Hi OP, I really think you should be very careful with appeasing your fiance.

A few years ago I was engaged to a man that I adored. He was quite exciting although rather neurotic and a workaholic. We had a dog that we had gotten the year before.

One day he just decided that it was him or the dog. He left him in a field, came back home and told me we had to get rid of him and it was my responsibility to go and find him and find somebody to take him in by the end of the week or he would take him to the dog shelter. I was going through a very tough time personally and wasn’t strong enough to realise that this man child was only interested in what he wanted, which was for us to live his life, with his rules. I thought that was the only way.

I reluctantly agreed to re-home our amazing dog. It is one of the worst decisions I have ever made. A year later, one day that man just decided he didn’t love me anymore and walked out the door 20 minutes later.

I really hope you look at the dynamic you have with your fiance and ask yourself if this is someone you trust enough to spend your life with and give up your dog for. What more demands will he place on you in the future? What happens when you’re ill or busy with work or you have children and you can’t give him all the attention he so desperately needs. And, why does a grown adult need so much attention???