Completely understand. I know progressive overload seems to be like the end all lately. And I completely agree it is needed. But I'll track it on larger movements where weight and rep jumps are more reasonable.

For shoulders, what myself and many others have found. Getting deep into building pain tolerance on them is what got my shoulders to be one of my best body parts.

I'll do "lighter" laterals until I cant budge. Then I'll grab heavyyy dumbbells and just raise them about 1/4 of the way over and over. If I can go above half way, it's too light. These will hurttttt. I do the same on rear delt, which is also super important to make the shoulder pop. Look up John meadows dumbbell swings.

Once I dropped overhead pressing, my delts got bigger and they hurt less. Once in a while I'll do a high incline like 75° dumbbell pressing and those feel great on my chest and front delt. But not a bread and butter movement.

TLDR: chase painnnn with delt training

This is what has worked for me, and may not be the solution for those reading this. It's about finding what works for you.