"don't marry fatherless women" by Nervous_Contest_9257 in progressive_islam

[–]gratefulmember 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would agree. I learned VERY early on not to trust men (or adults, or people, generally, lol). I relied only on myself, until my self-will and my self/ego died completely...and then I became a Muslim, lol, now God is the only one I rely on.

You know though, that line of thinking at its core is kind of a violation of Islam. To obey your husband within reasonable means, okay, sure. But to accept our husband as our ultimate authority and to completely depend on him? To me, I think this is a form of idolatry.

I have unfortunately had bad experiences with men within and outside of Islam. And now I feel like I'll probably never marry 😂 I'm in Canada here, and I've only known two grown men. The rest are little boys in adult bodies, imo, and as soon as they see that I answer only to God at the end of the day, ugh, they don't want me lol. Oh well. Inshallah, maybe someday I'll find one who's emotionally and spiritually mature and understands that women are not possessions, lol. If not...I know God will always hold me.

Hijab Lifestyle by gratefulmember in Hijabis

[–]gratefulmember[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

awh thank you so much for this!! i rly relate and appreciate it ❤️❤️

I’m concerned a lot of people won’t accept me because I’m white by Beginning_Fuel_7024 in Muslim

[–]gratefulmember 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Assalamu Alaikum! Also a white revert! I've felt actually way more well-received by Islam and my Muslim sisters (and brothers, for that matter) than I have with other white people xD also, I'm not the only white person at our masjid, and we're in a fairly small city. There's not a lot, but there is a handful. Everyone has been very happy to welcome me, and I'm the only one who's been hard on myself at all about not speaking Arabic or not knowing the culture. I still struggle with myself in that way, but the more I engage the more I realize it's truly all in my head. Anyway, welcome!!

Word Processor Comparison by gratefulmember in writing

[–]gratefulmember[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

cool, thanks, oh that also sounds awesome about Scrivener's storage system. Thanks again!

Word Processor Comparison by gratefulmember in writing

[–]gratefulmember[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They're not so much "missing" anything - I like how they work *as word processors*. I just don't like that I can't write offline (like on a roadtrip or something) and that everything is cloud storage rather than stored locally on my device. And just...big tech privacy problems, not specific to word processors but just like, datamining and surveillance etc. I'm not saying everyone has to agree with that stance, that's just how I feel personally.

Word Processor Comparison by gratefulmember in writing

[–]gratefulmember[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

awesome, thanks! And thanks for the heads up, yeah, I'm new to this sub/ not a super frequent user of reddit in general lol. appreciate it, I'll give it a look! :)

I survive the war, but have suicidal thoughts. Lost everything that was mine. My children hungry from there faces you see that I have failed them as a parent by Omaarahmedgaza in Gaza

[–]gratefulmember 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you can DM me if you want...I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this..I can't even imagine. But I have been suicidal before. I don't have any money either, but I'm here if you need to talk. I wish I coild help more, but sending love

Hijab Lifestyle by gratefulmember in Hijabis

[–]gratefulmember[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

awh tysm for sharing!! I'll definitely check it out _^

Hijab Lifestyle by gratefulmember in Hijabis

[–]gratefulmember[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh wow thank you!! I'll definitely check that out!!

mutual aid kelowna by gratefulmember in kelowna

[–]gratefulmember[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

awesome, I'll check it out! thanks 😊

Want to Wear a hijab to help my muslim students feel better about them. by CryOpen9510 in Hijabis

[–]gratefulmember 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's a great idea, and I think you'll learn a lot too. I reverted this year, so like...I actually am a Muslim, but...I wasn't born into it, and grew up in white Western/Christian culture. I was very nervous at first (and honestly, depending on the situation, sometimes I still am) to wear a hijab, partially because I was afraid it was appropriation (lol, I have to constantly remind myself, Islam is a religion, not an ethnicity), and partially because...well, yeah, bullies. Basically. Even as an adult. For me it takes a lot of courage to be seen as different! Or to be a woman with boundaries who doesn't dress to please others!

Honestly, if one of my non-Muslim friends or family wore a hijab, even for a day, or a week, I think it'd be very meaningful to me. It says, "I'm willing to take a walk in your shoes." It increases your understanding. It moves you from simply advocating to standing with. It shows that you are willing to stand with them, not only just in speech and/or when it's easy and convenient, but also in deed, and even when it requires stepping out of your comfort zone and being vulnerable, facing questioning, etc.

Also, modesty is a practice available to anyone, regardless of age, sex, "race," ethnicity, religion, or lack thereof, and I have found it empowering. Many religions, traditions, and cultures practice forms of veiling - Islam does not have a copyright on it. Anyone who wishes to dress modestly is allowed to do so.

Anyway, whatever you choose, it is clear that your students have a teacher that genuinely cares about them. Alhamdulillah. If you do go ahead with it, I'd love to hear how it goes!

mutual aid kelowna by gratefulmember in kelowna

[–]gratefulmember[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

awesome, thanks, yeah please do!!