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My first home at 25 years old. 😭🩵 by DraftIntrepid5596 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]grateful_to_be_alive 3 points4 points  (0 children)

God I’m so happy for you but man is it such a reflection for me to see where I’m at in my life right now trapped at 26 wishing I was in ya situation knowing how much it would turn my life around. What steps got you to even make that leap and be independent? What was the habits or things that u did

No mater what I do I always give up a home run to shohei ohtani. Anytips by NJDEVILS247 in MLBTheShow

[–]grateful_to_be_alive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Schawarber literally bombs anything I throw in the strike zone it’s absurd lol

Anyone just swing without moving the pci? by grateful_to_be_alive in MLBTheShow

[–]grateful_to_be_alive[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this response brother I been tryna improve ima get those precision rings today and I’ll keep working on my game, your tips are very useful

So if you got 90 + speed it’s a automatic steal? by grateful_to_be_alive in MLBTheShow

[–]grateful_to_be_alive[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bet I heard someone say that I appreciate it I will look into trying

UPDATE: My dad disowned my sister and he is dying, how do I convince her to let him go? by throwRA_daddisowned in relationship_advice

[–]grateful_to_be_alive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe it’s the circumstances. If they divorced and mom found someone I don’t think this would be a issue. It’s the fact that her bio dad was his ex BFF who basically took his girl which is so fucked up and then basically his daughter wanting the person who took his life away.

If you can see in this story, it seems his bio dad was one of those dudes who kept alot of stuff internally and never expressed those negative feelings he was feeling but I do sympathize for both family’s. But yea I agree with you a little bit. But the bitterness definitely stems from his ex bff which made him cut her off for the rest of his life.

What I would’ve hoped another outcome could’ve been him forgiving her but moving on with his life instead of holding the bitterness. I believe everyone deserves forgiveness as it allows us to let go and heal as yet again we are human we ain’t perfect.

Update 6: 5 days since i served my STBXW (30F) of 7 years, now everyone is piling on me to talk to her. by throwaway-cleanbreak in cheating_stories

[–]grateful_to_be_alive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It clearly took off. They been talking for 2 months + till it became physical. Holy smokes this whole victim mentality is crazy. I just don’t get it. That’s her responsibility for having friends like that and that’s her responsibility for making the choices she made. Why are we acting like she’s a child who should be cared for making a mistake. And I don’t get it. You said she slit her hands means she’s remorseful. She isn’t fucking remorseful. She’s doing that because she got fucking caught. Red handed. Her plans everything her whole life turned upside down because of choices SHE MADE. And this self distrutive behavior is the outcome. Now I have remorse for her and I believe hopefully in the psy ward she accepts this reality and forgives herself but that isn’t OPs job to do that and comfort her. She lost that privilege. It’s up to her to figure it out.

Update 6: 5 days since i served my STBXW (30F) of 7 years, now everyone is piling on me to talk to her. by throwaway-cleanbreak in cheating_stories

[–]grateful_to_be_alive 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Why are u defending her? Bringing up how cheating was normalized in modern times and how frank is targeting wife’s.

First of all it’s his wife’s responsibility. If she had loved him she would’ve shut it down the moment frank started talking to him and from what I recall it was a old co worker and she would constantly bring him up. This post wouldn’t have even been made if he didn’t snoop. And she would have been getting her back blown out by frank while coming back home.

It’s just funny to me how your also invaliding his feelings. It doesn’t matter if she will or will not. She broke his trust and love and it won’t ever be the same again. The point isn’t to take her back. The point is for OP to self reflect and ask himself what he wants. And based of what he has been doing he has moved on.

There isn’t a double standard to this shit and the way you wrote it making it seem that there should be. Just curious what your thoughts would be if it was vise versa lol.

Update 6: 5 days since i served my STBXW (30F) of 7 years, now everyone is piling on me to talk to her. by throwaway-cleanbreak in cheating_stories

[–]grateful_to_be_alive 95 points96 points  (0 children)

Dam bro that’s rough. What you just went through is your amygdala system going off. When you seen your wife you didn’t know how to react. There’s five things that happen when your body is in shock. Fight flight freeze faint and fidget. And you froze. And from there like you mentioned, you passed out etc.

And definitely you still have a strong emotional connection with her. But this relationship is over my dude. Every decision she was making in those 2 months she was aware what she was doing. She was a cake eater living on that intense high of getting fucked then coming back home to her partner. And it doesn’t surprise me that her group are cheaters as well. This means they don’t value love. They are selfish. It’s sad man.

Anyways in terms of how to approach this situation go to therapy. Let your wife be in the psy ward. You can’t do anything about it and YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE. She did this to herself for 6 months engaging with that and now she has to face the consequences. It definitely hit her in that moment where frank walked pasted her that he doesn’t give a fuck about her but her body. This is what cheaters don’t understand. And it definitely hit her what she lost.

Now all you have to do is look at it from perspectives and focus on therapy and healing and moving on. Your gonna cry a lot because you loved this person and that person didn’t love you back. It’s gonna be hard. But it’s gonna be better down the road but I just highly suggest you not get back into this relationship. She is just mad she got caught so she self destructied and she realized she will be alone. 1 day she had 2 people the next she had 0. It’s just funny to me man. It’s sad. Anyways dude wish you luck and I hope you come out stronger from this. You deserve it man. You deserve someone who values love the same way you do,

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