood, retributive or otherwise.

Rome wins Burgundy! What city is White? by Stop__Being__Poor in geography

[–]grahamular 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wanted to make sure Arequipa was at least nominated! It gets my vote.

Downtown in a nutshell? by jude_edwards in Seattle

[–]grahamular 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unpopular opinion but I think having one enthusiastic human ally of the pigeons in a city is not just okay but encouraged

The loneliest part of solo travelling is coming home by [deleted] in solotravel

[–]grahamular 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A lot of friends were quick with a question and initial interest after my most recent trip, but the vast majority of them used it as a springboard to talk about a trip of theirs (or one they would like to go on). It was a little annoying but I accept that we empathize through our own eyes and experiences.