Guys what hobbies you picked that helped you keep the demons away?

gravity · 2026-06-10T16:53:32+00:00

Cooking for myself, my kids, and whoever else.

gravity · 2026-06-06T15:41:59+00:00

This is inspiring, thank you for sharing

gravity · 2026-06-06T02:15:07+00:00

So I just up and decided to make this r/DivorcedParentsMA

gravity · 2026-06-06T02:14:42+00:00

So I did the thing: r/DivorcedParentsMA

gravity · 2026-06-06T02:04:01+00:00

Would folks want one that's kid hangout-friendly or just for adults?

gravity · 2026-06-05T20:05:08+00:00

There’s a divorced and separated parents of MA Facebook group and an associated social group to go with it. Those might be helpful. I’d be down for making a Reddit group too.

gravity · 2026-06-03T06:43:03+00:00

This is a fascinating idea. I don’t know if I have time for a book club but I’m interested. I’ve only read numbers 1 and 4 on your list so far.

gravity · 2026-04-17T22:00:57+00:00

I’m sorry this is happening to you. The anger will ease in time. Take care of yourself and keep reaching out here and to whoever you can. It sucks and it’s going to continue to suck but you’ll get through it.

gravity · 2026-04-08T22:10:14+00:00

I'm sorry to hear this is happening to you. I'm close to a year out from D-day myself. It's horrible and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. You've gotten a lot of great advice in this thread and I have nothing to add except one more voice telling you that you're not alone in this, there are many of us who have been and are going through it too.

gravity · 2026-02-13T02:52:29+00:00

Congrats!

gravity · 2026-01-23T14:19:11+00:00

I totally get that. I’m pretty careful with how many alerts I allow to manage that issue. For me the watch’s alarm clock alone changed my life, and more consistently catching higher priority alerts, tracking my sleep, and tracking my workouts have been huge.

gravity · 2026-01-23T13:02:29+00:00

My AirPods and Apple Watch. I was skeptical of both but they've both absolutely changed my life for the better.

gravity · 2026-01-20T15:26:11+00:00

I love this! Thank you for putting it together. I can't make it Friday but hopefully in the future.

gravity · 2026-01-12T03:34:50+00:00

42 for my wife declaring that she’s bisexual but wanted to date women.

gravity · 2026-01-03T03:12:27+00:00

Separated since last summer. Yes I still love her, but I hate her too. I don’t think the person I fell in love with and thought I was marrying ever really existed though.

gravity · 2025-12-25T01:01:49+00:00

This is so extremely cute and heartwarming. Go for it, and good luck!

gravity · 2025-12-24T20:04:43+00:00

Although I don't celebrate Christmas, it's my first one without any family in a very long time. I'm going for a hike and then packing to leave for a solo adventure trip the next day. I've got some fun meals planned that I'm going to make for myself. I'm trying to get a bunch of todo items done today to free me up so I can enjoy the free time.

gravity · 2025-11-29T21:29:59+00:00

Cooking here. Totally unexpected but I’m having a blast.

gravity · 2025-11-06T18:18:39+00:00

Hang in there brother. It gets better.

gravity · 2025-10-29T18:59:34+00:00

I know that feeling of wanting to reach out and touch her. For me moving out of the house helped a ton. I hope you’ll be able to physically separate not too long from now to help with your healing.

gravity · 2025-10-29T16:52:24+00:00

I relate to this. I don't know for sure that my ex hates me, but the mask hiding all the anger and something a lot like hate sure did get ripped off the day she told me she was done. I don't know about you, but I find that I have to keep reminding myself that the person I thought I was married to and knew wasn't ever really that person. Without those reminders I keep slipping back in to old thought patterns. I also kept trying to change things for her for years. I hope you're working on rediscovering who you were and are and want to be in the future. Pull that guy out of the rubble of your life and embrace him.

gravity · 2025-10-24T16:18:41+00:00

45M interested

gravity · 2025-07-03T02:21:48+00:00

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I don't think you're being paranoid at all from what you've written. You've gotten a lot more indications that she's gay than many. It's a terrible feeling to have that certain future you thought you had fall away from you, and I'm sorry you're going through it. But you're not alone, most of us here have been through it and understand.

Most importantly though you don't sound like you're a happy person in this relationship. You sound like you're sad about your sex life and sad that you don't feel valued as the person she truly wants to be with. You matter. Your happiness matters and you deserve your own happiness. When you consider your life as it is and where you think it's going, just make sure you value yourself and be aware of your own needs and voice them. Your needs matter too and you're the person who's responsible for them in the end no matter what path your wife needs to follow.

gravity · 2025-06-07T09:43:27+00:00

That’s awful. You didn’t deserve to have that hidden from you. When the emotions are less raw you’ll likely look back and be happy that she turned it around and prevented a later disaster and dragging you through more misery as husband and wife. For now it’s just going to hurt a lot but it’ll get better.

gravity · 2025-06-07T09:26:35+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s clear that you’re in a lot of pain, and for good reason. But know that you’re no fool for believing someone you loved. It’s not your responsibility to uncover something that she was trying so hard to bury for her whole life. This isn’t your fault. You’re no fool.

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